CheekY Posted December 8, 2003 Report Share Posted December 8, 2003 do you forgive easily? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nairi Posted December 8, 2003 Report Share Posted December 8, 2003 Yes. And I also forget almost instantly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted December 8, 2003 Report Share Posted December 8, 2003 Depends on the seriousness of the issue and who wronged me. If it's a minor thing that an acquaintance did, then I tend to forget easily and forgive as well, but if it repeats itself every time, I am not so quick to forgive, because of my really bad temper. Also, if it's a stranger, I almost never forgive, because when they hurt me, it's usually something big and serious, like cops attacking me for no obvious reason, etc. I never forget that, and i find it hard to forgive, because it's coupled with trauma, and it's hard to get rid of trauma once you've received it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExtraHye Posted December 8, 2003 Report Share Posted December 8, 2003 I could never hold a grudge. Life is too short to get upset like that. So I say, forgive and forget. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MosJan Posted December 8, 2003 Report Share Posted December 8, 2003 do you forgive easily? time to time i will say i forgive way to easily - but most of the time NO I dno't Forgive ever Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angel4hope Posted December 9, 2003 Report Share Posted December 9, 2003 omg i have the biggest problem with that...i cant stay mad at a person for longer than an hour...not even an hour five minutes later i forgive them...maybe thats why people take advantage of my niceness Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BitterSweet Posted December 9, 2003 Report Share Posted December 9, 2003 it really depends on what the person did. if it realllly hurt me, I might forgive, but I'd never forget. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UKGIRL28 Posted December 9, 2003 Report Share Posted December 9, 2003 i totally agree on that one, it depends on what the person did. I dont hold grudges either, i think its best to forgive and forget instead of sweeping it under the carpet and dealing with it whenever it comes up! lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Armo77 Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 Only people I forgive is 1) Family2) Friends I have known over 10 years. Life is too short to waste on people that will only bring you down and stab your back. http://www.pritchettcartoons.com/illustration/stab.gif Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrystalHye Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 It depends on what happened. I mean, you SHOULD forgive somebody if they are sorry for what they have done. If they're not sorry, then it's kind of hard to forgive them you know. Turks, for example, killed so many Armenians and STOLE our lands. They have caused so much pain to us. Do you guys think they should be forgiven? I, personally, probably would forgive them IF they show that they are sorry for what they have done and fix their mistakes. (FIRST STEP of asking for forgiveness is admiting your mistakes). Then, its up to God. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 For most things yes - I forgive, forget etc no problem...but there are sometimes things that hit me deeply for which I never forgive - or only after a long long time. I can think of several specific instances of this. One - is even not my grudge at all per - se - but my father's...and I will hold it likely intil i die - as he did...regarding his brother - who hurt him so very deeply - that he never would talk to or about him again - after they had been very close. I've had similar as well - with cousins of mine - both whom I had been very close to - one who was (and now again is) like a brother to me. I had asked him a favor - an important think that surrounded the birth of my second child. And he refused to assist - for selfish reasons. I did not talk to him for perhaps two years - when, as I said we had been very very close. Well we re now talking again - and have even taken a vacation together and see each other quite a bit - the grudge is forgotten - but I couldn't just let it go right away. And I have another cousin - who I also was once close with and whom I like very much - that i haven't talked to in several years - stricly because of the way he treated a dear friend of mine - and that when i objected and tried to talk sense into him - he ignored me. My breaking ties with him was due to my objection to his behavior and the fact that he disrespected me...though mostly the former. So for me there are things that while perhaps they are not totally unforgivable - are deeply personal enough - and I am a person of great conviction - that I cannot just brush them off lightly... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormig Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 I hold grudges dearly. I'm sure I have a memory longer than those of all the wives of some of the guys here combined! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ED Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 Forgiveness, not always leads to a harmony heeling or love, some people are just plain stupid and incapable, or don’t know how to love, so it is best to let the grudges and forgive them for what they are, wish them sayonara and move on with your life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angel4hope Posted December 12, 2003 Report Share Posted December 12, 2003 being someone who has had numerous experiences where people stab me in the back....depends on the seriousness--if you realy hurt my feelings and violate my trust--whoah buddy you should stay at least 500miles away from me---i have really bad trust issues i rarely trust anyone because there have been way too many situations where i have accepted and truasted people who have hurt me --emotionally-- but when it comes to close friends and family or small arguments or such i forget and forgive easily depending on if theperson understands what they did to hurt me---for example i could never stay mad at my best friend or family members-my brother--my brother is like my second best friend to me alot of people envy our relationship because were really cool together--i could never stay mad at him because we have been through alot together and as a family and hes always been there for me---sounds cheesy but its the truth! but as i said before if i havent known you for long and the person violated my trust or hurts my feelings--they will forever regret it---few people already have experienced the outcomes to this---hahaha i know its bad but how can you trust someone who has stabbed you in the back before--like continuing to drive a car that has left you on the road many times-you know the outcome-why risk it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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