angel4hope Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 how would you as an individual, without considering other peoples views, ...how would it be proper to tell someone you arent interested in them, when they ask you out (being of a different race) and you just are totally not interested...having nothing in common-as in ideologically...without hurting their feelings and without being fake.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 angel -- it depends on the person you're talking to, because you can't know what level of honesty/bluntness would offend them. if you're not interested, you don't have to tell them why you're not interested (especially if it's due to racial differences). you just say "sorry, i'm not interested. but i'd love to be friends with you." that's what i'd do. you're not lying if you don't say why you're not interested, so you're definitely not being "fake." and if they ask you why you're not interested, you could begin by stating that you two have nothing in common... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymouse Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 Well, I'd be as sincere as possible, "After consulting with the Magic 8 Ball, I'm afraid it said, 'Outlook Not So Good'". Thereby, you avoid hurting their feelings and simultaneously blame it all on the 8 ball. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sip Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 "I am sorry, although I am flattered, I have to decline"... or the last part could be more casual ... like "I can't". They should get the hint there ... if the question comes as to "oh why girl ..." Then the answer could me more along the lines of "I am very busy with school and have other priorities at this point" ... and if they still keep going, then you increase your level of bluntness ... and at some point you may have to say "Listen, there is NO WAY, ok?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymouse Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 To refer to the Magic 8 ball online, go to http://www.mattelgames.com/magic8/flash_index.asp Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymouse Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 "I am sorry, although I am flattered, I have to decline"... or the last part could be more casual ... like "I can't". They should get the hint there ... if the question comes as to "oh why girl ..." Then the answer could me more along the lines of "I am very busy with school and have other priorities at this point" ... and if they still keep going, then you increase your level of blutness ... and at some point you may have to say "Listen, there is NO WAY, ok?" I still consider the magic 8 ball answers to be better than yours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sip Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 I still consider the magic 8 ball answers to be better than yours. But isn't that's your answer to EVERYTHING? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nairi Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 Who cares? They're only men. Besides I don't think they'd be so hurt once you tell them the truth, beginning with the racial differences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hyebruin Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 the quickest way would be: "i'm looking to get married, so i take relationships very very VERY seriously!!!"----that will jumpstart them running like an olympic champion!!! :lol2: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angel4hope Posted January 29, 2004 Author Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 lol thats hilarious guys thanx....okie i was also thinking....i cant just use school as an excuse...because i go to school with the person...actually hes one of my discussion leaders... so go figure....and besides that...u never know what can happen...like if i do in the future have a boyfriend and were walkin around u know...and he sees..hes gonna know i wasnt being totally honest...oh god!!! i hate this craaaaaaaaaap!! seriously! y cant i be a guy?! im not ggod with these crappy things........the guys ure not interested in ask..the ones u are ...well their taken..lol hahaah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 and at some point you may have to say "Listen, there is NO WAY, ok?" EEEEK!! No matter what, I don't recommend that sentence to anyone, having been hit with it once by a girl I liked.. (she said it as soon as I told her I was interested... I'm not that thickheaded as to insist after she said no..) I don't know... Bluntness is fine with me as long as it's not about yelling at someone or sounding like it anyway. It's not fun to be yelled at, especially if this is taking place around other people... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 actually hes one of my discussion leaders... that could be problematic.. it could be counted as a conflict of interest. try to stay away from university faculty/staff as much as you can -- you don't wanna be subject to board hearings about discrimination or some such. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allarmeniangirl Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 "I am sorry, although I am flattered, I have to decline"... or the last part could be more casual ... like "I can't". They should get the hint there ... if the question comes as to "oh why girl ..." Then the answer could me more along the lines of "I am very busy with school and have other priorities at this point" ......oh my. that is exactly what i say. i also say, "i don't want a boyfriend right now." ....and at some point you may have to say "Listen, there is NO WAY, ok?"......but i never say that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymouse Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 lol thats hilarious guys thanx....okie i was also thinking....i cant just use school as an excuse...because i go to school with the person...actually hes one of my discussion leaders... so go figure....and besides that...u never know what can happen...like if i do in the future have a boyfriend and were walkin around u know...and he sees..hes gonna know i wasnt being totally honest...oh god!!! i hate this craaaaaaaaaap!! seriously! y cant i be a guy?! im not ggod with these crappy things........the guys ure not interested in ask..the ones u are ...well their taken..lol hahaah You should tell him that he reminds you of the monster in your closet and that is why the relationship will never work out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nairi Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 the quickest way would be: "i'm looking to get married, so i take relationships very very VERY seriously!!!"----that will jumpstart them running like an olympic champion!!! :lol2: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allarmeniangirl Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 lol thats hilarious guys thanx....okie i was also thinking....i cant just use school as an excuse...because i go to school with the person...actually hes one of my discussion leaders... so go figure....and besides that...u never know what can happen...like if i do in the future have a boyfriend and were walkin around u know...and he sees..hes gonna know i wasnt being totally honest...oh god!!! i hate this craaaaaaaaaap!! seriously! y cant i be a guy?! im not ggod with these crappy things........the guys ure not interested in ask..the ones u are ...well their taken..lol hahaah well, if u can't say school...u can always say, "i got a lot of stuff going on/happening with me......so i can't." i used that 1 too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 Who cares? They're only men. nairi jan, yeah, we're men, but sometimes it hurts, especially if you're in love (yes, there is something called love from a "distance" -- as long as you know a lot about the person, it's no longer a crush, it's more about love...) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angel4hope Posted January 29, 2004 Author Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 good one!! this makes it much easier 4 me..the jokes make me feel a bit at ease now.....! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anileve Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 You are a great guy and will make some girl very happy, but I don't think we have much in common and while you may argue that differences attract they will also be the main factor that break the relationship. I speak from an experience and I don't want to subject myself to the repetition. And I would really like to maintain our relationship, but on a purely platonic level. Build a strong and convincing case and he will have no choice but to agree. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymouse Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 good one!! this makes it much easier 4 me..the jokes make me feel a bit at ease now.....! Better yet tell him that he reminds you of my avatar and how bug eyed it is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Accelerated Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 "I am sorry, although I am flattered, I have to decline"... or the last part could be more casual ... like "I can't". They should get the hint there ... if the question comes as to "oh why girl ..." Then the answer could me more along the lines of "I am very busy with school and have other priorities at this point" ... and if they still keep going, then you increase your level of bluntness ... and at some point you may have to say "Listen, there is NO WAY, ok?" Ok Sip....own up.....how many times have you been told this? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angel4hope Posted January 29, 2004 Author Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 Better yet tell him that he reminds you of my avatar and how bug eyed it is. haha ure hahahalarious!!actually your avatar doesnt scare me.... its kinda beginning to grow on me u know...it has this hypnotismic effect to it...i just dunno...lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gevo27 Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 the quickest way would be: "i'm looking to get married, so i take relationships very very VERY seriously!!!"----that will jumpstart them running like an olympic champion!!! :lol2: Agh.... hye bruin speaking from the heart.. HEHE.... Well, hmmm. angel, and this was only a picnic? Just tell them what anileve said, it wont hurt there feelings, or if he sees you with another guy it wont matter.. anileve:You are a great guy and will make some girl very happy, but I don't think we have much in common and while you may argue that differences attract they will also be the main factor that break the relationship. Good one anileve.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hyebruin Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 lol thats hilarious guys thanx....okie i was also thinking....i cant just use school as an excuse...because i go to school with the person...actually hes one of my discussion leaders... so go figure....and besides that...u never know what can happen...like if i do in the future have a boyfriend and were walkin around u know...and he sees..hes gonna know i wasnt being totally honest...oh god!!! i hate this craaaaaaaaaap!! seriously! y cant i be a guy?! im not ggod with these crappy things........the guys ure not interested in ask..the ones u are ...well their taken..lol hahaah ooooh does that mean he's a t.a.??? i just find THAT sooo attractive!! just the fact that they're in a teaching role!! just makes you want them more!!! i've had a couple of cute t.a.'s..though you know the lust lasts only as long as "it's forbidden"...after the class is over....then things change a bit...and NO!!! i personally never dated any t.a.'s!!---they just were not THAT hot or normal! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sev-mard Posted January 29, 2004 Report Share Posted January 29, 2004 Blink at him and then all of a sudden say "kneres bayts angleren chem khosum. hajo, dasi g'gnumem" And never speak English to him again. Eventually he'll say, "Hey guess that cool looking foriegn chick doesn't speak English, at least I gave it shot." That gets them most(but not all) of the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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