ExtraHye Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 (edited) Which from the two is more emotionally rewarding; loving or being loved by someone, and why... Edited January 14, 2004 by ExtraHye Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasun Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 Extra jan, I always expect you to put such questions, nobody else can do it like you do My answer is "loving". Sorry can't answer "why", that's probably personal preference, its just the way people can be. There are selfish people out there who need to be loved and pleased all the time but don't feel they have to reciprocate, again could be a personal choice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ED Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 (edited) Which from the two is more emotionally rewording; loving or being loved by someone, and why... Extra jan there is an old song by nat King Cole called NATURE BOY and in it some of the lyrics are like this The greatest thing you'll ever learn Is just to love and be loved in return" check out the song I'm prety sure you'll like it cheers Edited January 13, 2004 by Edward Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExtraHye Posted January 13, 2004 Author Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 (edited) Extra jan, I always expect you to put such questions, nobody else can do it like you do Thanks Sasun jan... My answer is "loving". Sorry can't answer "why", that's probably personal preference, its just the way people can be. There are selfish people out there who need to be loved and pleased all the time but don't feel they have to reciprocate, again could be a personal choice. I agree with you, but some people don't like to be loved. I was talking to my friend about relationships last night. She stated how much it turned her off when a guy fell in love with her. That she always broke off the relationshiop as soon as the guy showed her some attantion. Now my question is, how rewarding could loving someone be if they're going to end up leaving you. Edited January 14, 2004 by ExtraHye Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExtraHye Posted January 13, 2004 Author Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 Ofcourse being loved is emotionally more rewarding because in case you LOVE someone and this person doesn`t love you back this can hurt very bad. But how would you feel if the feeling wasn't mutual? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExtraHye Posted January 13, 2004 Author Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 Extra jan there is an old song by nat King Cole called NATURE BOY Thanks Edward jan, I'll check it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maral Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 They both sound life affirming to me...and both have their benefits....but being loved seems to be more enjoyable but if you don't love that person back,well that doesn't sound so enjoyable anymore... And loving is a fabulous gift given to us...but if that person doesnt' love us back,that no fun either.... Tough question.... Can't you ask easier questions to make life easier on us??? Ok I decided we should love and be loved ,how's that??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormig Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 She stated how much it turned her off when a guy fell in love with her. That she always broke off the relationshiop as soon as the guy showed her some attantion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maral Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 Vay Edward jan,our age is showing Nature Boy (eden ahbez) There was a boy... A very strange enchanted boy. They say he wandered very far, very far Over land and sea A little shy and sad of eye But very wise was he. And then one day, One magic day he passed my way. And while we spoke of many things , Fools and kings, This he said to me, "The greatest thing you'll ever learn Is just to love and be loved in return." ~interlude~ "The greatest thing you'll ever learn Is just to love and be loved in return." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 Ofcourse being loved is emotionally more rewarding because in case you LOVE someone and this person doesn`t love you back this can hurt very bad. the first and only thing that you have ever said that i would agree with... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sev-mard Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 Loving someone else is hands down more rewarding. It's a complete feeling of emtional nakedness and vulnerablilty. People can "love" you for all kinds of different reasons, or actual not even truly love you, but be deluded. When you love someone else, regardless of how they feel(hopefully they love you back ) it is deep and moving emotion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 Loving someone else is hands down more rewarding. It's a complete feeling of emtional nakedness and vulnerablilty. People can "love" you for all kinds of different reasons, or actual not even truly love you, but be deluded. When you love someone else, regardless of how they feel(hopefully they love you back ) it is deep and moving emotion. Yeah Sev Marde...I can fully agree here as well...but unfourtunatly it can only go for so long...and once one realises they love isn't returned..well...then in some was nothing can be worse... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angel4hope Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 heyyy maral you stole my favorite quote rom my favorite movie... lol im just messing with ou guys...really bored here at class...decided to post something.. hehe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sev-mard Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 Yeah Sev Marde...I can fully agree here as well...but unfourtunatly it can only go for so long...and once one realises they love isn't returned..well...then in some was nothing can be worse... Well that's why i have the "Don't really love them till they love you" clause in my "Relationship Contract". Everybody should have one. j/k Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sip Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 Since I personally can't define love, I ran to the dictionary as usual ... love: A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness. Sounds to me like the keywords come at the end ... a sense of underlying oneness. If there is no real underlying oneness, in other words, if the love is one directional (either loving or being loved) then there can't be much emotional rewards. For "loving" to be emotionally rewarding, I think it has to be bi-directional. The loving and the being loved have to both be there ... otherwise things won't be right and there won't be that many rewards. ... so I'll have to agree with the others who have pretty much said the same thing here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExtraHye Posted January 13, 2004 Author Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 (edited) Thanks for posting the definition of love for us Sip. Your right, it's a lot more rewarding if the feeling is mutual. But life doesn't work that way, it's not that simple. This may sound negative, but one shouldn't be vulnerable to such feelings. That's why I never give my all to any guy, becuase I know it's going to end up with pain in the future. Edited January 14, 2004 by ExtraHye Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nairi Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 I agree with you, but some people don't like to be loved. I was talking to my friend about relationships last night. She stated how much it turned her off when a guy fell in love with her. That she always broke off the relationshiop as soon as the guy showed her some attantion. I totally understand this position, but potentially for different reasons. I'm a very possessive person and fear abandonment the most. When I find out a guy (that I like) likes me, I'll do anything, often unconsciously or subconsciouly, to turn him off. It's my self-defense against getting hurt and hurting. That's why I'll probably never be able to start a serious relationship again... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sev-mard Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 That's why I never give my all to any guy, becuase I know it's going to end up with pain in the future. Whoa...you sound tougher and more cynical than I do!? I got done dirty, what's your excuse? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExtraHye Posted January 13, 2004 Author Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 (edited) Whoa...you sound tougher and more cynical than I do!? I'm not so though or cynical Sev-Mard jan... It's just how I feel about love. This goes for both males and females. Love is something that takes time. I got done dirty, what's your excuse? I've never experiance love... But seen how hard it was for my friends who had broken hearts from difficult brake ups. Edited January 13, 2004 by ExtraHye Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sev-mard Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 Well I think it's good to be weary in love, but no so weary that you can't give yourself fully to it. You sound smart and aware though, so that's a good thing. I'm tough for sure, I used to be very cynical till I met the sirelli achkchik i'm with now. Life and love are both tough things, but I think with some experience we can understand and thrive with both.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angel4hope Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 (edited) love is an abstract concept and i think its different for each individual, but i myself rather have it be mutual bacause theres no point in loving someone if they dont love you back--because at that point its an obsession not love-if its love then the person would love you too--i dunno i guess im just talking outta my A**here -ive never been in love or whatever,(but i cant say id dont know what love is-you dont have to be In Love to know what love is or to comprehend it...) or had someone who was seriously in love with me-few weirdos that liked me but i dont think thats love...but hey what can i say?! Edited January 13, 2004 by angel4hope Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shiner Posted January 14, 2004 Report Share Posted January 14, 2004 I agree with you, but some people don't like to be loved. I was talking to my friend about relationships last night. She stated how much it turned her off when a guy fell in love with her. That she always broke off the relationshiop as soon as the guy showed her some attantion. Is it possible to lose interest in someone when you find out they like you just because you know you can have them? Like the thrill disappears along with conquering the challenge of getting them to like you. Have you guys had this happen? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gevo27 Posted January 14, 2004 Report Share Posted January 14, 2004 right on Angel jan,, yes ey ousum assem etence... I dont think i can (or should) distiinguish one from the other, they shuold be interlrelational.. Love and be loved.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hyebruin Posted January 14, 2004 Report Share Posted January 14, 2004 I agree with you, but some people don't like to be loved. I was talking to my friend about relationships last night. She stated how much it turned her off when a guy fell in love with her. That she always broke off the relationshiop as soon as the guy showed her some attantion. Now my question is, how rewording could loving someone be if they're going to end up leaving you. extra i have to disagree with you on that one!! the reason people only seem to "not like being loved" is because they don't feel that they deserve it deep down! it's sad but think about it!! everyone holds something called their "personal truth"---it's so strong that i dare to say that it is almost interwoven into our DNA!!---it's how we feel about the world, but more importantly how we feel about ourselves and how much we value our self and our being!!---someone who feels uncomfortable with love has either not known how to show or express it or has been told or learned (all unconsciously pretty much) that they do not deserve such a blessing--- i think your friend runs away for the same reason that many guys do! she's afraid of getting attached to the guy and start developing strong feelings....the only other reason i can see for someone to be "turned off" is if there was no chemistry between the two to begin with and they both just used one another for whatever reasons???.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valantina Posted January 14, 2004 Report Share Posted January 14, 2004 (edited) Which from the two is more emotionally rewording; loving or being loved by someone, and why... i would say BOTH have a very strong emotionally rewarding You can't LOVE withought Being Loved and iam not just talking about any kind of Love, iam talking about a TRUE Meaningful Love! it could be Love for your family, friends, or your Lover !!! Its simple as this,... You have to Give to Recieve But also You have to Recieve to Give!! It has to Be BOTH ways OR NO WAY!! there is no in between!! Edited January 14, 2004 by Valantina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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