Sip Posted October 3, 2003 Report Share Posted October 3, 2003 This started off as a reply to Accelerated's thread but it seemed like a good topic for a new thread. At this point, I maintain that even though internet match making and online dating sites are BOOMING and growing like crazy (one of the fastest growing segments, if not the fastest), people in general still haven't made that mental shift to the idea. The web still seems to attract relatively large portions from the following categories: 1) the most losery kind that have no chance of anything in real life2) those who have waaaaaaaay too high of expectations (dreaming)3) those who are simply experimenting and aren't serious4) those who are really wacco (i.e. NOT sane)5) just plain wierdos6) Spam and scams I was reading a while back about all the trouble yahoo personals was having with porn sites putting up ads disguised as personal ads. As soon as someone replied, they had a "live" contact they could spam. That's when their service was completely free which prompted them to start charging for some parts of it but I suspect it's still a major problem ... and probably not just restricted to yahoo. On top of that, once in a while when a "good" candidate (esp female) happens to show up, she tends to get sooooo bombarded with attention that there is no way in hell she can make any sense of anything (most the above would reply to her ... in addition to the laaaaarge majority that only browse these things). Once when you get over 300 messages a day, filtering through them becomes a chore that no one will bother with. So in essence, the sheer vastness of the net will make this impractical unless there are proper filtering measures put in place. So any opinions on the subject? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gamavor Posted October 3, 2003 Report Share Posted October 3, 2003 The good thing about Internet and online dating is that all these groups have a chance to meet each other. In real life their chances to meet a soulmate (with the same degree of crazyness, weirdness, wacco-ness) and simply loosers are very slim. Not that there are not planty of them but just they are still minority (acctualy not sure?!). It works well also for Armenians. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasun Posted October 3, 2003 Report Share Posted October 3, 2003 I think it would work better if there was not a mutual mistrust right from the beginning. People are not taking seriously the net and when they look for a date I think most people are not taking it as seriously as a real life thing. But it is an interesting thing. Like Gamavor says you can meet people who you couldn't possible meet in real life. And it should work fine with Armenians who are scattered around the world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vava Posted October 4, 2003 Report Share Posted October 4, 2003 Sorry, I have very little experience when it comes to Internet Dating - but I would think that in any dating situation, there is a certain amount of distrust. It's not because you're seeing a live person in front of you, that you can automatically trust them... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sip Posted October 4, 2003 Author Report Share Posted October 4, 2003 Sorry, I have very little experience when it comes to Internet Dating ...Yah good idea ... I probably need to put my disclaimer up to. I am also a lot like vava and my opinion in this case is based mostly on what I have read, what I have been told, and what I am guessing based on several years of internet usage. Of course any "successful" dot com always grabs my attention and some of these online matchmaking sites seem to be doing well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azat Posted October 4, 2003 Report Share Posted October 4, 2003 Ya sure and I am sure both of you guys just buy Playboy for the articles. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sip Posted October 4, 2003 Author Report Share Posted October 4, 2003 Ya sure and I am sure both of you guys just buy Playboy for the articles. Playboy? Buy? That's sooooooo last century dude. Don't you know porn is VERY abundant and completely free on the web? Plus, now there's this thing called peer-to-peer file sharing. MP3's aint the only thing peers are sharing these days, ya know Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BitterSweet Posted October 4, 2003 Report Share Posted October 4, 2003 I met my male best friend on the internet guys... something comes out of it, sometimes its not what you expect, but that could be positive. life is full of chances, take the chance, lini...lini... chlini, it's ok. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halys80 Posted October 19, 2003 Report Share Posted October 19, 2003 Sip,Maybe I am speaking from the bias of my own experience, but I think the internet could be a great way to meet someone. Those categories of people that you mentioned---I think those people are present all around us in life---there's always those whose expectations are too high, or too low...or the players, or plain out perverts. But the internet gives you the option to scan over them, and move on to the next person and start a friendly conversation with someone whereas people would not have the initiative or even guts to do that in real life. Also, it gives you a chance to be a bit more uninhibited, and speak of things a little more freely than you would in real life. I've done the internet-meeting thing a few times, and I think people should be cautious. Because there will always be people who may be pretending to be something they are not---have wonderful personalities online and be totally unable to hold a conversation in reality, or just have ulterior motives. But to those things....as with any other situation in life, I think you have to be able to see through these things and have a sense of them. Also, I think that sometimes the internet could become a barrier to real life---ie, you feel more comfortable instant messaging people and sending smileys than actually speaking to a person face to face---and giving them a smile. THis is dangerous and I think people need a reality check at some point----it's a great tool---but its not a substitute for real life. Just use it to your advantage and go on with your life! So I say..why not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sip Posted October 19, 2003 Author Report Share Posted October 19, 2003 Well that's certainly very interesting to hear! I guess people in general aren't as slow to make the online mental shift as I thought they would be!!!! And Halys80, I do agree with you and I have also said this before that the internet is really no different than any other "communication" medium and will only end up being as "successful" as what people utilize it for! (i.e. the internet by itself is nothing too useful ... it's what you do with it that can be very interesting). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted October 20, 2003 Report Share Posted October 20, 2003 Plus, now there's this thing called peer-to-peer file sharing. MP3's aint the only thing peers are sharing these days, ya know Mo Sip - not familiar with this - please do tell! LOL And you being the internet maven - what other fun things might be going on that we are unaware? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angel4hope Posted October 20, 2003 Report Share Posted October 20, 2003 hehe thoth--- u must be feeling very lonely-- lol---- dont get too excited w/ the internet "fun" u perv--lol im jk.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted October 20, 2003 Report Share Posted October 20, 2003 hehe thoth--- u must be feeling very lonely-- lol---- dont get too excited w/ the internet "fun" u perv--lol im jk.. No not at all - not lonely...just interested to know...and yeah perhaps/OK...touche...(and i thought all Sip did with his time - on the comp - was calculations and such...!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sip Posted October 20, 2003 Author Report Share Posted October 20, 2003 Mo Sip - not familiar with this - please do tell! LOL And you being the internet maven - what other fun things might be going on that we are unaware? Well, my office mate a few years ago was doing some traffic studies on gnutella (one of the first peer-to-peer nets) and that's how I started to get some idea of what really may be going on in such networks. It would be interesting to find out how much of the internet bandwidth is consumed by pornography, adult spam, and things like that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasun Posted October 21, 2003 Report Share Posted October 21, 2003 Here is a horror story from my experience (I don't like to talk about private life but this one is a weird story, I don't think happened to anyone.)A few years ago when I was single I was experimenting internet dating. There was this girl who claimed to be shockingly gorgeous. We had just met (in the cyberspace) for a week or two. She said that she wanted to meet me in real life, that she was very interested, had feelings, etc. I said OK but let me see your picture at least, which she refused and said I wouldn't regret, let it be a surprise, etc. I agreed. She lived 3-4 hours from me, and she suggested she would come down and stay with me for the coming weekend. Well I thought that's just great but a bit of adventure and too good to be true, so much was unkown although we exchaged quite a few emails and phone calls, and things were hot in general. But I thought what the heck, why not try. After we had agreed on our first date she said she had a secret to tell me. She said she was a virgin and had saved her for the right person. When we meet we will have a wild sex, she described how she had imagined it would be (sorry moderators, can't be more implicit ). I won't go into detail, but one of the things was that it would be unprotected sex and we would have a child. I was quite shocked, this souned a bit crazy to me, so I said maybe we should slow down a little and have protected sex for the first time. I again pointed out that I had no idea what she looked liked, that we didn't really know each other. Well, she didn't like my commonsense. She turned nuts and started insulting me, calling all kinds of names, telling that I didn't deserve her, that I don't know how to treat women, and things like that. Obviously, the date was off But she kept calling me at work and sending me angry emails repeating the same things, and demanding me to "kneel down and apologize" to her. The scary part is that she said if I didn't apologize she can make me loose my job and home and drop dead on the street. She claimed to be some kind of a computer genius, and that she could hack into systems and do things like that. Crazy stuff. Well I told it was not fair that I apologize to her because I had not done anything bad to her. But she didn't want to understand, she said that I had badly insulted her. In the end she was getting really annoying, so I did send her an email and said I felt sorry. Luckily I never heard back from her again and that was the end of this crazy story Now that I think about it I think that she could be a psychopath but I am not sure because she sounded normal otherwise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sev-mard Posted October 21, 2003 Report Share Posted October 21, 2003 Whoa......that's pretty damn wild. Internet dating can be a tragedy waiting to happen. Luckily nothing really bad happened and you have a cool story to tell. =D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormig Posted October 21, 2003 Report Share Posted October 21, 2003 Luckily I don't have crazy stories of internet dating (per se) - though I've met people I've known on the net in real life (not for "that" per se either) - but I have a record of people falling in love with my persona (the other way around is not true). Those who know me for a while can attest to that. I mean, it's just mind boggling and crazy. Unfortunately they freak out when rejected or some such - but dealt with in some way... Such is [internet] life, I guess. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DominO123 Posted October 21, 2003 Report Share Posted October 21, 2003 Luckily I don't have crazy stories of internet dating (per se) - though I've met people I've known on the net in real life (not for "that" per se either) - but I have a record of people falling in love with my persona (the other way around is not true). Those who know me for a while can attest to that. I mean, it's just mind boggling and crazy. Unfortunately they freak out when rejected or some such - but dealt with in some way... Such is [internet] life, I guess. Ehe... In my cases, I've never felt in love from the internet, but have already found a spiritual sister using that medium. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormig Posted October 21, 2003 Report Share Posted October 21, 2003 Ehe... In my cases, I've never felt in love from the internet, but have already found a spiritual sister using that medium. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasun Posted October 21, 2003 Report Share Posted October 21, 2003 Luckily I don't have crazy stories of internet dating (per se) - though I've met people I've known on the net in real life (not for "that" per se either) - but I have a record of people falling in love with my persona (the other way around is not true). Those who know me for a while can attest to that. I mean, it's just mind boggling and crazy. Unfortunately they freak out when rejected or some such - but dealt with in some way... Such is [internet] life, I guess. I think anyone who likes storms will also like your persona Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormig Posted October 21, 2003 Report Share Posted October 21, 2003 I think anyone who likes storms will also like your persona Tease. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasun Posted October 21, 2003 Report Share Posted October 21, 2003 Tease. I think I am starting to like you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angel4hope Posted October 22, 2003 Report Share Posted October 22, 2003 wow sasun that was a heck of a story--- i had a weird thing like that happen to me but the other way around- i was like 16 and never had had a b/f before and met this guy online by accidnet- waws im ing my friends cousin and ended up im ing him instead- one letter difference in im-s then we started talking and stuff- he turned out to be a cool guy- or so i thought- he found out where i was - wotking and came there to meet me- well i didnt want 2 be rude- we were exchanging phone calls and e mails- this was when i had no confidence and was really gullible and innocent- well i was 16 how should i know- whatever- so after we talked for a while as friends- he began to tell me he loved me and wanted 2 marry me blah blah blah- freaky!!esp at 16- i wanted 2 be friends or just keep talking 2 him til i knew him well enough to trust him and go out on a date- well he had other plans- to make a long story short- he thought i was some slutt- but even at 16 gullible and innocent i realized what he was implicating- so i told him off nicely- he broke down and cried and said id be sorry-blah blah blah- and all these things- he even began stalking me when id walk home from school hed follow me...n e way- that comes to show that u gotta be careful w/ weirdos on da web <_< Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hyebruin Posted October 22, 2003 Report Share Posted October 22, 2003 yeah, you guys watch out!! not everyobody is a nice 'hyeforumer' ...when a guy talks about having kids and wanting to be with you and spilling allllll his guts and story to you THE FIRST TIME!!!! ....in my book that's a sign of instability!! really!!! we all want to share...but the first time...you can get flirtatious and playful (heck it's not like they're there! you can have a little/ a lot of fun)...however, talking about serious stuff the first time...that's a big red flag right there!!!~~~if your gut is uneasy, listen to it!! it's picking up something and telling you something!!!!!!!!!!! that you neeeed to heed to!!!!~~~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angel4hope Posted October 22, 2003 Report Share Posted October 22, 2003 hehe-- good note hye bruin- thats also one of my little warning things- when a guy is being too nice or too open the first time around- that means theres something up- in general terms not just online....lol funny how bad experiences can lead to such good conclusions and advice! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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