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I was just thinking to myself. Most of the people I know tell me how they tell their boyfriends and girlfriends everything from their past. But is that really true? Could someone be 100% honest with their other half? If lets say it's true and there are people out there who are 100% honest. But is that really a good thing? Where is the mystery in the relationship if we had spilled all the beans from our past.
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I was just thinking to myself. Most of the people I know tell me how they tell their boyfriends and girlfriends everything from their past. But is that really true? Could someone be 100% honest with their other half? If lets say it's true and there are people out there who are 100% honest. But is that really a good thing? Where is the mystery in the relationship if we had spilled all the beans from our past.

Nothing good can come out of telling everything about your past relationships. Tell only the things that needs to be told so that you don't look dishonest. I do not believe that a person can be 100% honest, maybe vartanig and his master baron confused oops I meant confucius. :P

But during your present relationship utmost honesty and trust is important. :)

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Well if there is no honesty, then you can't have trust ( vs.), which leads to having absolutely no confidence or faith in that particular person. How can one have a relationship if there is no trust, how would you even communicate with that person. In my opinion, you have to be honest- that's the bottom line, also won't you feel guilty if you don't? I would.

 

“No legacy is so rich as honesty.”

William Shakespeare!

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I was talking about the past not whats going on now. Do you honestly think everyone is 100% honest about what they used to do in the past?

 

 

 

I agree with Extrahaye about the mistery in women...My teacher used to say "Կին@ պետկե անավարտ գիրk (book) մնա, տխամարդու համար"...

I think we should let them know about the major things that happened, but the detailes about the feeleings and the "mistakes" (in my opinion) have to be dug very deep...Because the shadows of the past can affect the realationship...:)

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"A woman's heart is a deep ocean of secrets." ------ Titanic

 

A lot of relationship experts agree also. Some things should not be told. But you shouldn't base a relationship on lies either. In my opinion nobody is ever a 100% honest. Draw the big picture for them, but don't outline and include every single leave of grass. Lol. So corny..... :)

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I think the proper question would be "To ask or not to ask about her past!"

 

Or "To care, or not to care about her past". Really, who does care? The fact is, if he/she is with you now, then obviously there's some attraction/love "ser" - and you have to be confident that you are the sole focus of your partner's affection. Likewise, if you make your partner feel like they're the only person in the world that you'd love, well the questions about your "past" are not usually asked...

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Or "To care, or not to care about her past". Really, who does care? The fact is, if he/she is with you now, then obviously there's some attraction/love "ser" - and you have to be confident that you are the sole focus of your partner's affection. Likewise, if you make your partner feel like they're the only person in the world that you'd love, well the questions about your "past" are not usually asked...

 

i would feel really akward if i'm sitting at the cafe with her and suddenly all the guys that enter hug her because they all turn out to "know" her...

 

yeah... she's with me, loves me, i'm her only one... but still...

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There can't be any trust if you feel that the other person isn't honest with you, or is hiding something from you...so you should know about their part,, 2 of you should share...and believe me if you start talking then it would be much more easier to get along..
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"A woman's heart is a deep ocean of secrets." ------ Titanic

 

A lot of relationship experts agree also. Some things should not be told. But you shouldn't base a relationship on lies either. In my opinion nobody is ever a 100% honest. Draw the big picture for them, but don't outline and include every single leave of grass. Lol. So corny..... :)

 

 

shat chisht e

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You may not believe this but I know someone who saw his girlfriend in a porno movie. They broke up of course, but since then he became a rigid fan of porno... only for investigation purposes :)

 

There was even a story like that in the Armenian community of Montreal. Maybe urban legend.

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I was just thinking to myself. Most of the people I know tell me how they tell their boyfriends and girlfriends everything from their past. But is that really true? Could someone be 100% honest with their other half? If lets say it's true and there are people out there who are 100% honest. But is that really a good thing? Where is the mystery in the relationship if we had spilled all the beans from our past.

 

 

boyfriends and girlfriends ???

 

Extra jan don;t tell anything to anyone :) just tell me :) you know your Secrets are Safe w/ me :ap: I plomis i will not tell

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tgha: kyanq, miqich qo antsyalits kpatmes...

aghjik: inchi? inchi es uzum amen ban imanas... vay...

t: ha inch klini, kyanq, uzum em qez aveli lav janachem...

a: indz lav el janachum es... dzever mi tapi... uzum es aveli lav janaches, mi hat tun@ pilasos ara... irigunn el jash kepes... indz shat lav "k'haskanas" gisher@...

t: tsavd tanem, bayts yes lurj em xosum... lurj uzum em imanam, arajin angam um es pachel... hani hogu es sirel... qani hogu es tvel... shat es tvel?

a: yaxq, inch zzveli mard es... qez inch inch em arel... inch kap uni... karevor@ vor hima qez em sirum, qez em talis...

t: ha, tsavd name, yes el qez em sirum, ponch... bayts, bayts chimanam, mrrut?

a: ok, lav... shat es yazva linum... de, arrajin angam, vor pachpchvetsi, eti 3-rd dasaram em... mi hat enents kayfot tgha kar mer dasaranum... uzum ei brrnei utei... de, tesel ei kinonerum vonts en pachum... mi or dasamijotsin, dasatun che nayum... es tghum mi ankyun qashetsi u mi laaav pachetsi... hariv@ hush er eghel... latselov paxav...

t: maladets... heto?

a: de, etents eli... edteghits sksav... enqan dur's ekav pachel@, vor sksa dranits heto ha siraharvel... mi or mi tghyu ei sirum, myus or@, mi urishi... ov vor indzi shokolad er berum, iran mi hat pachum ei... vor bufeti perrozhni ein berum, toghum ei miqich bderis het xaghayin... bayts vor iskakanits siraharvetsi, eti 13 tarekan ei... hishum em, inqn el indz er sirum... enents kayfot zhamer enq antskatsrel... irigunner@ gun einq aygi, nstum ein skameykin, tsarri tak, u gzrrtvum einq... mi or el enents statsvets, vor miqich shat xoratsanq u...

t: u?

a: u, el inch? chgites inch? vay... aretsinq... enents lav er... bayts latsetsi...

t: vax mors arev... 13 tarekanum?

a: che, arden 14 einq...

t: aghji, yes et vaght iski plloris het kargin xaghal chgitei...

a: de vor du harif es eghel, yes inch anem...

t: lav chaperd mi antsi... heto? el um es tvel?

a: vor etents piti xosas, chem patmi... vor piti normal ch@ndunes, inchi eir uzum imanair, h@?

t: ha, lav, katak em anum, kyanq... patmi... ari mi hat pachik anem...

a: uff... yan tu...

t: lav, mi jghaynatsi... heto?

a: heto... heto etents... shuxur@ @ngav dprots@, vor yes Saqoyi het etents ban em arel... yerevi Saqon er glux govatsel @ngernei mot... heto Saqon yan tvets... bayts de... bayts de arden arats@ arats er... vontsvor arats, ham@ mnatsel er berans...

t: aghchi, berant el es arrel?

a: che e, et zhamanak che... poxaberakan imastov em asum... heto arden tgherq@ koghitss herru chein gnm... dranits heto chem siraharvel, bayts de... hamozum ein eli... minchev dprots@ avartetsi... heto institut... dzerri het, etents eli... mek-mek sra het nran het... heto qez handipetsi kyanq u siraharvetsi... qez shat em sirum, Vagho jan...

t: ha, gitem... qani hogu es tvel?

a: inch vrraz arden jghaynatsar? chem hishum... chem hashvel... ari girkd nstem... xosq em talis, es gisher gluxs chi tsava...

t: el mi qsmrstvi... boz...

a: inch asir? laaakot...

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shat txur patmutyun er, chnayaz shat em lsel ayspisi depker, inchkan anmardkaynutyun kar ayd axchka mej, inchpisi hogi aydpisi mardik unen, zarmanum em. Hamamit em @nker Harut,, djvar e achker@ pak anznel ayspisi depkeri vra, bayz sahman ka amen inch, inch ek karzum?????

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i would feel really akward if i'm sitting at the cafe with her and suddenly all the guys that enter hug her because they all turn out to "know" her...

 

yeah... she's with me, loves me, i'm her only one... but still...

 

 

This goes against my rules too...

 

Why would she be hugging her exes? Isn't there an unwritten rule prohibiding physical contact with an ex.......especially in front of the current partner? I always made it a point to let other* guys know that my husband did not like other men hugging me by extending my hand for a handshake.

 

 

 

*Other for example can mean....co-workers, random aquaintances and any guy who generally should not have been hugging or touching me.

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shat txur patmutyun er, chnayaz shat em lsel ayspisi depker, inchkan anmardkaynutyun kar ayd axchka mej, inchpisi hogi aydpisi mardik unen, zarmanum em. Hamamit em @nker Harut,, djvar e achker@ pak anznel ayspisi depkeri vra, bayz sahman ka amen inch, inch ek karzum?????

 

 

Ayo, hamadzayn em. Chap u sahman pahpanel@ shat harkavor e. Bayc kan giz mardiq vor amusnanum en mi aghjka het vor@ giten kuys chi heto mi amgoghj kyanq eresoven talis. @ndanur, petqa imanas qani tarekanum, um het, bayc incha poxelu vor asi te yerord dasaranum ova iren namakner grel....?

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