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I know ... it's pretty amazing huh!

I thought when skittles said "if someone has never used drungs can they still get STD if they sleep with more than 1 man/woman who is clean" she was referring to drug usage and their relation to STDs. Then when you said you highly doubt one can get STD's from a "clean" person, I wasn't sure if you were referring to "STD clean" or "Drug clean". Because obviously you can't get STD's from an "STD Clean" person.

Note to self: Do not play "let's club each other on the heads for mates" with Azat or Den. Very interesting article Den!

I want to make a distinction between a "player" and a "multimate" (I just made that up) as in someone who sleeps with many other people ... Though both the player and the multimate sleep with potentially many partners, the player does so often dishonestly and with deviousness, cunning, lieing, and actually also "playing" the necessary games. A multimate on the other hand, may or may not be a player ... for example a rock star, a pro athlete, or a professional athlete may be a huge multimate but may not be a player at all as members of the opposite sex may just be throwing themselves at him or her. My examples of a "multimate" above were of an extreme nature and in real life you obviously will get the total spectrum between the player and the Wilt Chamberlins (claims 20,000 women in his lifetime).

"Clean" in what sense? Drugs and STDs are different thing. One can be very clean from the "STD" sense and be a total drug junkie .... on the other hand, one could never have done drugs, have had very limited sex before, but still be carrying STDs and be quite infectious. It is true that some STD's you can pick up by sharing things such as needels with other drug addicts but if you are mating with that kind of a person, I would think STD's and drugs are not on the top of your worry list anyway. Oh, or maybe I missed something ... are we talking about STD as in "Sexually Transmitted Drugs"?

Oh well ... now I'll have to wait till tomorrow until it grows again

I would think from an information theory perspective 'anna' is actually "shorter" than 'anka' due to it's palindromic structure (it's symmetric). Thus, I am also guessing anna can be compressed more than anka. By the way, I don't think Azat was being sarcastic.

Or just shave Azatik ... that's what I just did.

That was the definition of a hopeless romantic.

Me neither. Plus I think superstitions are a sign of an over active mind and an inability to rationalize or understand.

I have heard people throw tomatos to each other on the streets in Spain. So just something to be aware of if you are thinking of moving there. Welcome to the forum

Yah he kinda reminds me of Azat

Thoth/anonymouse Gevo/Den ... Please ... I got better things to do on a friday night than to start cleaning up posts. Well, not really but I am going to sleep anyway. This thread is done.

You're the expert, Mos

I don't understand what you are disagreeing with there as I totally agree with you on that. My feelings won't get stronger if I am not looking for anything more ... if I am not open to pursuing a long term relationship. The feelings get stronger through the process of getting closer to that person ... as part of opening up ... as part of the relationship itself. All I am saying is that it just doesn't happen over night and it doesn't happen by itself.

Again, I disagree. It has to be something you are open to and looking for (in the context of a long term relationship). If you want to talk about lust and attraction, sure those you can't control... not even I can control those urges.

AMEN brotha! Can I have a halleluya?

I don't agree Extra. A person has to be open and ready for the possibility of a serious relationship and has to go looking for it. This idea that love falls in your lap from somewhere in the sky without any active pursuit, looking, searching, and wanting is just very rediculous.

I don't understand what you mean. How will that change anything I have said here?

I will drink to that!!!

I think a baby brings couples closer in general.

first of all ... not offended ... it's all cool! Second of all, I think you misunderstand what dating is all about. If "seriousness" was a given from the beginning, then why date at all? Why not just get married at first sight? A serious relationship is something that must develop... you date a while ... you get to know each other. You share and you talk and somewhere there either a certain closeness develops or it doesn't. There are a billion factors that go into it. Saying "Oh hey let's date and I'll dump you next month" is just as rediculous as saying "Oh hey let's date and I'll marry you in 2 years". Dating by definition is the time period you get to know the person and develop a relationship ... now what will happen after that, no one can know before hand. But obviously it's not all meant to be and it's certainly not anyone's "fault" all the time.

That is the type of thinking that puts so much pressure on the poor SlowJamzes out there ... nothing is pre written. You just go on and see what life throws at you and set goals and go after them. Keeping up with the "schedule" of the things to do should be the least of one's worries as that would mean you are living the life someone else planned for you.

By the way gevo, for your info, my case may be a little different as I just finished school. But no one has ever "kept" me in any room and I have always been free to do as I please. And about you assuming that I lie to girls, then all I can tell you is that you don't know me at all

gevo dude ... chill out a bit. Not everyone wants to get married by 26 and have pooping farting barf machines running around the house while he goes to work 9 to 5, comes back home and start cooking or go shopping and do the laundry and then watch some TV and go to sleep totally exhausted by 10pm to wake up at the crack of dawn the next day for the whole thing to repeat. I am 27 and haven't even really began serious dating or even thinking about serious relationships yet. Everyone is different ... Thoth may tell you girls are the next best thing for men since "grated cheese that comes in a bag". I am not so sure .... girls and relationships are great ... but so is youthfulness and freedom and having the time to be able to really establish yourself as a person in life. I am just slowly starting to discover who I am ... what my position is in life and where I want to go. I think at least a few years of being totally on one's own is mandatory (in my case) to go through this self discovery process. I look around our "Armenian" communities and you have young girls and guys who grow up with mommy and daddy and jump into serious ass relationships and then get married just to be able to move out and become their own people ... but they NEVER have the chance to discover their individuality. And that is just very sad.