shiner Posted September 23, 2004 Report Share Posted September 23, 2004 In most cases a certain degree of mystery needs to be maintained, because otherwise there is a tendency of becoming noninteresting, nonintriguing, nonappealing etc. Oftentimes these relationships can head towards the "friendship" path. But when everything is out in the open and everything is known about a person, and the other person still finds them interesting and attractive, that is true, full blown attraction. What do ya'll think? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anileve Posted September 23, 2004 Report Share Posted September 23, 2004 (edited) I think mystery is essential for any kind of a relationship, everyone should have a secret or a few. I don't know how married folks do it, I really have a hard time imagining how one can stay interested in the same person for 25 years, I throw in the towel after a year. Edited September 23, 2004 by anileve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted September 23, 2004 Report Share Posted September 23, 2004 I think mystery is essential for any kind of a relationship, everyone should have a secret or a few. I don't know how married folks do it, I really have a hard time imagining how one can stay interested in the same person for 25 years, I throw in the towel after a year. style_images/master/snapback.png hmm - well sometimes one can be a bit too mysterious and cause others to lose interest... And as for maintining interest over many years - well yeah - can be difficult...I think its important to attempt to avoid patterns as much as possible...so do different things form the norm, travel to new places, do different (and new) types of activities...and try to surprise your SI every once in a while...etc etc...and some folks are more comfortable/content/satisfied with certainty and sameness - its how they are wired...so its easier for them - others - like you Eve - demand more obviously. Another factor is children. They become a source of the new and wonderous as they evolve/grow...they also tend to take a large part of ones/a couples time and focus and sometimes keep you so busy you don't have time to think of much else (not a good thing - but just the way it is....and thus the other aspects of a relationship require more effort) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gamavor Posted September 25, 2004 Report Share Posted September 25, 2004 Number one reason why men are attracted to women is their mystery. Women are like the wind, - than can blow from all possible directions and also may choose not to blow at all! PS: I mean ‘blow’ in a very platonic way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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