Anileve Posted April 20, 2004 Report Share Posted April 20, 2004 Ok, so we all had our complexities in the past. Faced with the fork in the road we finally chose to go with one of the options. However, at times we weren’t really happy with the results, so we chose to classify it as an experience and file it under “no regrets.” I often look at my past pondering what if I hadn’t placed my freshly washed underwear in the freezer by mistake, I would have still had a pair of French undergarments adorning my lingerie collection. What if I hadn’t abandoned my piano lessons, then I would have met a mad musician with extraordinary long and delicate fingers who would play a Moonlight Sonata to put me to sleep. What if I continued with tennis, Agassi would have been my future trainer. What if I took the opportunity to study in Australia, I could have been drinking Foster’s and breeding kangaroos in my backyard. On a more serious note, I glance into my life and the optimist in my says, “There are no regrets, there are only experiences,” although the realist in me says, “Dammit, if I could change a few things in the past I wouldn’t hesitate for a second.” And deep inside I know that the realist wins. It’s almost useless to sit and wonder what could have been, but I can’t help but speculate if there is such thing as no regrets, or is it just a phrase we use a cliché to conceal our true fear of calling it mistakes? What if one does not regret, can he truly learn from his mistakes? Oscar Wilde said: “Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes." I think one of my fears is having a regret, so I approach a situation with a caution, and analyze, but can you prevent it? If you had another chance would you do things differently? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shiner Posted April 20, 2004 Report Share Posted April 20, 2004 (edited) If you had another chance often you would do things differently, but coming to that conclusion is actually impossible without having gone through your "regretful" experiences in the first place. You can never wander what if because you would not be the person you are today if you would not have gone through exactly what you did. And also there is absolutely no way to predict exactly what would have happened (in your case what if you were to get in a deadly car accident on your way to piano lessons one day if you would have continued, etc.) Edited April 20, 2004 by shiner Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted April 21, 2004 Report Share Posted April 21, 2004 wow - serious stuff...Ani your too young to think like this already...lol-really - (most of) your (adult) life and certanly most all of your choices that will really matter are still ahead of you...OK perhaps you will ever be a soloist with the philharmonic etc - and i understand and have often had regrets about not learning to play an insturment (or learn to speak Armenian...etc)...but one cannot rally go about life in such a quandry. Sure - I think most of us (particulalry us thinkers) will to some degree or another be plauged by such thoughts - and its tough to avoid..but if you go about your life - and make choices not based on the most conservative (safe) outlook - but realizing that this is your one shot - well I think that you will do fine...and any regrets should pael in comparisions to the unique and wondrful things you've managed to experience, accomplish, people you will meet, help, joys, and even the setbacks and tragedies (perhaps...as we cannot avoid these forever)....anyway on the whole I'm sure that you will have no (serious) regrets - and all is just part of life besides...so go forth youn woman! Kick butt! And (and I've often said this) - if I've had any real regrets they ussually are that I wish I had been even wilder then i even was - took more chances - was crazier and more care free....other then that I really can't (much) complain (even if I might on occasion....) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sip Posted April 21, 2004 Report Share Posted April 21, 2004 To me, a mistake isn't really a mistake if you couldn't have known it to be a mistake at the time you were making the choice. Thus, in situations like that, when the mistake only presents itself in hindsight, I rarely have any regrets. The only times I end up (or have ended up) with regrets is when I have made a choice (of either doing something or not doing something) KNOWING that the choice was a mistake all along. You may ask me why I have made that choice to begin with ... well, we all have our faults. But never the less, that is usually how I end up with a regret. With other things, when I am faced with daily choices in life that I cannot necessarily know the outcomes before hand, I rarely end up having any regrets. Of course I do often wonder about the "what-if's" ... as in what if I had done this or that in order to prepare myself to make better decisions in the future ... but regrets ... no. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sip Posted April 21, 2004 Report Share Posted April 21, 2004 By the way, shiner, I fully agree with you. Thoth, I am not sure I agree with you about one being too young about wonder about such things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted April 21, 2004 Report Share Posted April 21, 2004 Thoth, I am not sure I agree with you about one being too young about wonder about such things. perhaps in a sense..but believe me - if your worrying such now - when you get tomy age you will really be nuts.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gamavor Posted April 21, 2004 Report Share Posted April 21, 2004 (edited) What if I hadn’t abandoned my piano lessons, then I would have met a mad musician with extraordinary long and delicate fingers who would play a Moonlight Sonata to put me to sleep. What if I continued with tennis, Agassi would have been my future trainer. What if I took the opportunity to study in Australia, I could have been drinking Foster’s and breeding kangaroos in my backyard Just before moving to US I had a job offer, which was something that happens once in life time. Plus, I was (probably still) spoiled and picky. I had the dream job before that and now this new offer. Money wise it was not that 'great' but definitely something big career wise. I declined. Do I regret? HELL, YES!!! Edited April 21, 2004 by gamavor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DominO123 Posted April 21, 2004 Report Share Posted April 21, 2004 What if I hadn’t abandoned my piano lessons, then I would have met a mad musician with extraordinary long and delicate fingers who would play a Moonlight Sonata to put me to sleep. If that is all it takes to make you happy, I know how to play that piece. But don't expect me to play the third movement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azat Posted April 21, 2004 Report Share Posted April 21, 2004 I have no regrets in my life except for one: I wish I was a better student when I was young and did not take education so lightly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azat Posted April 21, 2004 Report Share Posted April 21, 2004 Just before moving to US I had a job offer, which was something that happens once in life time. .... WOW Gamavor, and I thought I was the only one offered the job of photographing playboy centerfolds all day long. Guess they needed you as my assistant... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gamavor Posted April 21, 2004 Report Share Posted April 21, 2004 WOW Gamavor, and I thought I was the only one offered the job of photographing playboy centerfolds all day long. Guess they needed you as my assistant... Nah, not that great offer, but still.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anileve Posted April 21, 2004 Author Report Share Posted April 21, 2004 If that is all it takes to make you happy, I know how to play that piece. But don't expect me to play the third movement. That and many other things…. As long as your play slightly resembles what Beethoven intended that piece to sound like, I’ll be gay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sip Posted April 21, 2004 Report Share Posted April 21, 2004 ... I’ll be gay. I don't think that's exactly what Fadio had in mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anileve Posted April 21, 2004 Author Report Share Posted April 21, 2004 I don't think that's exactly what Fadio had in mind. Well Sip, he expressed his concern for my happiness and I assured him that I would be extremely happy - aka gay. Don't be such a smart ass. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MosJan Posted April 21, 2004 Report Share Posted April 21, 2004 If we could go back and mix up some thinks at this project or still the mouse Scientists have made a female mouse egg grow into an adult without fertilising it with sperm, the journal Nature says. The egg had two sets of chromosomes belonging to the mother, rather than one from the mother and one from the father as in a fertilised embryo. The phenomenon, called parthenogenesis, never occurs naturally in mammals. Some researchers say the procedures may be applied to stem cell research, but the scientists who carried out the work say it would not yet work in humans. ......... The team injected the genetic material from an immature mouse egg into a mature egg with its own set of chromosomes. They then "activated" the combined egg, prompting it to start growing as an embryo. ............... Dr Bartolomei suggested that making embryos without the need for fertilisation might allow researchers to circumvent political and ethical obstacles to using stem cells. Dr Kono also agrees that the technique could be suitable for creating stem cell lines. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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