Valantina Posted January 8, 2004 Report Share Posted January 8, 2004 (edited) Hi all We all know its easier for a guy to go Up to the Girl ask for her number or ask her out iam sure many of you guys here have asked girls out , But How did you do it ? But what if you are a girl and dont have that ability or strength to ask a guy out, what do you think she should do ? Girls have you ever asked a guy out ? and how have you asked him ? i myself NEVER but you never know in futuer LoooL but most likely iam sure i wont <_< , i just know so LoL Edited January 8, 2004 by Valantina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maral Posted January 8, 2004 Report Share Posted January 8, 2004 For my high school prom,my cousin and I could not get the nerve to ask the guys we wanted to ask,they didn't go to our school btw...so I asked her guy if he'ld go to the prom with my cousin and she asked my guy...and well I ended up marrying my prom date! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valantina Posted January 8, 2004 Author Report Share Posted January 8, 2004 well I ended up marrying my prom date! WoW that is realy nice and It was Meant to be But i know what you mean about not having the nerve lool .. i actualy went with my cousin LooL coz i didnt had the nerve to Accept any guy's invitation .... damn!! lool iam not so happy about it now though lool Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormig Posted January 8, 2004 Report Share Posted January 8, 2004 For my high school prom,my cousin and I could not get the nerve to ask the guys we wanted to ask,they didn't go to our school btw...so I asked her guy if he'ld go to the prom with my cousin and she asked my guy...and well I ended up marrying my prom date! Wohooooooooooo, what a story!! Me, even at 24 I feel giddy about asking a guy out. Just not me - I can be counted on to do a lot of things, but this is one of the few that just won't happen as easily. There was a guy at this event here that I saw for quite a few evenings in a row - I would've loved to ask him out, but I didn't even get to have a little conversation with him. This was a freaking cultural event and he had his duty, and it's not like he was loved by the others/popular/approached but there was something about his serious demeanour (an artist ) I liked (plus he had a mountaineer's body ) and this was not your freaking bar to go up to and have a drink with. I had decided to wait until the last day and maybe do something myself, but I ended up skipping the last day of the event for some reason that I can't recall now and it ended up in nothing. Maybe for the better, he was dumb enough not to do anything himself even if I stared hard at him and he noticed this damn pretty well. I've also done it by SMS - great fun. Americans I tell this to say it reminds them of a certain commercial they had there. But not having any statement whatsoever about being asked out is also cool, exciting - it's not official until you've gone all the way, and some of my girl friends agree! LOL!!!! That said, I can't stand guys who don't have the guts themselves - I have one Persian after me like that (he has no qualms about grabbing me and hugging me) and it's pathetic anyway and my answer is no, no, no! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angel4hope Posted January 8, 2004 Report Share Posted January 8, 2004 i dont think i would ever ask a guy out--it sort of weirds me out- i dunno im more of an "old fashioned" gal when it comes to such things-so id prefer the gyu to ask me out-i dont think i have enough gutts to ask someone out-and besides id feel more comfertable if a guy asked me out-b/c it seems weird 2 me i dunno-but for those gals who can do it -much kudos 2 u-- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sev-mard Posted January 8, 2004 Report Share Posted January 8, 2004 Women are beautiful, soft, etheral creatures who should have no problem communicating their "desire" for the company of a certain male. There are hazur oo mek ways for a female to ring a guy in. You should never have to "ask" a guy out. Now you may have to approach him, smile and bat those eyelashes. C'mon now you're all hye achchiks, those eyes are a gift. But seriously, i'm always telling girls, you should be able to draw a guy you interested in to you like a magnet, just do what you do~! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angel4hope Posted January 8, 2004 Report Share Posted January 8, 2004 oh yeah sevmard-im familiar with that FLIRTING>? yes we know-- but were speaking about asking a guy out--straight out--but of course there are other ways of letting a guy know youre into them--like those examples above:) yeah-- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sev-mard Posted January 8, 2004 Report Share Posted January 8, 2004 Na....flirting is easy. Flirting is open and both sides are usually aware and participating. I'm talking initation with intent to "date" or "go out" hehe.... It's a bit different in my book. Usually most (ack)chicks aren't bold enough to initate something like that. But by all means, we want that boldness. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted January 8, 2004 Report Share Posted January 8, 2004 what's so hard/embarassing about going to a guy and telling him you like him/would like to go have coffee with him if that's possible? if he's a friend already, he would either be happy if he likes you too, or take it "cool" even if he doesn't like you that way. and if it's a total stranger, then what the hell, why be reserved, you have nothing to lose anyway, you probably wouldn't see him again lol.. i'm not a girl, so i wouldn't know what's so difficult about it.... so don't be so hard on me when you reply!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hyebruin Posted January 9, 2004 Report Share Posted January 9, 2004 there was a point in my life when i thought this was ok! really!! very open minded about it and i don't have a problem and definitely not shy about going up to a hot guy and starting a conversation...BUT!!! i don't think i'd feel ok with "asking him out" as much as i have the ba$$s ...it's just sexier when the guy asks me out!? i think most girls feel that way...it makes you feel sexy and desirable....whereas if the girl does the asking she won't get the chance to feel that certain extra bit of desirability...just like i won't lean over and kiss a guy first! (for the 1st time of course!!--afterwards!! anyone can start kissing... )...it's just sooooo much sweeter and loads of funnnnn!! when the guy makes the 1st move!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gevo27 Posted January 9, 2004 Report Share Posted January 9, 2004 hyebruin, i can see what you mean sure, but still i dont think there is a problem with girls asking guys out... I havent asked a girl out (as a bf/gf thing) yet in my life, i only 19 so i got some time still.. but iv been asked out and i dont have a problem with it... Heck what hyebruin saidhyebruin Posted on Jan 9 2004, 12:00 AM there was a point in my life when i thought this was ok! really!! very open minded about it and i don't have a problem and definitely not shy about going up to a hot guy and starting a conversation...BUT!!! i don't think i'd feel ok with "asking him out" as much as i have the ba$$s ...it's just sexier when the guy asks me out!? i think most girls feel that way...it makes you feel sexy and desirable....whereas if the girl does the asking she won't get the chance to feel that certain extra bit of desirability...just like i won't lean over and kiss a guy first! (for the 1st time of course!!--afterwards!! anyone can start kissing... )...it's just sooooo much sweeter and loads of funnnnn!! when the guy makes the 1st move!! could just as well go for guys.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted January 11, 2004 Report Share Posted January 11, 2004 for guys who date girls at any rate, right, gevo? hyebruin, in other words, the hollywood romance "awwww, so sweet, he kissed her" kinda thing... i guess they know the psychology of women... ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sip Posted January 11, 2004 Report Share Posted January 11, 2004 What's so hard about it? If you know the person, then it's very easy. You just ask. If you don't know the person, then it is complicated. First you have to strike up a conversation and get to know the person. How you do that entirely depends on the situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Armen Posted January 11, 2004 Report Share Posted January 11, 2004 It seems like the girls want the rights without the responsibilities. Well, they come in package. I mean this is not the 17 century when guys had to make the first move. That's something NEANDERTHAL. Be OPENMINDED (I love this word ). Why do we have to take the risk of being rejected and embarrassed? We have to share the risk. Actually, when the girl askes a guy out it's twice as sexy and very romantic . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hyebruin Posted January 11, 2004 Report Share Posted January 11, 2004 lmao armen jan!!! good one btw!!! ...well, believe it or not some armo guys think it's cheap and...don't wanna say the other word!! for a girl to make the 1st move!!! again!!! 17th century thinkin right there!! but....i gotta say!! it's soooooooo much seXxXier when the guy makes the first move Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheekY Posted January 11, 2004 Report Share Posted January 11, 2004 it's not only Armenian guys who don't like it when the girl makes the first move though... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormig Posted January 11, 2004 Report Share Posted January 11, 2004 If you don't know the person, then it is complicated. First you have to strike up a conversation and get to know the person. How you do that entirely depends on the situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gevo27 Posted January 11, 2004 Report Share Posted January 11, 2004 for guys who date girls at any rate, right, gevo? Dan sorry but not to clear at what you mean by "any rate"??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted January 11, 2004 Report Share Posted January 11, 2004 lol, just an expression of uhhhhh i don't know what... it's just a way of saying it... lol.. what i meant by that, was that you meant by saying that hyebruin's sentence applied to guys who date, so I wondered if that applied to guys who date girls or guys who date guys.. i guess at any rate means "anyway" ? i don't know really.. it's just a phrase that's used quite a lot without having a definite meaning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasun Posted January 11, 2004 Report Share Posted January 11, 2004 Actually, when the girl askes a guy out it's twice as sexy and very romantic . I agree But sometimes they just don't have enough courage and create embarassing situations. It is better to avoid in such cases, do it well or don't do it at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gevo27 Posted January 11, 2004 Report Share Posted January 11, 2004 rgr Dan,,, thx for attempting to explain,, lol.... i get it now.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Armen Posted January 11, 2004 Report Share Posted January 11, 2004 (edited) lmao armen jan!!! good one btw!!! ...well, believe it or not some armo guys think it's cheap and...don't wanna say the other word!! for a girl to make the 1st move!!! again!!! 17th century thinkin right there!! but....i gotta say!! it's soooooooo much seXxXier when the guy makes the first move Bruin jan, I hear you. But, you know, the times of male knights and pricesses in the towers are gone forever. And girls need to change their psychology according to the requirements of modern times (damn, I'm good at this ). It's just a small minority of Armenian guys that think that way, but soon they will change their mindset. The majority of us are sensetive, weak and we need your help. Nowadays we can't even decide wheather a particular item is purple, red or redish, we have "OK", "CANCEL" and "MAYBE" in our special edition Windows dialog boxes and the best way to our hearts is our ears. So, you see, God has a sense of humor. Once you change a little detail in his creation, the whole mechanizm changes accordingly. Edited January 11, 2004 by ArmenSarg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valantina Posted January 12, 2004 Author Report Share Posted January 12, 2004 Bruin jan, I hear you. But, you know, the times of male knights and pricesses in the towers are gone forever. Unfortunatly that is true girls need to change their psychology according to the requirements of modern times (damn, I'm good at this ). i agree, u r good at this Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valantina Posted January 12, 2004 Author Report Share Posted January 12, 2004 well, believe it or not some armo guys think it's cheap and...don't wanna say the other word!! sadly that is true .. some guys do think that Girl is cheap and even if doesnt work out, He will go around and tell the whole nation ...this girl was after me..!! iam not including all the GUYS! so i guess that is why most of girls rather the Guy to make the first move it's soooooooo much seXxXier when the guy makes the first move Ohh Yeahhh i AGREEEEEE , and it will look better for him ,... he will look like a True Gentelman and that is if he is one lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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