CheekY Posted October 22, 2003 Report Share Posted October 22, 2003 does it matter when it comes to love? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sev-mard Posted October 22, 2003 Report Share Posted October 22, 2003 (edited) It shouldn't, but it could... I may or it may not.. Sometimes yes, and sometimes no.... I will say it can definately break up a marriage... If it's in issue in the early stage(s) of dating, that's a sign you should leave... Edited October 22, 2003 by sev-mard Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormig Posted October 22, 2003 Report Share Posted October 22, 2003 I think not initially, but you should be able to make enough money if your love is supposed to lead to marriage and children. You don't want to marry someone who is great, loving, fun, intelligent, yet can't add to the bread by sitting around toying with nonproductive stuff, unless either partner is a sugar-something... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheekY Posted October 22, 2003 Author Report Share Posted October 22, 2003 some people say if you're rich you shouldn't marry someone poor (or just a bit "lower" than you) and vice versa...are the consequences really that bad? isn't love (well, and hard work) all you need to make your marriage work or am i just dreaming too much? because i believe that when you love someone you'll be by their side supporting them no matter what...unless they're an alcoholic or a drug addict or too lazy to get their butt off the couch and find a job... <_< Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sev-mard Posted October 22, 2003 Report Share Posted October 22, 2003 Some times your economic standing has such an effect on the type of person you've become you can't mesh with a richer or poorer person. If you're used to a certain lifestyle, with all that entails, music, what you read, know, and enjoy, would be vastly different from some who is poorer. This can be a plus, and attractant, but it could also be a reason why you wouldn't be compatible right? Just offering up both sides. I think a perennial rich person like Paris Hilton, might have issues with my ability to eat a hot dog and watch the Laker game on my couch, because I can't afford to sit courtside. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormig Posted October 22, 2003 Report Share Posted October 22, 2003 I don't think it is supposed to be that much of an issue. None of the people I've been with have been particularly rich... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sip Posted October 22, 2003 Report Share Posted October 22, 2003 does it matter when it comes to love?Yes. Love can be bought just like anything else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExtraHye Posted October 22, 2003 Report Share Posted October 22, 2003 Yes. Love can be bought just like anything else.True, love could be bought.... Now the question is, would they be happy? I myself don't think so... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheekY Posted October 22, 2003 Author Report Share Posted October 22, 2003 i know love can be bought...but i was talking about true love... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UKGIRL28 Posted October 23, 2003 Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 Anything is possible with money these days... and if it can buy love, then to a certain extent it can buy happiness also.. materialistically speaking that is! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UKGIRL28 Posted October 23, 2003 Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 i know love can be bought...but i was talking about true love... Does true love, perfect love really exist in our society these days?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheekY Posted October 23, 2003 Author Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 well maybe not "perfect" but it can be true... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormig Posted October 23, 2003 Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 Sorry? What is true love? I've heard of whole-wheat bread, non-blanched almonds, but what is "true love"? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sev-mard Posted October 23, 2003 Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 True love is meeting a girl before you spend two years in Japan, and staying together the whole time, and then coming back to start your relationship finally.....and now you've been together for a year and 3 months. Sounds pretty true to me... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormig Posted October 23, 2003 Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 All the best of luck to ya - otherwise, no comment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UKGIRL28 Posted October 23, 2003 Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 I thought it was all about, finding someone who rocks your world, knows how you think without asking, totally on the same wavelengh as you, loves you for your good and bad habits, in all weathers and moods, even when your having the crappiest time of your life, they are there for you and you are there for them and continuing to evolve all the time... Falling in love is easy, making it last forever is a different ball of game! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DominO123 Posted October 23, 2003 Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 well maybe not "perfect" but it can be true... OK! Here I am blowing a young ladies bubble. I suppose the guy in question is your first love. RIGHT? WHEN Someone come with that thing, called true love. 80% of the time, it is there first love, and the other 20% is just those with wishfull thinking. True love, is the love you have for your true friends, which probably will remain as such for years, and possibly a life time. A true love, is loves for your family, your sisters, brothers etc... those loves that are too difficult to be broken. Wait a little young girl, when making love will be just a question of simulation, a kind of thing that you'll put on your head, connected on the internet, and which you will exchange with others. Cloning at that time, will become the way of procreation, gene modifications etc... This love that you call "True" love, will pratically have no place to survive, but friendship, family etc... those kind of love, they probably will still exist. Have you seen those extrapolation pictures of what will human looks like in 100,000 years from now? Women will pratically not have chess anymore, woman and man, will look nearly identical, beside the genital organs, which it is expected, male one will decrease in size. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DominO123 Posted October 23, 2003 Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 I forgot to include another love, which is the one of a parent for his children, which is probably the most intense. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasun Posted October 23, 2003 Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 Domino you are making some good points, I agree. Among the forms of human love, the most pure and highest is the parent's love for children, particularly mother's love. True love is not selfish, such is mother's love. Well, sometimes mother's love tries to bind you, such as trying to keep the child near even though the child is no longer a child, and similar things. But, ultimately, mother's love is not binding and selfish. The purest, most true and highest love ever is God's love. But this is a whole different topic... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hye_Acher Posted October 23, 2003 Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 does it matter when it comes to love?Sure it does…… according to statistics many marriages fall apart in this society because of the financial issues they face in the relationship—so go figure???? <_< Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted October 23, 2003 Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 Domino - while i might agree that there is not something really that is "true love" in the sense (outside of family etc)...I do believe that the definition that UKGIRL puts forth is a valid one for something at least approximating it - and I think that this type of love can stand the test of time (will it always - maybe not)...but in some/many cases it certainly does...(your too pessimistic I think...and I think you may need to experience such [or at least to have observed such in action] to really be able to fully comment)...its a wonderful thing really... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheekY Posted October 23, 2003 Author Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 Oh wait but how come I’ve seen couples (though not many) really happy together (despite being "poor")…old couples…wouldn’t you call that true love?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DominO123 Posted October 23, 2003 Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 Oh wait but how come I’ve seen couples (though not many) really happy together (despite being "poor")…old couples…wouldn’t you call that true love?? THe love that this couple has, has nothing to do with the love you have for your boyfriend. Both are two different love. The love which you refer here, is the love that two people have, for having lived years and years together, shared all those memories together, having seen their child grow, marry, and now ending alone both together, coming closer to death each day, and having only one another etc... Thoth, human biology contradict you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Armat Posted October 23, 2003 Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 Speaking of couples, marriage-I would like to add that marriage, as a whole is overrated institution. I am fine with my wife. We have our ups and down like everyone else. Love? I mostly agree with Domino. There is the intense infatuation period that is very romantic you know the time that every little thing your partner did or say was an act of holly grace but…there is always but… If only you could maintain that freshness and intensity…then you could have your ideal lover for life but as all things human familiarity becomes predicable and predicable becomes boring and once the acts you cherished in your lover now becomes irritating. What changed? Nothing only the thin film has been peeled away from fresh and new to used and familiar prone to breakdowns.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasun Posted October 23, 2003 Report Share Posted October 23, 2003 A little more deliberation: does true love involve hate? Suppose a man and woman love each other, they are crazy about each other, they like both virtues and vices of each other, get married, live happily, etc. Suppose the husband one day is late from home, the wife is very anxious, feels lonely, is suspicious, feels betrayed, feels whatever... and when the husband arrives, she gets angry and starts blaming the husband. At the end, they make peace and are all loving, the wife says that she is sorry to be angry at him, but she hated him because she loves her. So the wife is controlling the husband out of love. Is this true love or not?(It can very well be the other way) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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