Kazza Posted May 7, 2002 Report Share Posted May 7, 2002 Why can't i get over the fact that the man I adored for nearly a year is in love with (And I don't know if she returns it, or if they are dating) one of my friends.) Why does he, no matter how hard I try, think I am just dim, or a bimbo, with half a brain. He doesn't know I exist, never picks up the phone when (I used to! Have learnt my lesson now!) I used to text him and call him. He sticks next to her every minuite of the day, never leaves her side, always offering her lifts to here there, everywhere. Would do anything for her, wouldn't even let dust hall on her hair. He is the kindest, sweetest man I have ever known, his best comes out with everyone else yet at times he can really treat he bad. Why can't his love be mine? Doesn't he knoe that I would be there for him? He doesn't no. No matter what happens. So all I ask is that I can be happy for them and leave them to get on with it. But I have to see them every day, and then when I see how nice he is the old feelings come back. This is just torture for me, they are going away to uni together the following September, and I can't wait till they go and leave me in peace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted May 7, 2002 Report Share Posted May 7, 2002 Aww - I'm sorry to hear this Kaz. You deserve better. You (like all of us at one time or another) must face the fact that such feelings are not always mutually held and that there are many reasons why we are attracted to different people (or not). Please don't let this hurt your self esteem or such - its just the way of things & people and not because of "you". I'm sure - that with your very positve attitude and "exotic"/ ethnic looks you will soon find some (nice/handsome/exiting etc) guy to sweep you off your feet and worship you as you deserve. So cheer up! You have too much going for you to feel/stay depressed...relax, don't obssess, and everything will turn out great for you! cheers! [ May 07, 2002, 10:44 AM: Message edited by: THOTH ] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Fadi Posted May 7, 2002 Report Share Posted May 7, 2002 Kazza, with the energy you have shown on this board in the past, it is that man that should be on your feet kissing your shoes in order that you take him back. Don't worry you'll forgive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sdcheung Posted May 7, 2002 Report Share Posted May 7, 2002 Yeap..Love sucks Love Kills, and It causes depression. Unrequitted Loves sucks even worse. But Remember Just give them plenty of platonic love, and hope it'll blossom to Romantic Love. "Platonic Love is Like an Inactive Volcano-Andre Prevost" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sdcheung Posted May 8, 2002 Report Share Posted May 8, 2002 Also Kaz.."Boys are stupid and Girls Have Cooties" Boys are stupid and Girls have cooties Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sip Posted May 8, 2002 Report Share Posted May 8, 2002 I think I'll quote my idol and hero at this time: 1) "If something is hard then it is probably not worth doing."2) "Trying is the first step to failure." --Homer (not the homer you are thinking of ... or maybe it is?) I think those words to have VERY deep meanings and I try to live by them. Hope that cheered you up just a bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Fadi Posted May 8, 2002 Report Share Posted May 8, 2002 quote: (not the homer you are thinking of ... or maybe it is?) Yeap it is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kazza Posted May 8, 2002 Author Report Share Posted May 8, 2002 thank you for all your lovely replies. If I could marry a forum I would marry this one! Now I'm just being v.silly.... [ May 08, 2002, 10:29 AM: Message edited by: Kazza ] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hasmiek Posted May 8, 2002 Report Share Posted May 8, 2002 heya kazza! I can tell from experience; don't do this to yourself! There are plenty of nice men, and a lot of them probably already adore you but you don't see it coz you are fixed on this one guy who doesn't notice you...maybe it's a good thing that he's leaving to the uni, that at least keeps him out of your sight and with a little luck out of your heart. My brother is in a deep down now; last year he had a crush on this girl; he was completely in love with her. Meanwhile he had this friend he was working out with and going out with for beerst and everything (this is such a typical story, sorry for the cheesyness), anyway,he had something with the girl he had a crush on for a mont, and was left heartbroken (she dumped him for someone else), then he found out that his friend had a crush on him, but it was too late, he had moved to germany, and she met someone else now, with whom she broke up and everybody is miserably unhappy now. get it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hyebruin Posted March 30, 2003 Report Share Posted March 30, 2003 how sad:(((((( This is an example of what men are...selfish bastards who are only interested in sex...they marry when they realize they're not hot enough or strong enough to have more women at the same time...THE NATURE OF MEN IS TO BE INFIDEL... CHEATERS!...next time I meet someone new I'll enjoy making an ass out of them...greatest pleasure for a woman is not to love someone who will then (almost guaranteed!!) turn around and cheat on her...but! to play his dirty game...pretend to be nice and sweet and step all over his heart! This is what men deserve because this is what they are, not some dumb fantasy of knight in shining armour those bullshit fairy tales have been dishing out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted March 30, 2003 Report Share Posted March 30, 2003 Woah! thats pretty strong Hyebruin...I hope you really don't feel that way. Sure there are plenty of schmucks & such...but not all guys are so bad...really. I'm sue you will find someone nice one day...your experiences may have something to do with what you look for in a guy. What at first may seem attractive may not turn out to forebode longevity or such in a relationship...don't know really - but you shouldn't just give up so soon (IMO)... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vava Posted March 30, 2003 Report Share Posted March 30, 2003 quote:Originally posted by hyebruin:...THE NATURE OF MEN IS TO BE INFIDEL... CHEATERS!...next time I meet someone new I'll enjoy making an ass out of them...greatest pleasure for a woman is not to love someone .....[and] to play his dirty game...pretend to be nice and sweet and step all over his heart! Hi 'Bruin I must take exception to your rule. Personally i have never cheated on a woman I have loved. (well, only once - but I could hardly call it infedelity: I was 15 years old way back then and my hormones were out of control. I merely held hands with another girl... AND I got caught red-handed! ) But in all seriousness, I don't think that what you're implying with your post is true. Not all guys are dishonest jerks. There are plenty of honest, noble men out there just waiting for a real girl to love - someone simple, who's not out to play games. Unfortunately, more often than not, these poor souls end up with a woman who has been hurt, and is bent on seeking revenge against the male sex. And the cycle continues... We've all been hurt before... but it's important not to fall into the trap of bitterness, otherwise you end up becoming that which you hate - a hurtful, inconsiderate and loveless person... and I'm certain that you're none of those things Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sip Posted March 30, 2003 Report Share Posted March 30, 2003 quote:Originally posted by hyebruin:This is an example of what men are...selfish bastards who are only interested in sex...Ok, let's see now. "Shoes are just like men". "Men are selfish bastards who are only interested in sex". Therefore, we can conclude that shoes are selfish bastards who are only interested in sex. Well, one thing's for sure. I will not look at another shoe the same way as I used to [ March 30, 2003, 05:50 PM: Message edited by: Sip ] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hyebruin Posted March 31, 2003 Report Share Posted March 31, 2003 Thanks guys for being supportive...but, I reaaaaaly don't know about this one! everytime I think positive, I get proven wrong...guys ARE like shoes...they look nice, but then start pinching your feet all over and pretty soon start having a thing for your socks!!! even if they are worn out! that tells you a lot right there! and armenians are no freakin' exceptions either!!! Men (and I use that word loosely!) are confused about everything in life...including themselves and women, of course! Many girls are slowwwwly coming to this conclusion! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted April 1, 2003 Report Share Posted April 1, 2003 Hyebruin - thats funny really - as most guys think similarly about girls...its the old Mars & Venus thing I guess. Back when I was (well I would guess) your age I had a very good friend (and roomate)...actually he is still a good friend...well he was basically a super hunk type of guy. He's half Coation and half Irish (of all things) - tall/dark/well built/athletic/in great shape/etc...Gals were always after him - in extreme ways that you probably wouldn't even believe. They left (explicit) love notes on his motorcycle, they basically threw themselves at him. Once I returned to our place from somewhere I was out at night and there was a party going on at our place. When I went to my room he was there with this gal who had disrobed and was attempting to do the same to him...she was all over him (he wasn't interested...but as usual was basically duped on some pretext of checking out something in my room...likely liquor - I had a full bar built into my room - well stocked too!) ...anyway I helped him get her clothes back on and escort out of my room. On another occasion a (very pretty) gal invited him over to her place under the pretense that she was throwing some sort of party...but in fact he was the only one invited and met him at her door in a red neglige...anyway they dated for a while...but after he had extracted himself from the relationship he actually swore off women - lasted perhaps over a year. He thought women were manipulators who were only after his body...etc So it can go both ways. He did have a problem (because of his good looks and great disposition etc) there were several instances where gals would get pregnant in hopes he would marry them (and of course they liead about being on the pill etc) - it was actually really tough for him (of course most of us guys would dream about such...)...but it was funny/eduicational for me to see what he was going through. He actually swore off women - declared himself celibate (and kept to it...) - yet gals were constantly all over him. I just wanted to pass this on becuase - as in most cases - it goes both ways...its not just guys who can be wierd about these things...(all is a terue story in fact...and thankfully he is happily married to a really nice gal now...but his life has not been without some pretty strange and difficult times relationship wise...) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hyebruin Posted April 1, 2003 Report Share Posted April 1, 2003 thanks for sharing that Thoth... but, I still don't know! somehow I think those women had a better clue of what they wanted than men do! don't you think? I'm sure those girls...well, they're girls after all...they did not want just sex...would have been a matter of time before one/or more of them really fell for him! and besides women have hearts, whereas men don't...and you know, as times change people overall are becoming more callous, heartless, goal-oriented... and if they don't have any goals...self-oriented! I don't understand or see the point of why a guy would even want a relationship...I even heard this one jerk say that it is no different than being with a hooker! what can I say? this is how "men" are these days....sickens me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted April 1, 2003 Report Share Posted April 1, 2003 hyebruin, don't know maybe...but with my friend most of the time the gals just wanted sex from him (and this was sometimes very explicitly said...)...or they were in a relationship with him and the sex was good, and he was an absolute hunk, and he was/is a very decent guy - a great guy actually...so they wanted to kep him, forever like...LOL - even in relationships where he would clearly state that he wasn't interested in any long tern thing - right up front - didn't matter. In fact I was present when he told different gals that he was only interested in the sex (this was after he was already burnt out etc)...and they would say OK! ...but it never turned out that they were satisfied with this...it was really all something to see...meanwhile the rest of us (prety much nice/decent) guys were struggling just to get a date, etc...so, no - I think gals are just as warped/screwed up (and sometimes just as calous) in their expectations and relations... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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