hasmiek

one of the nicest first dates i had was when I met this guy, lets call him S. in university, we decided to go to a student protest thing the next day wich was in another city. we would both ask other people to join so we could go with a whole bunch of people and protest really fanatically. So I didn't ask anyone, because i'd rather be with just him; and he had done the same thing, so at the trainstation, the 'group protest' turned into a date. We went to the protest for 2.5 minutes, and then spent the whole afternoon in the park drinking wine and eating liquerish and other candy and ended up really sick and in love. the ending is less happy, but that's for another forum.

hmm, i don't thinks so... and you should see it on a big screen! Otherwise one would probably fall asleep -there is hardly any talking in it. it's very much an image film...

heya! last week I spent the whole week watching movies at the rotterdam film festival, there I saw this armenian film/documentary (it is something in between) by Harutyun Khachatryan, called "documentarist" or "vaveragrogh" in Armenian...I have to say I was sceptical when i went but the film was amazingly impressing and filmed beautifully. would advise it to anyone if you have the chance to see it! (but be ready, it gives a kinda depressing image of armenia) you van read more about it on this link http://www.filmfestivalrotterdam.com/en/film/29685.html

Stormy, I soo understand that! the thing is I can't say wether i'm a believer or not, i just don't know, don't think about it to much and am very satified with the 'i don't know' mindset i'm in. And I like to go to the weddings, but picturing myself in it makes me feel very weird. that's why I guess I'd rather not get married at all...

David, Love, trust, comfort, warmth, humor,common interests,intelligence...good reasons to be with a man eventough he is not Armenian. And I live my life as me (an individual), not as an Armenian, the 'being Armenian' is definetely a part of me, but not everything... my boyfriend by the way knows Armenian tradition very well, he's been with me to weddings and baptisms, easter and everything, met my whole family, been stuffed by my mom with loads and loads of food (she thinks we're to skinny), plays backgammon and cards with my dad, and is learning a little bit of armenain, it's getting harder to speak behinhd his back already. but still, you can't force anyone to believe in God.

white signifies a color that make me look very pale, so pale that i look pretty dead, pretty but dead.

what happended armogirl? something that wouldn't have with an armenian guy? well, then to finish up the story; we wanted to comprimise to my parents last night, we would set a wedding date, but they shouldn't have to much expectations of it becoming a church wedding. We came up with the plan to have a seventies disco wedding party on a boat in the docks of rotterdam (really fascinating place!). But I would get married in a white dress( I live with my bf for a couple of years now), it is just not my style. But the no white dress thing made my mom even angrier than she allready was...

many wise words here (and some lesser wise, yet funny), it is good to be back... The Ph.D thing is something I won't let go of, also because i'm pretty far in the running for a huge scholarship. No matter what my mom says...and I don't see why I wouldn't be able to get married and have a child during the Ph.D (I somehow see Sip going nononooooo now). (is your research finished yet?) well, I do have to say that i'm shocked to say how many people say that one could get baptized without believing in church and God. I find that very weird, if you do that what is still true, and why get married? You commit yourself to God, but just avoid a fight with your mother in law...so what will the commitment of marriage then mean? And to answer the questions about what my boyfriend and I want of this relationship; he wants to get married, but not in church ( I don't think sending him over to you guys would really help to change his mind...but thanks for the offer). And I'm not so focussed on gettin' married in church and I don't really feel like a typical marriage... Babies we want within 2 years. So we do have a planning in a way. well then...

yeah i'm finanially indepentent, but my mom is even interrupting with that: i'm after a PHD position, but my parent are REALLY against that, because i'm 28 and should think about having children and buying a house. I have lived my own life, moved out at 18, travelled, have done everything I wanted (at least tried to), but now it seems that my whole family has had it or something. thankfully my big brother is still with me. Maybe it's selfish, but i'm the only one who leads my life so I figure that I get to make the decisions. anyways, about the churchwedding, I see what yout point of view is TOTH, but still...at first I thought about it the same way, he should just do it for me, but I do understand his point of view now. He doesn't believe in God in anyway, so getting baptised would be a very hypocrit thing to do. I think this is quite a difficult issue...thanks for the advice anyways...

hello everyone! i've got a question...I'm in a relationship for about 6 years now, and my parents have allways been ok with me being with an non armenian (odar as we call it) ...but now suddenly they are pushing us to get married. And, of course, get married in the Armenian way. Since my boyfriend doesn't believe in God, he doesn't want to be baptised, which means there will be no marriage in church. My Mom doesn't really accept that, so that's one problem. The other problem is that I don't feel like getting married yet. did some of you guys have simiral problems and if so how can this be solved, chrismas wil be a nightmare with the current atmosphere in mu family!!!

hmmm, isn't true love also true friendship. At least in my case my boyfriend is also my best friend....and with most couples i know that is also the case... makes life a lot easier! [ December 03, 2002, 03:47 AM: Message edited by: hasmiek ]

wowie QRISTINE, for a pure armenian girl you seem to be pretty sharp. you should watch out otherwise no pure armenian boy would want to marry you.. what's 'pure armenian' anyway? [ December 02, 2002, 02:49 AM: Message edited by: hasmiek ]

heya Sip! This summer I quit my job at Philips, it did't feel right anymore to work on more and more useless products...and it bothered me that i was spending my life in an environment which sucked every bit of energy ou of me. (so thankfull that I didn't buy a house yet or have children, quitting a job must be much more difficult then) well do you remember I signed up for a sustainable design phd program- that didn't work out, there was a problem at the university with the finances. So there is was, no job, no PHD...so i went travelling to spain and morocco for a while, which was fantasic, eventhough I had (have) no security , I feel so much more ALIVE! anyways, sometimes if yoy step away from your possesions and yoyr daily life it can be so relieving and eye-opening, it can make you remember how pretty life can be. ...did this make sense to this subject? [ October 18, 2002, 05:52 AM: Message edited by: hasmiek ]

well stated Sip!!! I only make my bed when my mom comes to visit... when i lived at my parentshouse i had to make my bed otherwise i would be in pain...

quote: It can also be an advantage to be in the opposition. From there you can make a lot of noise and you can definitely make yourself be heard. that's very true; you can say a lot more in the oppossition; however -what i meant to say i guess - it's a lot more difficult to change things... by the way; i think it's very admirable that you put your dedication in this rouben and elly/Aghtchik