Ani Posted August 3, 2006 Report Share Posted August 3, 2006 Hi everyone... I see many smart, intelligent people here, and i would like to ask the good, old question. Love and Jealousy...Is it true that they are roommates and One doesnt exist without Another? Is Jealuosy a package deal that comes with Love? Or there are people who Love, Trust and Dont ask questions... Please respond!!! Thanx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kakachik77 Posted August 3, 2006 Report Share Posted August 3, 2006 I don't think they go hand in hand. I read in one book that people who try to make their partner really jealous are indeed seeking more attention from their partner. And I honestly don't think you can love somebody who you don't trust, you can be smitten but sooner or later the mistrust is going to win over. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aratta-Kingdom Posted August 7, 2006 Report Share Posted August 7, 2006 I don't think they go hand in hand. I read in one book that people who try to make their partner really jealous are indeed seeking more attention from their partner. And I honestly don't think you can love somebody who you don't trust, you can be smitten but sooner or later the mistrust is going to win over. Lady in red, i couldn't have said it better. Those making their partner jealous are indeed seeking more attention. Of all the delusions the society imposes on us the worst is to make us belive that there is a truth in a lie. Faith is the foundation of love. Jelaousy has no place in love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Takoush Posted August 7, 2006 Report Share Posted August 7, 2006 (edited) If jealousy has no place in love, then how come most of us that do love someone dearly feel jealousy towards our loved one once in a while. I think no matter how much one tries it is impossible never to feel jealousy towards someone we love and want to hold on to. I think that to feel secure about a love also comes from our love's reassuring us their love towards us. And if they never give us that reassurance, then it's time to chuck that lover. But sometimes it's hard never to feel or react towards the green monster. How about some lovers or husbands who cheat. Then a woman is bound to feel jealousy and rightfully so. Edited August 7, 2006 by Anahid Takouhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ani Posted August 7, 2006 Author Report Share Posted August 7, 2006 Lady in red, i couldn't have said it better. Those making their partner jealous are indeed seeking more attention. Of all the delusions the society imposes on us the worst is to make us belive that there is a truth in a lie. Faith is the foundation of love. Jelaousy has no place in love. I agree with you 100%...i wanted to ask this question, because there is a program on "H1" called "Love Stories". Famous people are invited and asked to tell their love stories. The host asks this question to everyone, and 99% says that "Ete Sirumes Xand@ anpakas e" And i think the base for every relationship (friendship, marriage,etc) is trust. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Takoush Posted August 7, 2006 Report Share Posted August 7, 2006 I agree with you 100%...i wanted to ask this question, because there is a program on "H1" called "Love Stories". Famous people are invited and asked to tell their love stories. The host asks this question to everyone, and 99% says that "Ete Sirumes Xand@ anpakas e" And i think the base for every relationship (friendship, marriage,etc) is trust. In the best case scenario and circumstances, especially in a marriage; yes trust is very important. But suppose your husband cheats on you, then how could you not feel jealousy and then how could you trust and feel secure after that? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Em Posted August 7, 2006 Report Share Posted August 7, 2006 Let's look at it from a different angle: the guy is the one cheating or has cheated in the past, yet he is the one always expecting the wife to cheat and being overly jealouse of every single innocent glance, spoken word. It's just like the saying a thief is always expecting to be robbed, since he is always entertaining such thoughts himself. I have heard in the past men telling their wives/ girlfriends that the reason they are so controlling or overly jealouse is because they care for them so much ( "If I didn't love you so much I wouldn't care if you walked around naked or went anywhere you wanted to"). A little xand is healthy and is naturally present in most relationships, but it shouldn't become a roomate which takes up as much room as LOVE. Finally, I always have wondered why some men keep such a "short leash" on a woman they suspect may cheat. Why not give them space and some freedom? After all, if she is going to cheat then she will and you can part ways, but if she isn't the type and nothing happens then you will be able to put your thoughts to rest and give her the respect she deserves. Just my opinion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ani Posted August 7, 2006 Author Report Share Posted August 7, 2006 (edited) Let's look at it from a different angle: the guy is the one cheating or has cheated in the past, yet he is the one always expecting the wife to cheat and being overly jealouse of every single innocent glance, spoken word. It's just like the saying a thief is always expecting to be robbed, since he is always entertaining such thoughts himself. I have heard in the past men telling their wives/ girlfriends that the reason they are so controlling or overly jealouse is because they care for them so much ( "If I didn't love you so much I wouldn't care if you walked around naked or went anywhere you wanted to"). A little xand is healthy and is naturally present in most relationships, but it shouldn't become a roomate which takes up as much room as LOVE. Finally, I always have wondered why some men keep such a "short leash" on a woman they suspect may cheat. Why not give them space and some freedom? After all, if she is going to cheat then she will and you can part ways, but if she isn't the type and nothing happens then you will be able to put your thoughts to rest and give her the respect she deserves. Just my opinion. When i brought up the question ..I meant "xand", not way up to cheating, its a different story..a little "xand" that bothers people to live... 1.Why did you smile at him?... 2.Why did you look towards them?... 3.He stares at you, because you are looked at him... Absurd things like this are everyday issues for some people (trust me i knew families like this) "amen inch chapi mej e gexecik" ...Erevi "xand"@ ir chap@ uni, bayc shat shut chap@ korcnume, manavand hay txaneri mot, manavand 3rd bazhakic heto:) (Es verji mas@ kataker, txaner chjxaynanak) Edited August 7, 2006 by Ani777 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aratta-Kingdom Posted August 7, 2006 Report Share Posted August 7, 2006 (edited) I agree with you 100%...i wanted to ask this question, because there is a program on "H1" called "Love Stories". Famous people are invited and asked to tell their love stories. The host asks this question to everyone, and 99% says that "Ete Sirumes Xand@ anpakas e" And i think the base for every relationship (friendship, marriage,etc) is trust. With pre-conditioned thoughts the same ignorant crowd 200 years ago was voting to burn people in the town square for saying the earth is not flat. Edited August 7, 2006 by ArmoArmeN Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aratta-Kingdom Posted August 7, 2006 Report Share Posted August 7, 2006 I think that to feel secure about a love also comes from our love's reassuring us their love towards us. And if they never give us that reassurance, then it's time to chuck that lover. Yes indeed! Jealousy is directly associated with the sense, the thought of loss. Love, on the other hand, is the base of creationism. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hijabbed Posted August 7, 2006 Report Share Posted August 7, 2006 Not neccessarly no. Jealousy is an evil thing when it comes in between love and it can ruin ones life. We should all learn to trust and respect each other. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aratta-Kingdom Posted August 8, 2006 Report Share Posted August 8, 2006 (edited) Not neccessarly no. Jealousy is an evil thing when it comes in between love and it can ruin ones life. We should all learn to trust and respect each other. "Salam to all ( peace to all )" Qez nuynpes xaghagutyun. Are you a turk, an arab, or maybe persian? Edited August 8, 2006 by ArmoArmeN Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aratta-Kingdom Posted August 8, 2006 Report Share Posted August 8, 2006 "Salam to all ( peace to all )" http://hyeforum.com/index.php?act=Search&a...sult_type=posts Qez nuynpes xaghagutyun. Are you a turk, an arab, or maybe persian? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ani Posted August 8, 2006 Author Report Share Posted August 8, 2006 He/she is muslim for sure..I searched on google for"hijabbed", if i understood right, its the clothes their women wear, it has to close everything exept the face and the palms... Here goes a video about it My Webpage Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ani Posted August 8, 2006 Author Report Share Posted August 8, 2006 He/she is muslim for sure..I searched on google for"hijabbed", if i understood right, its the clothes their women wear, it has to close everything exept the face and the palms... Here goes a video about it My Webpage ^^^^ Its actually not "My webpage" ...I just didnt know how to create a hyperlink:( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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