ExtraHye Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 If you could change one thing about yourself, what would that be? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SirumemKez20 Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 my hair it's curly, I straighten it every day...curly hair is too much problem... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 My depressed-all-the-time mood. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maral Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 Just one??????????????????????????? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasun Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 If you could change one thing about yourself, what would that be? do you mean physically or anything? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExtraHye Posted December 11, 2003 Author Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 do you mean physically or anything? Anything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasun Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 I wish I could change to be more disciplined.(Actually I want more things to change, but you are only allowing one ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anoushik Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 I wish I could be less of a procrastinator. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anileve Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 I would have liked to have longer and furrier ears. By the way that evoked some memories. I was once having a conversation with a friend about the things I would like to change about myself, giving examples based solely on my ideology and my personality. Then I asked her if she would have liked to change anything about her personality to which she replied: “I wouldn’t change anything about my personality, but I would have liked to have a bigger bosom.” I was stunned that her “change” was solely based on the physical image influenced by the society’s standards, rather than the spiritual aspect. However, that on its own is an emotional matter; perhaps indirectly it reflected her lack of self esteem. Thus I don’t quite understand the desire of prioritizing a change of one's physical image over their psychological improvement. I believe that this aspiration for perfection in their appearance is rooted in the constraint of their mentality. Therefore shouldn’t we always strive to change certain aspects in our views or our behavior instead? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 I wish I could be less of a procrastinator. oooh, hello fellow procrastinator. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anoushik Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 Thus I don’t quite understand the desire of prioritizing a change of one's physical image over their psychological improvement. I believe that this aspiration for perfection in their appearance is rooted in the constraint of their mentality. Therefore shouldn’t we always strive to change certain aspects in our views or our behavior instead? actually, anileve, one's physical image directly reflects one's self esteem. Every person is very aware how other people find their physical appearance. And it is pretty obvious if people generally find them attractive, not attractive, or in between. And since attractive people usually get more attention they are the ones to be more outspoken and self-confident since they know they are liked even if they say stupidities. (Of course, I am generalizing a bit.) Ones people have confidence in how other people perceive them physically, psychologically they will also change to be more confident in their behavior. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anoushik Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 oooh, hello fellow procrastinator. Dan, it's so annoying, isn't it? ...You know that you're in control of yourself and that little voice in your head keeps telling you to go ahead and start whatever you're supposed to be doing, but somehow, everytime, everything gets left until the last minute....What should I doooooo! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anileve Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 Every person is very aware how other people find their physical appearance. And it is pretty obvious if people generally find them attractive, not attractive, or in between. And since attractive people usually get more attention they are the ones to be more outspoken and self-confident since they know they are liked even if they say stupidities. (Of course, I am generalizing a bit.) Ones people have confidence in how other people perceive them physically, psychologically they will also change to be more confident in their behavior. Anoushik jan I strongly disagree! (you should already be familiar with this statement) Sure the society we live in is highly conscious of “supposed beauty”, although that is left to an individual interpretation of the word. However, I have encountered many many many people who are considered “Gorgeous” by general standards, and despite that they are extremely insecure. People will always seek flaws in each other, that is unfortunately human nature, thus no one is excluded from harsh judgments. Therefore if the person is solely relying on her/his looks, he lacks substance and is vulnerable to a possibility that their beauty might fade with age and a fear of not having anything else to contribute results in the worst kind of insecurity. The kind where, you don’t consider yourself worth anything if you don’t have beauty. However confidence and high self esteem goes a long way and has a much more grounded legacy. Confident people don’t rely on others to find them attractive or significant; they are self sufficient, that is why I find them a lot happier and stronger. Plus it is really confidence that makes one attractive and desirable and nothing else. Beauty is just not lasting or reliable, plus it is very vague and subjective, without substance no matter how much one alters his/her appearance it will never be satisfactory and will become redundant and false. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anoushik Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 Plus it is really confidence that makes one attractive and desirable and nothing else. I very much agree with this statement. I know a lot of people that just seem to draw people to themselves because they are so confident. However, if early in life, in school for example, a person has been usually ignored or made to feel unattractive, then in his psyche he will develop a complex about his image and the way people perceive him at first - meaning his physical being. And because he knows this, no matter how intelligent he is, that's going to affect how he approaches new individuals. Don't you think so, anileve? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheekY Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 i wish i had kylie minogue's body but of course taller lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheekY Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 nah i changed my mind Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anileve Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 However, if early in life, in school for example, a person has been usually ignored or made to feel unattractive, then in his psyche he will develop a complex about his image and the way people perceive him at first - meaning his physical being. And because he knows this, no matter how intelligent he is, that's going to affect how he approaches new individuals. Don't you think so, anileve? How do you then explain people who are not attractive by “standard” merits, but are always surrounded by people that admire them, and are the most marketable partners? The truth is that confidence doesn’t come from your physical appeal, but rather the love you receive from your family and education, and the most importantly, a source of confidence is the ability, excuse my French, to just say “Frankly my dear I don’t give a rats ass, about what everyone thinks! ” If you can engrave it in your mind you will start believing in yourself and you will obtain that confidence. That particular way of thinking is very evident in their attitude towards others, because a secure and confident individual almost never imposes any vicious judgments and criticism onto others. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anoushik Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 How do you then explain people who are not attractive by “standard” merits, but are always surrounded by people that admire them, and are the most marketable partners? I can't explain that but I know that I also admire people like them. But I think it also has to do with age. As a person gets older he realizes that there are so many more things in life. As you can see from the replies by younger members physical appearance is important and affects one's self-esteem and self-confidence. Being young myself, I guess I was speaking from my point of view. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BitterSweet Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 ux, this reminded me of a old friend of mine from from high school during his stage of development, he wasn't considered as part of the "cool" guys, anyway.... NOW that he has grown and "developed" (after long hours at the gym, change of style, and change of hair-do) he is OVERDOING IT! He is very attractive now, but it seems as though he thinks that that's all there is! He has moved from books to 'babes.' since he had never recieved that kind of attention, and all of a sudden started recieving too much... he's gotten carried away with it... I hope he realizes SOON, that his looks are will only get him so far. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anileve Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 (edited) Anoushik, I don’t know how young you are, but you are very articulate, and have very solid views. It comes with age? Sure, a possibility, but some people just never acquire that. I personally think it comes from your upbringing, your values, education and your family’s love. And when you stop caring about what other people think of you and laugh at yourself from time to time, I promise you, sense of freedom and empowerment is gained, which you can’t obtain from all the plastic surgeries in the world! Edited December 11, 2003 by anileve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheekY Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 (edited) i blame the media...that's the reason most teens and some adults feel ugly when they're not!! everyone wants to look like the stars or the sexy dancers, models etc... and besides men almost always want pretty younger girls... Edited December 11, 2003 by skittles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azat Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 my age. I wish I was 15 again Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExtraHye Posted December 11, 2003 Author Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 my age. I wish I was 15 again But we all now your way older then that. How old are you again.... are you 21 years old? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Armo77 Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 maybe more hair on my head <_< .. Ahhh.. I really like myself the way I am though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azat Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 But we all now your way older then that. How old are you again.... are you 21 years old? you are an angel. thanks dfor making me feel good, but I am not 21, I turned 22 last July Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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