shiner Posted October 29, 2003 Report Share Posted October 29, 2003 The U.S. is a very diverse country not only because of its ethnic makeup but also because it allows each individual to develop uniquely. Since everyone is so different in so many ways it is much harder to find common ground with people, than it is in more homogeneous, traditional societies. So basically everyone is in their own little corner by themselves (as far as personality, ideas, philosophies, feelings, etc). Everyone has a major part of themselves that they will never be able to share with anyone else (since no one else can relate to it). But in social situations everyone wants to get along and have a jolly good time. That's why the subjects discussed are so trivial. No one can afford to show their deep self. It's all an act. And this act is carried through (and altered) to every interaction people have (ex. job interviews, fights, dates, etc.). Very seldomly can you afford to show your true, true self (and even then it takes a while). I would never trade this life style for any other (where I can share everything with everyone like "old world" homogeneous societies). But sometimes I feel repressed (in the sense that I have to hide my true emotions and put on an act). I know many others feel this way. Since this is a relatively anonymous forum, do ya'll feel this? Or what do you think of this as a general phenomenon? You are less likely to feel this way if you are an immigrant still living in your respective immigrant pocket interacting exclusively with former compatriotes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Armat Posted October 29, 2003 Report Share Posted October 29, 2003 You are less likely to feel this way if you are an immigrant still living in your respective immigrant pocket interacting exclusively with former compatriotes. Hi ShinerIf you live in LA then you are automatically live in some kind of immigrant pocket. Glendale, Pasadena, East Hollywood, North Hollywood, are mostly Armenian towns so you won't feel the way you do but generally in the East coast NY, Boston people are more real. I mean they are less superficial. When I first moved to Boston from LA I thought people here were rude but later I understood that I was partially influenced by the shallowness in LA.I do feel the way you do at times and I find refuge in my work. I also remember lot of sweet talking neighbors in Erevan who secretly despised us so... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted October 29, 2003 Report Share Posted October 29, 2003 Well shiner - understand what your saying...though its funny how - for all the seeming variation - most people fall into the same predictable patterns... I on the other hand have always bee a true original - LOL - really some truth to that...and I am certainly always myslef in any situation...and rarely hold back (my opinions and being me...etc)...sure maybe its gotten me into trouble here & there...yes...but I couldn't have it any other way... Oh & here is one for you-all - (comes from the entertainment industry) Q -How do you say FU to someone in LA? A -"Trust me" (a line I used recently to an Auto salesmen when he stated just that (trust me)..."you said what? - well to me this means you just told me...." etc Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Armat Posted October 29, 2003 Report Share Posted October 29, 2003 (edited) I on the other hand have always bee a true original - LOL - really some truth to that...and I am certainly always myslef in any situation...and rarely hold back (my opinions and being me...etc)...sure maybe its gotten me into trouble here & there...yes...but I couldn't have it any other way...Thoth, I got fired three times because of my originality but now that I pay the bills,mortgage,kids,chess leasons etc. I can't be selfish and act real at work or I will get fired again...I am mostly real but at work sometimes I get real frustrated not being able to say... Edited October 29, 2003 by Armat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted October 29, 2003 Report Share Posted October 29, 2003 Yeah Armat - I hear you...and have dealt with/been impacted by similar...but most that work with me just know how I am...and that I speak my mind...so don't know - what do I care really...I've even gotten in trouble (a bit) before concerning racial stuff - where my bosses felt I was out of line etc...but the Bros had no problem with me - I was just talking frankly ad being honest/myself etc...and they knew I wasn't racist..etc - oh well - what can you do...crazy world sometimes... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gamavor Posted January 29, 2007 Report Share Posted January 29, 2007 I would never trade this life style for any other (where I can share everything with everyone like "old world" homogeneous societies). But sometimes I feel repressed (in the sense that I have to hide my true emotions and put on an act). I know many others feel this way. For that matter HyeForum exists and is so popular For everything else there is MasterCard Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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