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Marriage: the leap into the unknown


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sip, you are so cute today!!! :rolleyes: ~~~ i feel sooooo good today!! bought an emerald cool looking nailpolish along with a hot sexy red!! i nEeDEd that sexy red!!! oh yeahhhhhh!!! B)

Well very good (and better then yesterday...)...happy to have been a part of it...mmm...I concur regarding the red! :yes:

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Sip - your little product reminds me of the scene in the woody allen movie Sleeper...where he gets into that machine to hide and stays in a bit too long ...And can you imagine the addicts (for your drug)? I'm bad enough without it already! LOL
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From Frank Sinatra, Married With Children's generic song

 

love and marriage, love and marriage

go together like a horse and carriage

this i tell you brother

you can't have one without the other

 

love and marriage, love and marriage

it's an institute you can't disparage

ask the local gentry

and they will say it's elementary

 

try, try, try to separate them

it's an illusion

try, try, try, and you will only come

to this conclusion

 

love and marriage, love and marriage

go together like a horse and carriage

dad was told by mother

you can't have one without the other

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Hi guys,

I'm a newbie to HyeForum, Armenian, born in the US, very happily married for 16 yrs to an American, (predominantly Irish, so we call him Irishian) and I've spent the last couple of hours reading all around this site. You guys are great! It is so fun seeing the opinions and *mostly* friendly debates between all these diverse Armenians! I wanted to post on one of these topics and introduce myself, because you guys have inspired lots of opinions from me as well! I will start here because I just have such passion about this topic. Please excuse my loooong first post!

 

I think that marriage is the best thing ever, IF it's what you truly want, and IF you marry the right person! I know this is easier said than done, but there is some basic logic involved here. In general, people don't change their true nature very much. If you marry someone expecting to change or fix them in some way, then GOOD LUCK!!! You will need it. On the other hand, if you are open and honest about everything beforehand, and you connect emotionally, intellectually, physically and spiritually, then there is nothing better on earth. Ladies, demand respect, and respect your men, don't treat them like they are stupid, build them up, they are yours! Guys, don't let old ways of thinking or pride turn you cold and bitter in your relationship. Don't be afraid to talk things out, and treat your wife like she is precious to you. The payoff is yours in ~every~ way! ;)

 

Here is what you need in a nutshell, all are required elements! :) : Mutual Respect, Spirituality, Chemistry (physical attraction, very personal~ finding the other person sexy), Kindness, Humor!!!, similar intelligence, compatible goals (monogamy, kids, etc), and, most important, no red flags (psycho behavior, drug problem, lying, physical or verbal abuse in any form, it will only get worse after marriage!) Always remember, some words can't be taken back. I'm sure there is an old Armenian saying about that... anyone? :)

 

I married my hubby one year from the day we met. I was 21 years old, and knew within two months that he was my soulmate. I had been burned before, and went in cautiously, but could see he was very sincere. Just trust your gut, choose wisely, and have a nice life! :inlove: All this said... It's a scary world to be single in! (Dear God, please help my daughters find someone as great as their dad!!)

Hugs 2 all of you!

-trueboo

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Yeah, trueboo, whydja wait so long to post? :)

Marriage - can't do with it unless for some weird reason I decided to have kids (can't imagine)... I'll always want to have adventure, can't have someone sitting on their bum telling me I can't because we're married and must do things together and I can't do what I like because he wouldn't want to do it. :huh: And I wouldn't want to end up like my mother - she NEVER does anything for herself. If it's not my grandmother that needs caring, it's the rest of the family, if not, it's the dogthat needs feeding so she has to rush back home and all that crap. Phooey... It is so against my nature, this sense of responsibility towards others. I mean, I can understand the dog can't fend for itself, but so what if it goes hungry for a few hours and/or someone else feeds it? Needless to say, when I am away from home, and I never call, I get called and admonished and asked why I am not calling. :huh: I mean, what does that change? If you need help, yeah, call me and I'll help - otherwise, leave me the HELL alone!

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Hi there and welcome Trueboo...and I'm very happy for you that you have found your bliss!

 

And Stormy...get back to us in 5-10 years and let us know if you feel the same (regarding marraige and being responsible for another/others etc)...though perhaps its just not in your nature and maybe marraige & family is just not for you...but I suspect your attitude could change if you meet the right guy and such. I agree with some of what you say however - concerning being told what to do etc - who wnats that - its got to be mutual IMO.

 

You should check out the Todd Rungren tune - "property" that I posted the lyrics too over in one of the music threads (hold on a bit and I'll link to it...)

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Property 1.0

Composer: Todd Rundgren

 

 

I'll be your fantasy, but I won't be your property

Love you eternally, but I'll never be your property

Love from me's not guaranteed

Just because you think I'm property

I can love you totally and still not be your property

 

Every girl and boy wants to grow up to be loved someday

And you can't wait to give your heart away

But it's like worship in their eyes walking down the aisle

When you slip on that ring, they start to treat you like a thing, yeah

 

I call it slavery when you call someone your property

Don't waste your vanity, I will never be your property

 

Something wonderful happens when people fall in love

Your happiness is all they're thinking of

But it's like "anything you say" 'til the wedding day

When they get it in ink, they start to tell you what to think, yeah

 

Darkest day in history when someone invented property

Cause of our misery is the constant lust for property

 

Since god began it, we've been dividing up the planet

When you see something you want it

You've got to put your name tag on it

And we go on carving, meanwhile half the world is starving

It's a crime .. hands off what is mine!

 

Take all you can 'til you slam on the parking brake

And you need space to make your own mistakes

But it's like "I won't hold you back" 'til the bags are packed

Then they're struttin' about like they own you inside out

 

I call it slavery (you can't make me a slave),

when you call someone your property

Don't waste your vanity (don't be so vain),

I will never be your property

Darkest day in history (why did you have to do a thing like that)

when someone invented property

Cause of our misery (misery, misery)

is the constant lust for property

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