trueboo

Hi guys, I'm a newbie to HyeForum, Armenian, born in the US, very happily married for 16 yrs to an American, (predominantly Irish, so we call him Irishian) and I've spent the last couple of hours reading all around this site. You guys are great! It is so fun seeing the opinions and *mostly* friendly debates between all these diverse Armenians! I wanted to post on one of these topics and introduce myself, because you guys have inspired lots of opinions from me as well! I will start here because I just have such passion about this topic. Please excuse my loooong first post! I think that marriage is the best thing ever, IF it's what you truly want, and IF you marry the right person! I know this is easier said than done, but there is some basic logic involved here. In general, people don't change their true nature very much. If you marry someone expecting to change or fix them in some way, then GOOD LUCK!!! You will need it. On the other hand, if you are open and honest about everything beforehand, and you connect emotionally, intellectually, physically and spiritually, then there is nothing better on earth. Ladies, demand respect, and respect your men, don't treat them like they are stupid, build them up, they are yours! Guys, don't let old ways of thinking or pride turn you cold and bitter in your relationship. Don't be afraid to talk things out, and treat your wife like she is precious to you. The payoff is yours in ~every~ way! Here is what you need in a nutshell, all are required elements! : Mutual Respect, Spirituality, Chemistry (physical attraction, very personal~ finding the other person sexy), Kindness, Humor!!!, similar intelligence, compatible goals (monogamy, kids, etc), and, most important, no red flags (psycho behavior, drug problem, lying, physical or verbal abuse in any form, it will only get worse after marriage!) Always remember, some words can't be taken back. I'm sure there is an old Armenian saying about that... anyone? I married my hubby one year from the day we met. I was 21 years old, and knew within two months that he was my soulmate. I had been burned before, and went in cautiously, but could see he was very sincere. Just trust your gut, choose wisely, and have a nice life! All this said... It's a scary world to be single in! (Dear God, please help my daughters find someone as great as their dad!!) Hugs 2 all of you! -trueboo