allarmeniangirl Posted January 24, 2004 Report Share Posted January 24, 2004 naw, allarmeniangirl, only punching pillows makes me angry, not pillows in general. well i should hope not, cuz it would be kind of scary and funny to come in while ur sleeping and see u attacking a pillow in ur sleep. haha i was kidding btw. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angel4hope Posted January 24, 2004 Author Report Share Posted January 24, 2004 well since you all shared what you do, it wuld be fair to share mine 2...when im sad or pissed off i just keep it to myself and cry cry cry till it al comes out....its usually hatd for me to confront people because i dont like fighting and commotion, and im always afraid of hurting people's feeling...so instead i end up hurting my own....its just that sometimes i feel like im really stupid and no matter what people do to me and are rude to me i still cant be the same....because i feel like they step all over me and i let them....i guess thats why i have problems with friends...because i dont show that they hurt me unless it really really gets to me and scars me.....so since i was young...when id get picked on in school....id just go in a conrer and cry....and get called a crybaby...but now i find that crying helps but talking helps more...usually when im having a problem with someone...i ry to avoid contact with them till we both cool off..then later when were both cooled off..i try to explain my feelings and listen to theirs...i dunno...life sux alot sometimes..but if you always look at the sad shitt youll miss all the good things...so i try to smile again! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allarmeniangirl Posted January 24, 2004 Report Share Posted January 24, 2004 well since you all shared what you do, it wuld be fair to share mine 2...when im sad or pissed off i just keep it to myself and cry cry cry till it al comes out....its usually hatd for me to confront people because i dont like fighting and commotion, and im always afraid of hurting people's feeling...so instead i end up hurting my own....its just that sometimes i feel like im really stupid and no matter what people do to me and are rude to me i still cant be the same....because i feel like they step all over me and i let them....i guess thats why i have problems with friends...because i dont show that they hurt me unless it really really gets to me and scars me.....so since i was young...when id get picked on in school....id just go in a conrer and cry....and get called a crybaby...but now i find that crying helps but talking helps more...usually when im having a problem with someone...i ry to avoid contact with them till we both cool off..then later when were both cooled off..i try to explain my feelings and listen to theirs...i dunno...life sux alot sometimes..but if you always look at the sad shitt youll miss all the good things...so i try to smile again! Angel, i know exactly what u mean, but sometimes u have to get the strenth to just come out and say what u feel, because if u keep it all inside of u like a baloon, it will explode sooner or later and will make things even worse. I hope i'm making sense by using this metaphor. You mentioned that it sometimes comes to ur friends, well ur friends should understand and if u come out and just say it, they will see a different side of u and perhaps it won't make u so sad and they will understand it. they probbaly don't know that u r hurt the way u r because u never let it all out and told them. YES, crying helps so much, and i should know about that, but when it comes to very serious and emotional things, u should not keep it inside of u because all that sadness will build up and.....well, only go 4 worse. of corse it will be solved later, but ur way of avoiding confrontation doesn't seem to help. so u have to let it out sometimes and judt say what u want to say. i hope i'm helping in some way and if what i just said is all bs, then plz tell me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 (edited) YES, crying helps so much hmmmm, men difinitely handle stress and anger differently than women. Edited January 25, 2004 by Dan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angel4hope Posted January 25, 2004 Author Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 thanx allarmo girl jan that helps...lol this is the thing... i know what my problem is just that i have a hard time trusting people totally....because of some things that happened before..people usually tell me im really open and cool...well i am...i make friends really easily...its just that people think they really know me...but who i show to be sometimes...the carefree, happy, hyper, optimistic self is just like the shell of my feelings, cause when somethigs buring me up inside i try to cover it up and forget it....and all my insecurities and trust issues and depressiveness and stress are all hidden and they just multiply inside of me....and i dont let people on and tell them howi feel because im always afraid of hurting them or worse....so sometimes writing or taking about it just makes me feel soo much better....well this is helping too...bout now i sound like a freak....like a need a psychologist..haha funny cause im a psych major..next thing u know ill be psychoananlyzing myself....and whats ironic ic that im always able to help other peopl...but when it comes to my own problems im clueless... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anoushik Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 Angel, I go through the same feelings as you. But I don't think it's really an issue about trusting people, but like you said, you're just afraid to hurt people's feelings - especially if they're close to you. Am I right? I know I am like that. (I might not seem to be if some of the criticisms I've posted, but it's because it's so much easier since I don't know any of you personally.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anoushik Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 Most of the time, whenever a friend hurts me or makes me upset I just show that nothing happened, because usually I think that that friend is just tactless and didn't mean it. But if you notice, the more you don't say anything, the more tactless they'll become around you and the less they'll think that you could be hurt. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allarmeniangirl Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 .......thanx allarmo girl jan that helps...... ur sooo welcome ........and i dont let people on and tell them howi feel because im always afraid of hurting them or worse...... wow, u have a beautiful heart. u said that ur afraid to hurt others, but...... but ........but ur the one who's getting hurt. and of corse, don't reveal everything about urself, just specific things that bother u. If someone made u angry, argue back and try to prove them wrong. u don't have to win teh argument, but just the fact that u argued already says a lot. It's also very important not to let ppl know that they can walk all over u because ppl tend to take advantage of that. If someone makes a slight comment about u doing something 4 them(walking all over u) u can answer back with a somewhat sarcastic reply that lets them know that they have to do something for u. ........all my insecurities and trust issues and depressiveness and stress are all hidden and they just multiply inside of me....... that's the problem. it shouldn't all be kept inside of u. u have to let it out. As i mentioned earlier, our emotions are like a balloon. It gets bigger and bigger and if we don't let some air(anger) out little by little, it will explode. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allarmeniangirl Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 hahaha yes Dan? did u have something to say? lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 lol... no.. not really.. just blinked at that comment that crying helps. lol! and then i realised you were right when you said guys and girls differ in their methods of dealing with anger. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allarmeniangirl Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 lol... no.. not really.. just blinked at that comment that crying helps. lol! and then i realised you were right when you said guys and girls differ in their methods of dealing with anger. crying does help...4 girls....sometimes. and... well yea. u guys tend to put urselves in more pain when angry. ex: hitting the wall. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 crying does help...4 girls....sometimes. maybe.. but it's something i can't comprehend, and hence I don't claim that I do. lol. when my mom breaks into tears, i just blink, roll my eyes, and leave the room, convincing myself that it's that time of month. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymouse Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 When I am really pissed off, I tend to bang my forehead on the keyboard, do you wanna see what comes out when I do that? SIHDJQ*()J#@$MSDjmsklpj2d[-43askc,mldpk5412;[4asckm1ojm32opAZXP[KOf432ij5932emdf9sm Please don't make me do it again, it hurts now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allarmeniangirl Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 when my mom breaks into tears, i just blink, roll my eyes, and leave the room, convincing myself that it's that time of month. OH NO U DIDN'T!!!! lol that is so mean and u should never think that that's the reason. i hate it when guys think that. another hu. <_< Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 now now, calm down allarmeniangirl, are you gonna cry since you're angry with me? kidding.. !!! the most effective thing for me to get over my anger is to punch a cop, but that's against the law, so it's not recommended lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allarmeniangirl Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 When I am really pissed off, I tend to bang my forehead on the keyboard, do you wanna see what comes out when I do that? SIHDJQ*()J#@$MSDjmsklpj2d[-43askc,mldpk5412;[4asckm1ojm32opAZXP[KOf432ij5932emdf9sm Please don't make me do it again, it hurts now. there u have it. another stupid way to relive anger. continuing hurting urself and as for Dan, nah, i'm not angry...anymore. besides, i think the kind of anger angel was reffering to was the sad anger. People(or should i say girls because macho man like Dan definitely doesn't cry) cry when they're sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 People(or should i say girls because macho man like Dan definitely doesn't cry) cry when they're sad. are you implying that I'm ... not manly enough..? uhh yeah, that's some news for me.. haha.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gevo27 Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 AWWWWWWWWW ANGEL....... Dont cry.. dont keep in in you.. its to depressing for Gevo.. and smiling with pain inside is bad, cause ur not letting the other guy know ur feelings kurik jan... oh oh.. and This is how i cry. . . . . . . SILENCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I dont,,, LOL... PS: I hate pillows... mine is on the ground before i hit my bed... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Armine3773 Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 Talking to a parent is the best way to help solve a problem. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allarmeniangirl Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 are you implying that I'm ... not manly enough..? uhh yeah, that's some news for me.. haha.. uh oh, Dan is about to go into the wall Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 Talking to a parent is the best way to help solve a problem. what if the parent IS the problem? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allarmeniangirl Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 i agree that talking to parents is the best way, but it sometimes depends on the parent. my opinion: well, if the parent IS the problem then u should definitely tell them. how else will u let them know that something is bothering u. and if the parent starts to yell at u and say that u r wrong, u can always say, "this is why i never come to u 4 anything." i love this thread btw Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Armine3773 Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 what if the parent IS the problem? That's when you explain to your parents about your problem but in a civil manner. Don't start screaming and yelling, that will never get you anywhere. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 well, if the parent IS the problem then u should definitely tell them. how else will u let them know that something is bothering u. and if the parent starts to yell at u and say that u r wrong, u can always say, "this is why i never come to u 4 anything." exactly -- but how does that solve the problem? lol.. btw, that's the situation between me and my mom... sometimes my stepdad is the referee lol.. but we just can't seem to agree on a single thing.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gevo27 Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 OK OK OK,, actually its hard for me to talk about anything to my parents.. i dont know why exactly,, but i think its cause they are annoying to me most of the times, other than that its easy for me to get along with my friends,,,, lol.. so i guess yeah,, my parents are the ones who bug me most.. BUT!!! Dan, you get hate them man,,, i love my parents... and thats just what they are.. parents,, cantblame em i guess.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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