taltoul Posted November 15, 2003 Report Share Posted November 15, 2003 hey i was wondering if u guys could help me out.. one of my friends whose not armo.. she just got dumped by her boyfriend and she loved him a lot.. but she's still young and she isnt getting over him.. i want her to forget about him and live her life.. but she kep hurting herself and i think she is suicidal.. what should i tell her? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted November 16, 2003 Report Share Posted November 16, 2003 Tough one. hard to know exactly what to say. But if you are a real friend - maybe the best thing is to invite her to join you in doing something really fun - something that you know she will like - to allow her to laugh and feel good and forget about this guy...maybe a theme park for instance- if she likes thrills from coasters & such...or whatever - just to have her reaquint herself with laughter and joy and to let her see that there is fun to still be had in the world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormig Posted November 16, 2003 Report Share Posted November 16, 2003 One thing not to do - even if after kind of taking the high road, she wants to talk about that experience, do NOT tell her to stop thinking such and talking about such and to get over it - be patient and listen to every bit - at least try to look like you are listening. Let her blurt it all out and blabber to her heart's desire. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gamavor Posted November 17, 2003 Report Share Posted November 17, 2003 With Stormy's permission - give her my phone number. I'm the best cure in this type of situations. Ok, as a compromise you might advice her to call Azat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taltoul Posted November 17, 2003 Author Report Share Posted November 17, 2003 thanks for all your advice u guys... i appreciate it.. thoth, i have tried very hard to get her mind off of him.. and it works for a little whil ebut then she forgets all about the fun she had and starts to feel very bad again.. she also has another problem which is that she loves to have EVERYONE'S attention.. and she thinks that when she's sad she will get more attention.. i dont know if its better to give her than attention and make her do that more often or to ignore her when she tries to do that... honestly more people would want to be with her if she would try to get attention by being happy instead of sad! gamavor.. very funny.. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THOTH Posted November 17, 2003 Report Share Posted November 17, 2003 No problem Taltoul -Â sounds like she'll be OK in time. This sort of thing is rough on everybody - but we ussually muddle through...your a good friend for caring. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DominO123 Posted November 17, 2003 Report Share Posted November 17, 2003 thanks for all your advice u guys... i appreciate it.. thoth, i have tried very hard to get her mind off of him.. and it works for a little whil ebut then she forgets all about the fun she had and starts to feel very bad again.. she also has another problem which is that she loves to have EVERYONE'S attention.. and she thinks that when she's sad she will get more attention.. i dont know if its better to give her than attention and make her do that more often or to ignore her when she tries to do that... honestly more people would want to be with her if she would try to get attention by being happy instead of sad! gamavor.. very funny.. lol The only antidote to that is time. If she is really suicidal... there is two alternative, the first one is to take anti-depressants, the second would be to bring her here and force her to read my posts... in a double blind placebo studies it has been demonstrated to be 30% more effective than typical SSRIs. ANd with minor side effects only. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azat Posted November 17, 2003 Report Share Posted November 17, 2003 With Stormy's permission - give her my phone number. I'm the best cure in this type of situations. Ok, as a compromise you might advice her to call Azat. You're a pal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taltoul Posted November 18, 2003 Author Report Share Posted November 18, 2003 u guys are great.. lol ur sooo funny.. maybe i should have her read ur posts.. loloh and to answer ur question, Domino.. she is on anti-depressant pills.. and she sees a phsicollogist.. but im not too worried about her.. she's plenty of ppl who love her.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MosJan Posted November 18, 2003 Report Share Posted November 18, 2003 hey i was wondering if u guys could help me out.. one of my friends whose not armo.. she just got dumped by her boyfriend and she loved him a lot.. but she's still young and she isnt getting over him.. i want her to forget about him and live her life.. but she kep hurting herself and i think she is suicidal.. what should i tell her? Just gave her Azats Email Addres Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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