thanks for all your advice u guys... i appreciate it.. thoth, i have tried very hard to get her mind off of him.. and it works for a little whil ebut then she forgets all about the fun she had and starts to feel very bad again.. she also has another problem which is that she loves to have EVERYONE'S attention.. and she thinks that when she's sad she will get more attention.. i dont know if its better to give her than attention and make her do that more often or to ignore her when she tries to do that... honestly more people would want to be with her if she would try to get attention by being happy instead of sad! gamavor.. very funny.. lol