Meaghan Posted September 7, 2003 Report Share Posted September 7, 2003 My name is Meaghan... I am white and my boyfriend(of 3 years) is armenian. His parents hate me! But today... this morning... Allen's(my boyfriend) grandmother died... What can I do to help the family in their time of sorrow? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azat Posted September 7, 2003 Report Share Posted September 7, 2003 Oh boy... Well there is not much you can really do. I think you should be there for the boyfriend rather then the family. Things that I hate doing but that may help you. If you can afford it find out what church the funeral is going to take place and send flowers. Also(and I hate this whole thing) the day before the funeral they have a church thing that you may want to attend. If the parents are traditional they may think highly of you and if you don't then they will think less of you. I don't know. Armenian funerals are just weird. I just hope the grandma was old and she lived a full life. (BTW: they probably do not "hate" you they are just ignorant and don't appreciate you. In other parts of this forum you will find many discussions where we have talked about issues of Armenians assimilating and how we are not able to accept others into our culture and how this hurts us in the long run) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
America-Hye Posted September 7, 2003 Report Share Posted September 7, 2003 Meaghan, Customs would depend upon what cuntry they come from and what branch of Armenian Christianity they come from. Others here may be able to help you, as I was raised as a pure American outside the Armenian community and know little about Armenian customs except that a follow-up church service for the dead is conducted after 40 days ( called a Karasunk). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vava Posted September 7, 2003 Report Share Posted September 7, 2003 Azat's advice is pretty good. Support your boyfriend - show the family that you love, and care for HIM first. If they see your love, they will come around (i think) Oh, and don't take any comments from the family personally! It's not about YOU - it's just that for most Armenian families (especially the mothers) NOBODY is good enough for their little baby... keep that in mind, and keep a brave, loving face. Good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nairi Posted September 7, 2003 Report Share Posted September 7, 2003 Make a run for it before they eat you up. It's not worth it!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vava Posted September 7, 2003 Report Share Posted September 7, 2003 Make a run for it before they eat you up. It's not worth it!! Nairi jan! That's simply not true! (well, at the very least it's debatable!) I know a few very happy couples that mixed Armenian/Odar... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vava Posted September 7, 2003 Report Share Posted September 7, 2003 And let's not forget that ANY in-law family can be difficult to live with, Armenian or not... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don_Gogortiloz Posted September 8, 2003 Report Share Posted September 8, 2003 (edited) hi, i like mustard. i like custard i like mustard and custard but not together.......... Edited January 2, 2004 by Don_Gogortiloz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caucasian Posted September 8, 2003 Report Share Posted September 8, 2003 (edited) I'm advising this as a Muslim to you. Namely I have no ideas about Christian or Armenian funerals. His family should be sad now, you can effect them more (than an ordinary day) by positioning near them. So their family can understand that your affair with Allen is serious. I would do this way if I were you... Edited September 8, 2003 by Caucasian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
America-Hye Posted September 8, 2003 Report Share Posted September 8, 2003 Don, We know that you are a shock jock, the Howard Stern of the Armenian commmunity, but your post is in VERY, VERY poor taste. It is 5 years since my Mom passed away and I am still in shock. I think that you should erase your last posting. It really stinks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don_Gogortiloz Posted September 8, 2003 Report Share Posted September 8, 2003 (edited) UK house prices have risen dramatically in recent years driven by a combination of falling interest rates, rising incomes and higher employment. The market had been showing signs of slowing down earlier this year but the Bank of England's rate cut in July - which took the cost of borrowing to a 48-year low of 3.5% - seems to have breathed new life into it recently. Last week, the Nationwide Building Society released its own house price index showing prices jumped 2% last month, the strongest for 14 months, growing 16.% up year-on-year. However, Mr Stansfield at Capital Economics added that he was convinced the recent jump was a result of "pent up demand", as people put off buying homes early in 2003 due to uncertainty about the Middle East and outlook for the economy. He added: "If rising rates inject some realism into the market, then we could be well on the way to a much weaker housing market in 2004." Edited January 1, 2004 by Don_Gogortiloz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caucasian Posted September 8, 2003 Report Share Posted September 8, 2003 Meaghan, what did you decide to do??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gamavor Posted September 9, 2003 Report Share Posted September 9, 2003 Caucasian, I think you ignorance is infinite, just like Armenian stupidity, some may say. So how many Armenian funerals have you attended, and how many of them were not Christian? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meaghan Posted September 17, 2003 Author Report Share Posted September 17, 2003 (edited) I decided to kind of just stay away, and let him do his own family thing for the funeral. I did however talk to his parents and expressed my sympothies to them. Thanks,Meg Edited September 17, 2003 by Meaghan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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