Gayane Posted May 4, 2001 Report Share Posted May 4, 2001 Lol, my mother's favorite admonition: "don't get too carried away, all this love and romance dies within the first month/three months/year/three years of marriage"(she chooses the length of time quite arbitrarily I think...lol) What do we think? I want the truth!! Does marriage kill romance? Why? Why not? How about love? All of you married folk, let's hear it! I find that armenians are very much skeptical of love and romance after marriage, whereas the western cultures (especially the americans) are ardent believers in romantic marriages. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pilafhead Posted May 4, 2001 Report Share Posted May 4, 2001 Where do I begin? http://www.soderhamn-net.com/~u00063mo/emoticons/misc/General/headscratch.gif First off, marry the right person. Not some shlub. 'Nuff said, here. Gayane, your mother is probably right for most marriages, BUT it does not have to be this way. The romance dies away only if each of the individuals let it happen. It takes a little work, not much, but some. Really just a little attention to it now and then keeps it all alive. Examples: Flowers, a plant, or a little gift for no reason at all. Not every week, or even every month, but now and then. It can be as simple as a nice plant from the grocery store when you run in to pick up some milk. A massage out of the blue without having to be asked. Having lunch together during the week maybe once a month. Borrowing their car and filing the tank for them. From-the-heart compliments. Dressing up for a nice dinner out when it's not some special occasion. All of these are somewhat insignificant in isolation and do not take much effort, but on a combined basis, it shows the other person that you're thinking of them. Not in a sappy over-the-top kind of Spanish-rose-in-the-mouth way, but in a real, everyday way. In addition, the spontaneity keeps things interesting--my wife knows not to expect flowers on Valentine's Day (too boring), but on the other hand, she knows there'll be other days in the year she'll get flowers out of the blue. Listen to that dopey song, "All The Small Things" by Blink 182. I think they're saying the same thing. Also, continuing to care how you look to your spouse is a very good thing. While true love goes beyond looks, trying to continue to be eye candy doesn't hurt either. I think this is one of the worst things about men, they let themselves go after marriage. All this is not too difficult, really. After 9 years of marriage, my wife and I are as strong and passionate as ever. http://www.soderhamn-net.com/~u00063mo/emoticons/happy/love4.gif [ May 04, 2001: Message edited by: Aghmug ] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DoC Posted May 4, 2001 Report Share Posted May 4, 2001 All this talk about marriage is making me dizzy... http://www.homestead.com/osteogreg/files/mixface.gif Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edg Posted May 4, 2001 Report Share Posted May 4, 2001 Mike jan, you gave a perfect explanation. You are the MAN! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azat Posted May 4, 2001 Report Share Posted May 4, 2001 Gayan jan, have you not heard what married men say after a year of marriage? "The only sexual organs I have left on my body are my eyes". I think this is the biggest lie in the Armenian community. I think love and romance grows and continues after marriage, but nobody talks about it. Notice I said "I think" because I am single and have never been married. Please tell me this is true. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pilafhead Posted May 4, 2001 Report Share Posted May 4, 2001 Thx! I wonder if my wife feels the same way.... I'll see if I can get her to post a response or comments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Berj Posted May 5, 2001 Report Share Posted May 5, 2001 In general, presently in Armenia being romantic = being childish Ironically this is the reaction you get from the girls. Beacuse they think that if you're romantic you can't be serious, earn money ect. So boys are inclined to act mature (un-romantic). And this goes down the scale of age. So if you meet 12 year old boy from Armenia discussing trade and regional politics on almost professional level, don't be surprised. The uncencored TV does its part of job. At 10-11 they know everything about women. By everything I mean much more than just anatomic complexion. How can they be romantic if in 11 they know "That's about it", in 14-16 "That's it???". We've discussed this in other thread and many came to conclusion that marrige doesn't necesserily include love (including you Gayane ). If it doesn't, than "acting romantic" after the marrige is the only thing one can get from his partner. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gayane Posted May 7, 2001 Author Report Share Posted May 7, 2001 Berj = Armen: We've discussed this in other thread and many came to conclusion that marrige doesn't necesserily include love (including you Gayane ). If it doesn't, than "acting romantic" after the marrige is the only thing one can get from his partner. Armen: I'm a changed woman (more on that later) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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