ALMA Posted August 30, 2007 Report Share Posted August 30, 2007 I have opened this thread because I see lots of aggression in this forum. Perhaps only against me but the fact remains that ever since I have joined this forum 3/4 people have been rather aggressive and defensive towards me. (no matter who they are) What does it take to be kind and post in a more civilized manner in stead of being bellicose??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Takoush Posted August 30, 2007 Report Share Posted August 30, 2007 (edited) Alma I like you! I think you are a swell girl! Especially after what you wrote about wanting to marry only with an Armenian! I have noticed that some of the aggressions derive from foreign denialist Turks that annoys me and others in here. About Jewish people, the ADS usually don't allow people to talk against them at length. Usually in the past they would close down the threads when it would get out of hand. Sometimes very few members here they want to control you to talk or not to talk with this or that person and they start bullying if you would take it and allow them. When a conversation of differing thoughts starts to be lengthy and drag, people usually start losing their patience and they start attacking you. Personally, I don't like to keep grudges and I am a forgiving person; but everything has it's limits of course. Some in here don't exercise that. Meaning they don't forgive until you walk backwards to make peace with them. Other times, I have noticed that some play games (not so favourable ones). Sometimes to make peace, I have forego and let go to defend myself for the sole reason to make peace or to keep the peace; even though the other person was not open minded enough to be in my shoes or be understanding about the matter. Basically, I find that talking on the keyboards alone without the warmth, the humour, the gestures and the magnetism of the individual present, doesn't do justice to people. Just by words alone, doesn't give the overall human touch and the perspective, the magnetism if you will to the whole. Yes you can control the crowds some of the time with the power of your words, your acquired mega education and brain; but something very important is missing here, and that is (the presence of the individual behind the keyboard). Edited August 30, 2007 by Anahid Takouhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anoushik Posted August 30, 2007 Report Share Posted August 30, 2007 Dear Alma, I'm surprised that you feel that way, since I haven't noticed anyone in particular being aggressive towards you. Remember that this is a discussion forum and people might not always agree - in the contrary, they're more likely to post if they find that they don't have the same opinion about something as you do. Otherwise, if they agree, I imagine that most will just smile inside and think that you're right (e.g. your thoughts about marrying only Armenians!), but decide that they shouldn't take up space in a thread simply to say that they agree. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymouse Posted August 30, 2007 Report Share Posted August 30, 2007 I have opened this thread because I see lots of aggression in this forum. Perhaps only against me but the fact remains that ever since I have joined this forum 3/4 people have been rather aggressive and defensive towards me. (no matter who they are) What does it take to be kind and post in a more civilized manner in stead of being bellicose??? I don't know about you but I can say the same thing. I think it's the nature of LOL THE INTERNETS! LMAO! so it comes with the territory. When egos are at stake and especially when people come out full throttle with their views, be they unpopular, 19th century, or just annoying to another person whose paradigm is conflicted by them, they will find you and your presence and your posts distasteful and be aggressive. Case in point, look at my interactions with nairi and Arpa Papa. They do not like me and are sometimes aggressive, and I enjoy the reaction I get. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yervant1 Posted August 30, 2007 Report Share Posted August 30, 2007 I have opened this thread because I see lots of aggression in this forum. Perhaps only against me but the fact remains that ever since I have joined this forum 3/4 people have been rather aggressive and defensive towards me. (no matter who they are) What does it take to be kind and post in a more civilized manner in stead of being bellicose??? Dear Alma, Personally I enjoyed most of your posts, as for your feelings of being attacked by members there are several reasons for it. Some members already mentioned some of them. My understanding of it as follows, first as our famous Mook said it, it is Internet Culture, second we have some members who are very passionate about things and because of it they use very strong language almost rude and vulgur, third some members think that their 2 cents is worth a lot more than yours, fourth "forum mentality that I'm smarter than you and I understand things better than you". We can go on and on and still find other reasons but you get the picture. I felt the same way when I joined the forum but after a while you get used to it and not take it personally even if it is directly addressed to you, which is you learn to disregard the post and not be bothered with it. I'm glad that you brought this up, even though this is not the first time that this topic has been discussed here but it is about time that we revisit it again. We the Admin and the moderators behind the scene are constantly discussing this issue and at the same time make sure that we do not disrupt the threads constantly by interjecting and telling the members to behave this way or that way afterall this is not kindergarten. My plea to the members, as well like Alma, is to be more civilised and respectful no matter how much you disagree with the post or the member. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kakachik77 Posted August 30, 2007 Report Share Posted August 30, 2007 (edited) Alma, most longer term members get along fine, I think. They have basically learned each others' Internet personalities. The problem mostly are the new members who drop in either to spew anti-Armenian (these are not just turks unfortunately!) garbage or are trying to "save us" from this or that. I would not take anything else too seriously. Edited August 30, 2007 by kakachik77 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ALMA Posted August 30, 2007 Author Report Share Posted August 30, 2007 Anahid jan thank you . Guys I do understand that over the internet there will always be misunderstandings and of course disagreements which is natural. Non verbal communication is always vital to understand better and the lack of it will cause misapprehension Anushik jan you mentioned about the answering of comments, I don’t expect everyone to agree/disagree with me and to post a comment back. In fact if someone doesn’t post any comment then I could not complain about aggression. It’s just the way certain members approach. “””Don't talk out of your ass please”” is an example (posted by HyeFedayis) of the wickedness I feel, especially when I have not posted anything rude nor annoying to anyone. I respect everyone but I respect Armenians even more. It’s loathsome to see Armenians being rude one to another. I believe we all have some degree of rudeness within us, but I personally try not to be impolite unless someone starts cursing/insulting me first. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eva Posted August 30, 2007 Report Share Posted August 30, 2007 kind of off topic, but right now I am so mad and feel the aggression pilling up and up. Why is life so unfair, sometimes it turns upside down on you, you realize that you've lost everything whatever you have been builing,, oh well, i guess that happens sometimes,,,start over again,, well Alma I don't know who has been aggressive towards you, but i guess other circumstances play role too, some people have difficult times in their lives, maybe that's why they act aggressive, however, that shouldn't be an excuse for them.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anoushik Posted August 30, 2007 Report Share Posted August 30, 2007 Yes, Alma, I understand. As a matter of fact, all the Moderators are concerned about that. Unfortunately, the fact remains that whenever one deals with a big group of people one is bound to deal with unpleasant people as well. Rotten apples are everywhere and the internet is no different. Just rest assured that a lot of members here are also excellent people who write sincere posts Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Takoush Posted August 30, 2007 Report Share Posted August 30, 2007 Anahid jan thank you . Guys I do understand that over the internet there will always be misunderstandings and of course disagreements which is natural. Non verbal communication is always vital to understand better and the lack of it will cause misapprehension Anushik jan you mentioned about the answering of comments, I don’t expect everyone to agree/disagree with me and to post a comment back. In fact if someone doesn’t post any comment then I could not complain about aggression. It’s just the way certain members approach. “””Don't talk out of your ass please”” is an example (posted by HyeFedayis) of the wickedness I feel, especially when I have not posted anything rude nor annoying to anyone. I respect everyone but I respect Armenians even more. It’s loathsome to see Armenians being rude one to another. I believe we all have some degree of rudeness within us, but I personally try not to be impolite unless someone starts cursing/insulting me first. You are welcomed Alma jan. I felt that basically it was the reason for your thread; but I didn't want to reiterate your anger more by reminding you. I am sorry that HyeFedayi said that to you Alma jan, and I wondered why he did that. I kinda felt offended by it too as I didn't feel it was justified or right. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ED Posted August 30, 2007 Report Share Posted August 30, 2007 those of in favor banning HyeFedayi say I Seriously Arma jan, its the older members here who couse most of the aggression, like me:( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Takoush Posted August 30, 2007 Report Share Posted August 30, 2007 those of in favor banning HyeFedayi say I Seriously Arma jan, its the older members here who couse most of the aggression, like me Yup քեռի ճան you are right!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yervant1 Posted August 30, 2007 Report Share Posted August 30, 2007 those of in favor banning HyeFedayi say I Seriously Arma jan, its the older members here who couse most of the aggression, like me:( I say we give him qarsun lashes for qarsun days and ban you (Edward) with Takouhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Takoush Posted August 30, 2007 Report Share Posted August 30, 2007 (edited) I say we give him qarsun lashes for qarsun days and ban you (Edward) with Takouhi OK. Yervant jan, I think you're new avatar teddy is playing karate. But he is cute!!! Edited August 31, 2007 by Anahid Takouhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExtraHye Posted August 31, 2007 Report Share Posted August 31, 2007 I've been nice to everybody on here Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Takoush Posted August 31, 2007 Report Share Posted August 31, 2007 I've been nice to everybody on here Amy jan, no one blamed you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExtraHye Posted August 31, 2007 Report Share Posted August 31, 2007 Amy jan, no one blamed you! I know but but I wanted to show off my new avatar and and and trying to be funny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Takoush Posted August 31, 2007 Report Share Posted August 31, 2007 I know but but I wanted to show off my new avatar and and and trying to be funny Amy jan, your new avatar is sooooo cute. I love it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AVO Posted August 31, 2007 Report Share Posted August 31, 2007 I've been nice to everybody on here The question is if everybody has been nice to you Extra jan. As for HyeFedayee i suggest that he watch Dzori Miro before making anymore stupid comments. A true fedayee would never insult an Armenian especially a girl. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Takoush Posted August 31, 2007 Report Share Posted August 31, 2007 The question is if everybody has been nice to you Extra jan. As for HyeFedayee i suggest that he watch Dzori Miro before making anymore stupid comments. A true fedayee would never insult an Armenian especially a girl. Quite true. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yervant1 Posted August 31, 2007 Report Share Posted August 31, 2007 I've been nice to everybody on here That's why you are #1 Admin Assistant, and we are always nice to you or else Mosjan will be after us Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ALMA Posted August 31, 2007 Author Report Share Posted August 31, 2007 The question is if everybody has been nice to you Extra jan. As for HyeFedayee i suggest that he watch Dzori Miro before making anymore stupid comments. A true fedayee would never insult an Armenian especially a girl. That's my point Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ALMA Posted August 31, 2007 Author Report Share Posted August 31, 2007 Yes, Alma, I understand. As a matter of fact, all the Moderators are concerned about that. Unfortunately, the fact remains that whenever one deals with a big group of people one is bound to deal with unpleasant people as well. Rotten apples are everywhere and the internet is no different. Just rest assured that a lot of members here are also excellent people who write sincere posts Oh yeah, there are some very good ones, although I don't know many but through the posts you can kind of judge people. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ALMA Posted August 31, 2007 Author Report Share Posted August 31, 2007 those of in favor banning HyeFedayi say I Seriously Arma jan, its the older members here who couse most of the aggression, like me:( Seriously, we are all over the world and we enter Armenian forums to interact with other Armenians hoping to have good time not to face anything abnormal. I bet fedayi is not even aware he is being accused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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