Love at school sight?

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An Armenian man is a substitute teacher. The assignment was a high school art class. He has it covered for 3 days. It is a 95% Latino school. The first day, it was virtually out of control. In one of the class, he sends one of the unruly girl to the office.

 

The next day, he sees her again and there is still an air of tension. Lenora (not her real name) comes up to the sub. in a mocking way and asks: "Mr. Mamigonian, I'm done with the assignment and don't know what to do next?" I looked at her straightforward in the eyes with much passion and said: "I'm sorry." I said: "Lenora, smile." "Do you know how beautiful you look when you are smiling?" Without asking, she knew what I meant and went back to her seat with a red and blushing face. For the rest of the class, she was staring at me in an obvious manner. I'd occasionally look back. This wasn't something ordinary.

 

The next and last day, same thing. It was afterschool and I saw her by chance outside. I asked her if she wanted something at MickeyDees (McDonalds)? We got there and talked. At the end of the conversation, she looked me in the eyes and asked if I liked her? She said she was 18 and wrote down her number and put it in my pocket anyway. Pause for a moment... I responded: "Lenora, I'm not a good man. I'm 26 and a low-life. You've got more going for you than you imagine. Finish school and I will be the most proudest man in this world. I like you very much as a student. Hope to see you sometime again. I'm sure we will."

 

I messed up big time. I messed with the mind of a child. I might be in trouble? I don't want to report this. I myself started it in the first place. I will suffer the consequences.

[Guest]

It was a mistake to make the inital connection, but if it stopped at just that, then it's finished. No harm, no foul. A brief lapse in judgment which is over with.

 

I would not worry about it--especially if she's 18. All you did was talk.

 

[This message has been edited by Pilafhead (edited December 13, 2000).]

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Number 2 rule for a male or female teacher in today's public school: Don't even THINK about contemplating complimenting a student on their appearance. PERIOD! This comes after the Number 1 rule- NO TOUCHING! Even the most innocent-seeming pat on the back can be twisted around. Number 3 rule: NEVER, I mean NEVER be alone with a student, EVER! Anyway that is my two senses, as I am a teacher myself.

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Originally posted by Gayane:
p.s. Mikey, even though nothing happened, it's NOT O.K.

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I wasn't saying "It's OK, go do it again"! The tone of his post was as if he had committed a terrible crime. He didn't. He sounds as if he's not going to do it again, so that's why I said "it's OK".

It's clear as day that he should follow Steve's advice.

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Mr. Mamigonian (what's your name??)

 

Please don't take this the wrong way, but you're just plain nuts For two reasons. First, for initiating ANYTHING, even a one-on-one conversation aside from school related talk, with this girl. And secondly, for posting this online!!!!! lol... that surprised me even more than the events you related.

 

Listen to Steve, the man knows what he's talking about. "School politics" is worse than office politics. Everyone's always looking to point fingers. And if word of this ever got out, boy would you ever be in trouble! I don't think she was 18. You're nuts to believe her. But even if she was, she's still your student and you're still a sub. lol, dude, where's your sense of boundaries?? I know I'm lecturing, but come onnnn!!!! You're old enough to know better. Really. If I were you I'd take a long hard look at myself. There's no reason for this to happen, not this time, not the next. Make sure there's no next time. Please, for your sake.

 

Gayane

 

p.s. Mikey, even though nothing happened, it's NOT O.K.

[Guest]

Man, you guys didn't hear everything from him.

 

I went over to his home 2 days ago and heard all about it. Hey, Garen, can you play the violin again like you did with your Chinese friend for me and my brother again?

 

He had no interest whatsoever in that Latina. He was only trying to neutralize her bad and disruptive behavior by praising her. I guess this is not the proper way?

 

C'mon guys, you should know how substitutes take enormous heat. This is a tough profession to enter. Garen, hang in there.

 

Boy, I saw your postings on the Chinese forum and I can't imagine how supportive those people over there are! Garen, are you going to post here again? Hang in there. Be like the great Vardan.