Guest Posted December 4, 2000 Report Share Posted December 4, 2000 A while ago, I stumbled upon the site from Noyan Tapan that featured such services. Although not as much as Russians and Ukrainians, there still are quite a number of Armenian women listing personal ads on various agencies. This isn't a good thing. Actually, Russians and Ukrainians consider this a drain on their "resources." Many young Slavic girls have left their nations. Can Armenia afford this? The economic situation over there make this situation even more ripe. I don't think a man can find the right person through such services. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 4, 2000 Report Share Posted December 4, 2000 Only lost person, total loser, will try to find a girl through these services AA www.CaucasusOnline.net Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 4, 2000 Report Share Posted December 4, 2000 I agree 100%. Most of those men are lustful, domineering, pathetic and anti-social. Most are your typical balding white males from the U.S. or Europe working a white collar job and who have a problem with black men dating and marrying white women. But, what about Armenian men who cannot really find an Armenian girl in the U.S., Europe or anywhere else? Many of my friends find that once women immigrated, their attitudes change and they no longer respect men. I know of this family from Yerevan. They immigrated to the U.S. The man worked long hours to support the family. The wife had time to continue her studies and get a B.A. degree. She then left and divorced her husband stating that "she was too educated for him!" Now, what kind of commitment do you call that? But, the women from mail order bride service can stem from a really committed woman to some that are out to scam you out of a visa and some cash. Most of them are extremely attractive, materialistic and quite highly educated. I know of a couple young Armenian males who married beautiful and friendly Russian ladies through the service. It's like a gamble. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 6, 2000 Report Share Posted December 6, 2000 quote:Originally posted by Gr. Mamigonian:She then left and divorced her husband stating that "she was too educated for him!" Now, what kind of commitment do you call that?I have to believe she felt that way in the old country, too. Sounds like the man is better off without her! quote:Originally posted by Gr. Mamigonian:But, the women from mail order bride service can stem from a really committed woman to some that are out to scam you out of a visa and some cash....It's like a gamble. "Gamble" is right! I'd be scared to fall asleep around a wife that just arrived! As a man, it seems kind of cool to browse a catalog for a wife. I'm glad I'm not single! I could never find a wife that way, but I could go shopping for dates. I DO feel sorry though for the well-meaning women (and men) that have to resort to submitting their picture to one of these sites. Is it strictly to get to the US? Why would a good hearted person in Armenia have to do this?? Especially one that is also young and attractive.I know women in the US have a hard time meeting quality men as they get older. Even attractive Armenian ones! I really feel sorry for the few like this I know. They would desperately like to get married to a nice Armenian man. Mike Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 6, 2000 Report Share Posted December 6, 2000 I guess it's supply and demand type of thing? What one has to offer the other? There's always a tradeoff, especially in relations that are not equally balanced as it is in mail order brides and marriages. Although, I suppose many Armenian women who offer themselves to this MOB service no longer have affection towards Armenia or Armenian men as a whole. Let's face it: many Armenian men have not ever treated Armenian women as they should be treated. Another thing is that many of us are tired of the singles bar scene. How can you find a decent woman in such a place? Most men and women still yearn for a traditional family. Yet, roles have shifted and been readjusted. It is increasingly hard in this society, where a staggering 65% of all marriages eventually end in divorce. Some Armenian women (esp. from Hayastan) do encounter marital difficulties and harbor a deep resentment towards the men. Of course, it can be the other around also. This is certainly a red flag for subsequent generations, and may lead to a breakup of the community. Compromise, give space and dedication is key here--not sex or romance. And, men--please don't hit or verbally abuse your precious wives? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 6, 2000 Report Share Posted December 6, 2000 I get a kick out of this mail order thing. To me, that's equivalent to saying, " here I am, I'm sweet and all pretty and wrapped in shiny gold foil. Do you think you could love me enough to choose ME out of the candy jar as opposed to all the others wrapped in silver and red and blue? Please pick me." First of all, this is very degrading. Worse than prostitution, to my mind. Perhaps they should have mail order grooms too. Sure, I'll flip through the catalog. "Oh, I'll take the six pack of hard candy wrapped in tan foil, please. Thank you very much. Good doing business with you. If I don't like this candy, could I come back and look through the catalog again? Yes? Great! See you later!" By Jove, is this what we've come to????? You may chuckle at my dry humor, but think about it. This is ridiculous. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 7, 2000 Report Share Posted December 7, 2000 Gayane, You should try to see it from the other side too. Do you think Bill Gates would have problems attracting a date if he was not rich and successful? The thing is that many people in American society still base mate preferences on external and physical appearance. The man who has the money and stability will by all means try to find a wife whose got the looks despite overlooking other factors as age, culture, mannerisms, religion, etc. As for the women, it's not only an economic necessity, but most probably have a personal grudge or self-abandonment of her own culture and men. It is sick indeed, but some have no other alternatives. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 7, 2000 Report Share Posted December 7, 2000 quote:Originally posted by Gr. Mamigonian:It is sick indeed, but some have no other alternatives.You're right. I poke fun at it, but I know people (both men and women, but I guess more women) who cannot meet anyone. It's so sad. These are educated, nice attractive people--all kinds: Armenians and odars. Makes my wife and I so thankful for what we have. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 7, 2000 Report Share Posted December 7, 2000 Mikey, educated nice attractive people by definition should not have any trouble meeting people, unless they're completely socially inept. In which case they have bigger problems than meeting someone. and yes, you should be very happy you get to put up the christmas lights every year...lol it's a jungle out there Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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