I personally dont think one has to have one or the other. One can immerse themselves in the American culture(whatever that may mean) and at the same time remember the past and honor the past and in some ways keep their Armenianness(not really sure what that may mean). I do agree with Boghos that at some point it will all be gone. People of the past were able to keep their culture and identity mostly because we did not have globalism and did not have the communication and technology to allow us to integrate with others as fast