PolishGirl

Oh and Im not baptist. Im in Jesus Christ Church

Yes you are right, it will not help me to take decision but will let me know the culture bit better and also understand better things. Yes you are 100% right about that Jesus is the number 1 and He is everything I need He fulfill my life in every each aspect. Im sorryfor lat replay but I took my time to pray and think and have to confess you're right about it. I should let The Holy Spirit lead my life in every situation and moment of my it. Yes Im born-again and follow Jesus. It's good to meet brother in Christ:) Well I don't need parties or dancing only to be happy cause my real joy is from the Lord everyday inside my heart and I can dance and sing for praise but also dont need dance to feel God's Spirit in me and His fulfilling joy and mercy. Thank you to everybody who answered me and tried to help me somehow by your advice! I do not try preach to anybody but just simply share my life with you. Thx a lot and God Bless you all!

I can read this tradition died in 18th century.... I can see that there's non one model of man being Here Dear Member you are writing that women stuff=women stuff no sharing duties, and another armenian saidthat they do help and it's nothing strange. I think it depends on childhood background? I do understan your point of view but as I said before...when you go to be with non armenian who grew up in completely different culture and she saw competely different modl of family and you want to live in such country and settle your life there you have to accept also some changes. am I wrong? it's like im going to Armenia and try to rule my rules from my country over there ppl...no making much sense.if we take decision we have to also take it in responsible way.You see it was him who came to my life and stole my heart I didnt run after him, in the beggining even didnt want him at all. I do pray every each day and read Bible...I have my personal reationship with Lord Jesus Christ. But in Bible i cant find any info about armenian guys so I came over here to "have a look" if I can learn something from you guys. Many things you said are helpful , thank you for that. I try to be good woman for my manlike Bible says but there's also verse in Bible : Although men and women in a relationship with Christ are equal, yet Scripture gives specific roles that each plays in marriage. The husband should manage leadership in the home (1 Corinthians 11.3; Ephesians 5.23). Leadership should not be dictatorial, condescending and patriarchal terms for his wife, but should reflect the example of Christ leading the church. "Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it, that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word" (Ephesians 5.25-26). Christ loved the church (His people) with compassion, mercy, forgiveness, respect, and self denial. In the same way husbands should love their wives. Yes women should take care of husband and be obey but there should be also no selfishness in men heart.... With regard to the division of responsibilities in the home, the Bible teaches that men used to protect the family financially. This means that they are working and earning to be duly provided with the needs of their wives and children. Do not fill out this duty has its spiritual implications. "But if any provide not for his own, especially with family members no effort, that denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever" (1 Timothy 5.8). Thus, if a man does not make any effort to secure his family financially, then illegally called a Christian. This does not mean, however, that the wife can not support this process, supply-Proverbs 31 shows, fearing that she might like to do the most-but not the supply of the family is its main duty, but her husband. While the man should help the kids and running the house (including filling his duty to love his wife), a verse from Proverbs 31 says clearly that taking care of the house is the main area of its commitment and responsibility. Even if you have to lie down to sleep late and get up early in the morning, the good of the family is the most important duty. This is not an easy way of life for many women-especially in Western societies prosperity. Too many women are emotionally exhausted, on the edge of their abilities. To protect them from such stress, both women and men need to prayerfully re-prioritize and follow the death of the biblical instructions regarding the respective roles in life. Conflicts with responsibilities in the marriage will occur, but if both spouses remain in submission to Christ, the conflicts will be minimal. If the couple on the ground frequently and rapidly arguing or bickering seem to poróżniać spouses, the problem concerns the nature of the spiritual. In this case, the spouses should especially entrust again in prayer and obedience to Christ, and then to each other in love and respect. So I just believe that if you love your wife as your own body (as Bible says) it shouldnt be lack of honor if you help her and the same with wife if she helps earn money for family members???????? what do you think?????

Well now your message is clear..I understood it wrong before... What kind of test do you mean? Could you advice me some? And if I can ask...how you armenian men show your feelings and love to girl if you trully love her? Like I said my man is 11 years older he is 33 ... but he is bit cold especially when there's his fmily members.... how it work in your cuture? He hug me somethimes and kiss but more he treats me like an old wife after 15 years marriage.... well maybe it's my personal thinking ;/

but if I discover that this what you wrote is true I will have no doubts to leave anymore...

Firstly Im not a whore, Secondly Im not catholic and imnot looking for catholic boy, we are both protestants. Thirdly just from biological point of view(maybe you don't know) not all women bleed after their first time thought are VIRGIN like you said. here you are http://kinseyconfidential.org/bleed-lost-virginity/ Believe me if I learn that this is the reason I wouldnt think twice and left behind this kind of man. Thinking this way is abnormal. I dont think that they still practising this ritual in Armenia. I spoke with his sister and she said that it was long time ago that they did such thing but not anymore. Even his sister lives with her armenian "husband" without marry more than 15 years. If you come to live in foreign country and you learn its culture and you intentionally go into relationship with foreigner you have to realise that it will be different and ther's many changes to come. I f Iwent to Armenia and livd there for long time I would learn culture and wouldnt be surprisse. So he knew he's going to be with non-armenian. he had many polish women before so he learnt also the culture. We are also waiting for papers from Armenia that will let him get marry (that he has non wife over there) , in POland you must have this paper otherwise you cant get marry.

Dear Arpa, no I havnt...Becaus I did belive him, in his words...maybe Im too naive????

he said to me that he moved to his sister house because he wanted saved some money for our wedding but anyway he sent everything tohis family so I guess the reason was saving money for family. No, we don't live together, I live in my own house 2 minutes walk from him. But I go to see his sister from time to time for little chat, bring some cakes just be closer. He is forced to leave because he was here 5 years and now in April his contract is over so he will not get visa anymore. I was planing to go with him for few months but he doesn't want me to go , he said that it can be dificul for me being there, and he is not gonna find job that quick to provide life for me his mother and his father all. I was thinking he can be back after few months. cause I was planing to open company and hire him or some friends could. but he seems like if we don't get marry till june and he will gone we are not gonna be together.... Idon't know why he thinks so...

I came here to find out what's armenian ppl opinion about that Because I heard many stuffs from polish girls and I didnt want to believe. Unfortunately I can read similar things here. And I know you are honest and want to help. I really appreciate. But down in my heart is little bit of hope that things may change , pity is fading day by day Yestarday we spoke and decided we will no rush things with wedding and if he has to back to his country he will... He is good man but when it's about tradition and habist he is strong with his beliefs and behaviours. he wont compromise I think. This is very strange bcause I spent one year in Ireland where I met many mied couples even from countries like India where culture is really strong I guess more eventhan in Armenia and those couples compromised and tried to do things that the other person they lov would be happy. this is ove, love is above everything ethnic difference,tradition,fights,problems.... I just don't understand why in this case it doesnt work this way. In the bgginin was really great he tried his best but as i said as he moved to sister house he has changed. Maybe because he is 33 and for him is impossible to make any changes? Yes understand very well what you all are saying just wish it could be different... well I guess I have to make up my mind very quickly. yes sure I understand but for me polish it's bit complicated. I can compromise and Im not saying I dont accept his fmaily, of course I do, we meet , we have relations, just don't understad why their words are more important than words his future wife...he knew that he's going to be with polish he is here since 5 years , he had women before me ,he knew about polish nature and culture I never even heard about armenian before i met him, so he knew that he is going to build relationship with polish girl wher everything is different from his culture. he tries to put me in box fits only for armenian girl. so i think both of us should go for compromises.

Nane..Im guessing you are armenian girl....aren't you?

It will be really difficult decision to make...In June he's gone to his country if we dont get married so I will lose him. even thought this all things I do love him, but I also have to think about my future, that's why im doing research.

Thank you for all answers...wish I could turn back time and make different decisions....

The worst thing is that when I asked him if he will be faithful to me his answer is... "I dont know", I wish he could change but I dont know if it's possible...we were planing to get marry soon and we were savingsome money 3 months before wedding he sent his all money to his parents ,didnt inform me about...I wish see any change but if this is the culture is not possible ,right? so better if i stop dreaming?

Thank you for answer, Yes he is from Yerevan. You know I don't mind to do housework it's natural woman takes care just do not understand how peoples opinion can be more important than person you love....

Hi everybody, At the beginning just want to apologize for language mistakes. I have problem and I need advice from ppl who have experience. Im with armenian guy, he's older than me 11 years, he lives in Poland 5 years now. In june he needs to back to his country. We met more than 6 months ago and we are couple 6 months. I just felt in love with this amazing man. We got engagement and we were planing wedding in next 2 or 3 months... Everythin was great till he had his own flat but after he moved to his sister house and everything started changing... We just fight and fight and everyday almost I cry. It's horrible! Whatever his sister says he does, he cannt live without this family, they are the most important in the world and me his future wife ????whatever I say he just forgetsor doesnt follow at all.... only when we fight he takes things serious...I just dont understand why.... I heard lot of bad things about armenian but I wish hear something good, are there any mixed couples , happy wifes who can share with me how to solve problems?but im not saying about armenian girls just about armenian-different nationality relationships. becausue I have heard armenian girls opinions...and Im not armenian. Im polish girl, here everything is different and I didnt grow up in armenian culture. The man that I love I cant leave....even though we got many problems. Last time he said he won't help me in house even if i have kids and many stuffs t odo because this is girls job, only when we are alone I can ask him for help. When he invite friends I need to serve for them and do not ask him even to bring tea from the kitchen. Here in Poland in relationships we share everything , we help each others, share not only love but everydays life. Polish girls are so independent and energetic always have something to say but we also love so much and take care of our men with all love we have. I unerstand he is not polish and he will never be and I know I have to go for compromises. But I think he want me to became exactly like armenian girl and this is immposible for me. Something what is normal and obvious for armenina for me it can me strange and unnormal. We both have to make some changes in us. But I will never understand why his family is more important and I heard it always be...Is it right? Please I need opisions, advice, some tips how to understand this man....