EZ Posted March 21, 2005 Report Share Posted March 21, 2005 Marring into your own culture has one big advantage. No matter where you live you will always feel at HOME! style_images/master/snapback.png That is not true Gamavor. It can very well be that you don't feel at home at all when you marry into your own culture. The reason is that everyone is unique, whatever culture they belong to. So my advice (and I am a very experienced woman) is: look for a person, a human being, not a member of a certain race or culture. The topic starter asked: "is it wrong?" .... this question is rediculous. What could be wrong about liking another person that happens to belong to a different culture? At worst, it could turn out to be the wrong person. No harm done, it's a learning process, just keep on searching until you find the right one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azat Posted March 22, 2005 Report Share Posted March 22, 2005 great to see you here again Elly. How is your project in the woods of France going? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kakachik77 Posted March 22, 2005 Report Share Posted March 22, 2005 That is not true Gamavor. It can very well be that you don't feel at home at all when you marry into your own culture. The reason is that everyone is unique, whatever culture they belong to. So my advice (and I am a very experienced woman) is: look for a person, a human being, not a member of a certain race or culture. The topic starter asked: "is it wrong?" .... this question is rediculous. What could be wrong about liking another person that happens to belong to a different culture? At worst, it could turn out to be the wrong person. No harm done, it's a learning process, just keep on searching until you find the right one. style_images/master/snapback.png most Armenians know this, they just don't want to believe in it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gamavor Posted March 22, 2005 Report Share Posted March 22, 2005 That is not true Gamavor. Well, at least I provoked you to get out from the deep Breton woods! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dianjan Posted March 23, 2005 Report Share Posted March 23, 2005 Well, after reading all of the posts, I'm a little bit shocked and amazed at some of the comments that are made. First of all, I want to comment aobut who should we marry? I agree that if you do get to fall in love with an Armenian, then that's great. However, sometimes it just doesn't work out that way. At the end I don't think it matters who the other person is, as long as that person takes care of you, loves you and is always loyal to you. Marrying a person just because he/she is an Armenian is the biggest mistake that someone can make. I've seen many Armenian marriages succeed, and on the other hand I've seen many fail and end up in abuse, cheating and of course divorce. Second of all, I really do not appreciate when some Armenians judge other Armenians on how Armenian they are. I've had Hayastanci Armenians tell me that I'm not Armenian just because I was born in Tbilisi. That judgement goes on all the time. That needs to stop. We talk about Muslims, and their hatred towards us, well how about we for once all start liking each other and stop making assumptions. For me personally, I am a pure Armenian and I can read, write and speak Armenian, but that's not good enough to some people. Regarding the assimilation issue: I agree with what loxxsqueen wrote. It all depends on the individual. It all depends on how bad that person wants to maintain his/her identity. I've seen people who came here 5 years ago, and they totally forgot where they came from, and I know people who are 2nd and 3rd generation living in US, and they kept their identity. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
armjan Posted March 24, 2005 Report Share Posted March 24, 2005 (edited) Second of all, I really do not appreciate when some Armenians judge other Armenians on how Armenian they are. I've had Hayastanci Armenians tell me that I'm not Armenian just because I was born in Tbilisi. agreed. dianjan, armenian is what you are, it's not something you try to be. Edited March 24, 2005 by armjan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymouse Posted March 26, 2005 Report Share Posted March 26, 2005 agreed. dianjan, armenian is what you are, it's not something you try to be. I don't know, I love lavash and everytime I eat it I become more Armenian. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anahit Posted March 29, 2005 Report Share Posted March 29, 2005 Oh, this topic really hits me… I always wanted to marry an Armenian, always said and still say that they are the nicest, most careful and devoted men. Also most handsome ones! And I always wanted my kids to be what they say “100% pure Armenian”… But…. The only man I have ever loved is an “otar” (foreigner), even worse! is exactly the opposite kind of what I though I liked or wanted. And yet, I married him, although my mother used to tell me never marry because of love, and am the happiest person in the universe! I think we must marry who we love. And, I will never tell my children who to marry, it is their choice. But I do hope they marry Armenians. Oh, I would have given so much for my husband to be an Armenian, but he is not, and for me marrying the person who I love and who loves me, is very important cause I know I have got only one life, and love is what makes me happy and what will make my family strong, my kids happy and satisfied (smart too! they will be able to learn lots of languages very easily, know about few cultures instead of 1 or 2). So the bottom line is: marry the person u love, and carry on the traditions and the culture of your people (or the people U want) !!! And yes, you are who you want/choose to be. p.s. something for mx5: I feel very free with my husband, and I am afraid I wouldn’t have been as free with an Armenian man (specially with all his family interfering in our life). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sev-mard Posted March 29, 2005 Report Share Posted March 29, 2005 (edited) I don't know, I love lavash and everytime I eat it I become more Armenian. style_images/master/snapback.png I love lavash too, as while I don't become anymore remotely Armenian when I eat it I do feel satiated, and happy. Edited March 29, 2005 by sev-mard Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarsher101 Posted November 29, 2005 Report Share Posted November 29, 2005 I myself don't see anything wrong with marrying outside your race. Don't understand why parents take it upon themselves to tell their kids whom to marry, and whom not to marry. It's not like they will be spending the rest of their lives with this person. What do you think about this Dude? maybe you should change your nick to less than hye if you know what i mean. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eloren Posted November 29, 2005 Report Share Posted November 29, 2005 If we want to consider ourselves as a proud and good people, we should first stop being racist.. I personnaly prefer to marry an armenian women, we understand each other, we have the same culture etc.. BUT, love cannot be commanded. If you find a woman and feel that she IS the woman of your life, it is the worst torture to forbid yourself to love her, even if she is not armenian. Best is to look for women in armenian communities, that way you have less chance to meet a foreign woman of your dreams Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExtraHye Posted November 29, 2005 Report Share Posted November 29, 2005 (edited) maybe you should change your nick to less than hye if you know what i mean. Wow your so wise. How did we ever get around without you all this time. They came up with this beanie baby just for you http://www.wisher-lures.com/beanie/wise.jpg Edited November 29, 2005 by ExtraHye Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aSoldier Posted November 30, 2005 Report Share Posted November 30, 2005 If we want to consider ourselves as a proud and good people, we should first stop being racist.. I personnaly prefer to marry an armenian women, we understand each other, we have the same culture etc.. BUT, love cannot be commanded. If you find a woman and feel that she IS the woman of your life, it is the worst torture to forbid yourself to love her, even if she is not armenian. Best is to look for women in armenian communities, that way you have less chance to meet a foreign woman of your dreams Well said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Takoush Posted November 30, 2005 Report Share Posted November 30, 2005 Well said. I second it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Anka_ Posted December 2, 2005 Report Share Posted December 2, 2005 (edited) Oh, this topic really hits me… I always wanted to marry an Armenian, always said and still say that they are the nicest, most careful and devoted men. Also most handsome ones!" You're kidding me right? Edited December 2, 2005 by _Anka_ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allarmeniangirl Posted December 2, 2005 Report Share Posted December 2, 2005 The reason why marrying outside of your race or ethnicity is bad, is because a lot of times it causes cultural problems. If you, love almost everything in your culture and how it is and what it's made up of, you are going to have a hard time being with someone of another ethnicity than you if they feel the same way about their culture. A lot of couples say that they will compromise their traditions, but down the line you are bound to hear things like, "Well, this is how we do things in my family" and that's when the drama begins. Different foods, dances, language, etc. A lot of times it's a lot of work to have interracial marriages work. I guess it can work when both people don't have any traditions and want to create their own. P.S. Sorry if I repeated anything that was already said in this thread. I didn't read all the comments. lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anoushik Posted December 2, 2005 Report Share Posted December 2, 2005 (edited) Hey every one! what you guys think about "we armenians should marry an armenian"? Today i met a women she was very upset about her son's girlfriend it's just because she is russian.Is it right or wrong?... Maybe I've answered in this thread already, but I don't remember. Anyway, here is my answer. My children will be Armenian, biologically and culturally. With this goal, I guess it would be easier for me to find myself an Armenian husband. It's less complicated Edit: Or I should say why complicate the situation? Edited December 2, 2005 by anoushik Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Takoush Posted December 2, 2005 Report Share Posted December 2, 2005 (edited) Maybe I've answered in this thread already, but I don't remember. Anyway, here is my answer. My children will be Armenian, biologically and culturally. With this goal, I guess it would be easier for me to find myself an Armenian husband. It's less complicated Edit: Or I should say why complicate the situation? anoushik: What a philosoper you are!!! Yes my dear you and I have this for sure in common. When I was looking for an Armenian guy to marry that's exactly what I said to myself. My children will be Armenian biologically and culturally and I seeked only that. Edited December 2, 2005 by Anahid Takouhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anoushik Posted December 2, 2005 Report Share Posted December 2, 2005 anoushik: What a philosoper you are!!! Yes my dear you and I have this for sure in common. What a compliment! Thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Takoush Posted December 3, 2005 Report Share Posted December 3, 2005 (edited) What a compliment! Thanks! Anoushik: While I complimented you, I have also complimented myself; because I really did indeed the same philosophy that I complimented you about which is the very same thoughts as mine. So you see, I am also a philosopher. Now you can compliment me right back. By the way, I never said you are welcomed. Edited December 3, 2005 by Anahid Takouhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
voghormatz Posted March 16, 2006 Report Share Posted March 16, 2006 Maybe if you guys could learn how to spell I would actually reply... *yawn* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sip Posted March 16, 2006 Report Share Posted March 16, 2006 Maybe if you guys could learn how to spell I would actually reply... *yawn* For most of us, English is the third or fourth language. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gamavor Posted March 16, 2006 Report Share Posted March 16, 2006 Fifth here! And the least I care about is my English spelling! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yervant1 Posted March 16, 2006 Report Share Posted March 16, 2006 Maybe if you guys could learn how to spell I would actually reply... *yawn* Haw abot yu starte yur own spelllllling bee designer forum and call it Versaci, Gucci or Spelci. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anoushik Posted March 16, 2006 Report Share Posted March 16, 2006 Haw abot yu starte yur own spelllllling bee designer forum and call it Versaci, Gucci or Spelci. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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