Guest Posted December 5, 2000 Report Share Posted December 5, 2000 Should parents disown a daughter simply because she married the wrong suitor in their opinion? Should grandparents reject a grandchild because of similar reasons? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 5, 2000 Report Share Posted December 5, 2000 Naaaa. Not at all. This isn't the late 1800's its the 21st centrury. Its propostorous that people couldn't decide who to marry on thier own. It should be up to the individual to make the decision on who THEY will spend the rest of thier life with, not thier parents. So my answer to this question is no Hakob absolutely not. [This message has been edited by Alex Kornev (edited December 05, 2000).] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 5, 2000 Report Share Posted December 5, 2000 quote:Originally posted by Hakob:Should parents disown a daughter simply because she married the wrong suitor in their opinion? I don't see how any parents could disown their own flesh and blood. Wouldn't this be the same daughter they held a baby and watched grow up??? As a parent, I'll never understand this mentality. quote:Originally posted by Hakob:Should grandparents reject a grandchild because of similar reasons?I would shoot such grandparents. This is inexcusable. They would be severely hurting a child that had no say in the marriage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 5, 2000 Report Share Posted December 5, 2000 This leads to a more general topic on the strength of family ties. One of my sources of strength and pride is that my (Armenian) family will be there for me no matter what. I could quit my job tomorrow, leave my wife and marry a hooker, and my family would be there for me. They'd be pissed off, but they'd be there for me. Just as sure as the sun will come up tomorrow, our family will stay strong. Similarly, there's nothing my son could do that would make me disown him. He's my son. Period. Those three words say anything and everything possible. This is one area in America where the jermags are all f'd up. They don't value family. Go to any park on a weekend in Los Angeles--all you'll see are Latin Americans because they know the importance of family. If you go to a park in Glendale, you'll also see Armenians and Koreans, but seldom see whites. That's the problem with Americans, no importance placed on family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 6, 2000 Report Share Posted December 6, 2000 That's absolutely true. I think it stems from our emphasis on individualism in this nation. Another is the fact that Anglos have intermixed with each other so much that there is no true cohesion. This reflects on extended families. One more question: "would your Armenian family be there for you, if your other half was not white?" Just a thought.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 6, 2000 Report Share Posted December 6, 2000 quote:Originally posted by Hakob:One more question: "would your Armenian family be there for you, if your other half was not white?" Just a thought....You mean if my mom married a sev? Hard to say. I'm sure it would have been a BIG deal, but everyone would have gotten over it. Actually my mom may have been better off if she had!! Actually, I think my grandma's older sister DID date a sev. Supposedly he could speak Armenian. She was a obviously a wild lady for her time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 6, 2000 Report Share Posted December 6, 2000 a true story is: In a villge in Fereydan, West of Esfahan, early Seventies, an Armenian girl fell in love with a Georgian boy, and wanted to marry, her parents disagreed and kept the girl at home not let her visit the boy, but one day the villagers saw that the girl and boy are disappread, after a week they came back as a married couple, the brother of girl wanted to kill them, there occured a big fight in the village. The family of the girl ousted the girl and moved to somewhere else, the girl has since then no contact with her family at all, only her youngest brother after all years has found her back and are good to each other, but her parents won't see the face of that girl and their grand children. My cousin knows her very well, she is the directrice of the school which she works as teacher. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 7, 2000 Report Share Posted December 7, 2000 quote:Originally posted by Gayane:Mikey, you're so idealistic.I think you're the first person to ever apply that adjective to me! But I can see how my post would come across as such. I know it happens, I'll just never understand it. If you can't have unconditional love with your parents who can you ever have it with??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 7, 2000 Report Share Posted December 7, 2000 Mikey, you're so idealistic....cute.. I do think parents CAN disown their children, armenian parents that is... It's been known to happen...I've seen it.. That doesn't mean they should. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 18, 2001 Report Share Posted January 18, 2001 I have one cousin in U.S.A. She has Armenian boyfriend. When she starded to meet with himhis family didn't like her because she was otar.Then when she came to Poland she met our family and she learned that she have Armenian relatives. I wonder what was the reaction of her boyfriend's family when they learned that she is not exactly otar. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 18, 2001 Report Share Posted January 18, 2001 You cannot disown your child, but if your child does not respect the word of parents, then it is your mistake, you've raised him/her in such way. That is all about it. And it is big shame on the child for doing that! Artur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 18, 2001 Report Share Posted January 18, 2001 I'll tell you one story. My aunt (from mother's side) fell in real love with one half georgian half greek (from Caucassus) guy. Then the family rejected the marriage and they run away. My grandmother and grandfather did not know what to do. My aunt though did not have any brothers. They married each other, and then my grandparents recognised him. Now they live happu life both of them, have one kid, amazing boy (i love him so much And there is no anger or hate whatsoever from grandparents. ArturP.S. My aunt told this to me by secret so don't spread, if she finds out i am dead )) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 19, 2001 Report Share Posted January 19, 2001 This just goes to show that love is sometimes stronger than culture, nationalistic pride, religion and racism. Studies show that ethnic groups in the U.S. with the most chauvinist attitudes are highly like to witness huge intermarriage rates in latter generations (2nd or 3rd gen.)Girls really do not like men who are too possessive or narrow-minded. Look at the Japanese and the Germans (highly chauvinist). Their intermarriage rates are the highest of all groups here. My take on it, agree or disagree? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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