ԶՈՔԱՆՉ- Mother in Law -Violence

[Arpa]

ԶՈՔԱՆՉ

 

Mother in law. Or is it "out of law"?

 

I may have chosen to post this under a variety of topics, like Our Ugly Side etc. But I chose to air this under the CULTURE category, since it speaks about the CULTURE of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.

See where Extra aired the following question looking for endearing terms for in-laws;

http://hyeforum.com/index.php?showtopic=37723

MosJan- -I call my zoqanch a moraq, hmmmm I call 99.9 % of them moraqs :)Zoqanchi maman vorna chem haskanum jannnem

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Do we have psychologists, sociologists or anthropologists here?

Are seeing these stories from the side of the “victims”, not knowing the side of the alleged perpetrated?

Have our ex-Yerevanite friends seen this phenomenon?

 

Some call her “zonkach” just as some call Kamurj -Karmuj and akanj-ankaj.

When did this most revered institution -Zokanch become such a monster? When did the Mother in Law become such a witch?

What is happening to the culture of sanctity of the Armenian Family ?

Shall we rename our Զոքանչ/Zokanch Վհուկ/Vhook?

http://images.wikia.com/villains/images/8/8f/Wicked_witch.jpg

 

http://hyeforum.com/index.php?showtopic=15863&st=0&p=196678&hl=zokanch&fromsearch=1entry196678

http://hyeforum.com/index.php?showtopic=37723&pid=286768&st=0entry286768

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First we saw this;

http://www.armenianweekly.com/2011/10/14/zaruhi-husband-receives-10-year-sentence/

By: Nanore Barsoumian

Twenty-year-old Zaruhi Petrosyan became one of the latest victims of domestic violence in Armenia when she was viciously beaten to death by her husband and mother-in-law, says the victim’s sister, Hasmig.

In an interview with News.am, Hasmig recounted a horrific story of abuse that her late sister, mother to an infant girl, suffered, and the impotence and unwillingness of the police to act when faced with cases of domestic violence.

Zaruhi’s relatives insist that by the time she was transported to a hospital, she had been severely beaten for days in a row.

“The neighbors have stated [to the Masis police] that on the day of my sister’s death, they entered the apartment and witnessed how they [the husband and the mother-in-law]… had broken her knees and fingers, crushed her skull, and stuffed cloth in her mouth, to stop the bleeding. Then, one of the neighbors told their son to call the cops. When her mother-in-law and husband realized that the cops would be on their way, in her beaten state, they threw [Zaruhi] down the stairs, pulled her body back into the house, so that they could tell the cops that she fell down the stairs and crushed her bones,” said Hasmig.

The sister believes that Yanis Sarkisov, her sister’s husband, broke Zaruhi’s fingers after she tried to dial for help.

According to Hasmig, by the time Zaruhi died, she had already been subjected to days of beatings, suffering broken knees and, ultimately, a crushed skull. Her sister believes her fingers were broken when she tried to dial for help. Neighbors said Sarkisov had thrown Zaruhi’s body down a flight of stairs to attribute her injuries to a fall.

Initial statements made by friends and family alleged that Sakisov’s mother, Lilia Sarkisova, also beat Zaruhi. Sarkisova, however, has not been charged, and currently has custody of Zaruhi’s daughter. Some activists have protested the placement of the child with Sarkisova, in the form of letters to the authorities and appeals to the Child Protection Agency.

Zaruhi Petrosyan’s death shed light on the problem of domestic violence in Armenia, and gave rise to calls for the adoption of domestic violence laws by authorities

 

And now we see this. Even more bizarre;

 

http://hetq.am/eng/articles/7449/tale-of-terror-young-newlywed-seeks-justice-for-10-months-of-cruel-mistreatment.html

 

Tale of Terror: Young Newlywed Seeks Justice for 10 Months of Cruel Mistreatment

Ararat Davtyan

 

11:35, December 2, 2011

Ten months after getting a divorce, 20 year-old Mariam returned to Armenia.

Her father, Hamazasp Gevorgyan, says he didn’t recognise Mariam at the airport.

They immediately went to the police and Hamazasp says that they were all touched by Mariam’s story to the point of tears.

“Even Prosecutor Arsen Arsenyan got all emotional. But afterwards...,” Hamazasp says, hiding his own tears.

Two years ago, Russian resident Haykanoush Mikayelyan visited the village of Taperakan in Ararat Marz and asked the Gevorgyan family to give their daughter Mariam in marriage to her eldest son Davit Ziroyan. Haykanoush said that her son was divorced.

The Gevorgyans had confidence in the family since Haykanoush was sister of the mother-in-law of their middle daughter.

“They also had a house in Artashat and had built a small holy statue in the yard. We figured they were God-fearing folk,” says Hamazasp Gevorgyan.

The two got married in November, 2009 and left for St. Petersburg in Russia.

Mariam says that’s when the trouble started with her mother-in-law. On January 6, Armenian Christmas, Mariam says that the woman savagely beat her, leaving blue welts on her face.

Mariam, a high school grad, says that she was only allowed out of the house in St. Petersburg the first few days after arriving.

She says that except for the two brothers of her husband, everyone else in the house took part in beating her.

Mariam showed us the cuts on her shoulder where her husband and mother-in-law stabbed her with a fork. They also used a hot iron on her, leaving scars on Mariam’s hands and waist.

“They’d use any excuse to beat me, even accusing me of putting a hex on them. My mother-in-law made me stick out my tongue to burn it. Then, she washed my mouth out with soap, Mariam recounts.

 

The cuts of fork

 

She only shared a bed with her husband for those first two weeks. The family stopped her from even sleeping in a bed and the young woman was forced to sleep in a chair in the corner of the room for months. Mariam had to shower with cold water.

“Once I scribbled the words ‘help, I am being tortured here’ on a piece of paper and tossed it out the window. They found out and beat me even harder,” says Mariam.

 

Hamazasp Gevorgyan

 

Mariam’s father said he would telephone Russia to speak with her and that the mother-in-law would keep him waiting for ten minutes before putting Mariam on the line.

“I got suspicious. Mariam would just say that she was fine and not to worry. She never asked how we were doing back home. Somehow, I found Davit’s former wife and went to their house. Her mother told me to go and bring back Mariam to save her before it’s too late,” says Mr. Gevorgyan.

He told Haykanoush to send Mariam back to Armenia because he missed her so. Haykanoush told him that only Davit could decide. He refused, telling Mariams’s father that they hadn’t raised her in the proper manner.

Mariam says her husband’s family never even told her about the phone calls from Armenia and ridiculed her by saying ‘you’re even no good to your folks back home’.

Even when Mariam was allowed to speak to her father, Haykanoush was always listening in, telling the girl to watch what she says.

Mariam decided she had to flee from that hell hole and one day in late September 2010, almost ten months after getting married, she saw her chance and took it.

Her husband Davit was asleep and her father-in-law had gone to the store for some milk. He had left the door open. Haykanoush, not realizing her husband had gone out, went into the other room to make a phone call to Armenia. Mariam took off.

“My face was beaten and my feet swollen. Where was I to go? It was dark, so I went to a neighbour’s apartment. They told me to go to the police. I was afraid so I waited all night on the stairs till morning. I wanted to go to the church for assistance,” says Mariam.

Mariam was found and brought back inside. But her in-laws suspected she might have told the neighbours about her harrowing experience. They decided to wait about two weeks for her wounds to heal and then sent Mariam home on October 15.

Her father says Mariam was too scared to tell them anything after returning to Armenia. But she finally broke down and told them everything.

 

Haykanoush Mikayelyan (in the center)

 

He says that Haykanoush’s sister recently paid them a visit and offered them hush money.

Mariam says that her husband’s former wife, Monica, also came round the house and told her that the same stuff had happened to her. Monica married Davit in 2005 and also was taken to St. Petersburg. She stayed for three years.

Mariam refused to talk to Hetq about her experiences with the family in Russia; it’s was too painful to recollect.

“I went to the police but nothing was done. Money covered it all up. No matter, God sees all that happens and the guilty will be punished in the end,” Monica told Hetq.

On October 25, Mariam and Monica filed a statement at the Ararat Police Department. A criminal case was quickly launched against Davit.

Police in Armenia told Mariam’s family that Davit had been taken into custody in Russia but that he had pleaded innocent to the charges, arguing that many of Mariam’s wounds predated their marriage and that the rest had been self-inflicted.

Since the charges against Davit Ziroyan only carried a maximum three years sentence, the prosecuting investigator decided to pardon him and drop the case. Davit never spent one day in jail.

Davit’s mother Haykanoush is in the process of being extradited to Armenia.

Police here in Armenia tell Hetq that the case must be reviewed before any specific charges according to RA law can be made.

Mariam’s father Hamazasp has given up all hope of getting justice for his daughter. He’s now looking into petitioning authorities in Russia to see what can be done.

Edited December 4, 2011 by Arpa

[Nané]

Կարդում եմ ու սարսափում: Որքա՜ն հիվանդ են այս մարդկանց հոգիները:

[Ani]

ՈՒղակի սարսափելի ա...կարդում ես ու պապանձվում...

 

Բայց այս խնդիրն ավելի մեծ է, սարսափելի ու մասսայական: Այս պարագայում աղջիկն "ընկել է" հոգեկան շեղումներ ունեցող սադիստների ոհմակի մեջ, բայց սա արդյունքն է մեր ազգային հոգեբանության: Հազարավոր այլ աղջիկներ նմանատիպ ամուսնությունների "զոհերն" են, թեկուզ բանը արդուկով այրելուն և պատառաքաղներով ծակծկելուն չի հասնում: Մինչև մեր իրականության մեջ աղջկա կյանքի տրամաբանական հաջորդ քայլը չդադարի լինելուց ամուսնությունն ու "լավ տեղ ընկնելն" ու "տնավորվելը", էսպիսի վիճակները անխուսափելի են լինելու: Յուրաքանչյուր աղջիկա տարիքին զուգահեռ հասունանում է այն միտքy', որ նա լիարժեք մարդ չի կարող համարվել, եթե որոշակի տարիքից հետո ամուսնացած չլինի: Գիտեմ, գյուտ չեմ անում, ուղակի էնքան կուզեի մեր ծնողների ու բոլորիս հոգեբանությունից հանել այդ տրամաբանական հաջորդ քայլի գաղաp'արը: Հարյուրավոր այլ ամուսնություններ հոգեպես ոչնչացնում են աղջիկներին և ինչու ոչ, հաճախ նաև տղաներին ('մայրը տղայի համար լավ տնական աղջիկ գտավ'-ի արդյունքում): Ծնող դառնալը անկրկնելի երևույթ է, անխոս, ամուսնությունը նույնպես, երբ այն կայանում է սիրելի մարդու հետ կյանքդ կիսելու ցանկության արդյունքում:

Չգիտեմ, բայց ես իմ աղջիկներին ամեն օր սովորեցնելու եմ, որ իրենց կյանքի տրամաբանական հաջորդ քայլը միշտ լինելու է երջանիկ լինելը, անկախ տարիքից, պայմաններից ու շրջապատի կարծիքից:

[MosJan]

45 angam portsetsy kardam arants kang arnelu chi sytatsvum.. minchev verch chem kardatsel;.. chem el uzzum..

 

 

vhuk ? inch vhuk ...

[MosJan]

Երեւանում փեսան խոհանոցային դանակով փորձել է սպանել քնած զոքանչին

 

 

 

 

http://newsam.com/news/116714.jpgՕգոստոս 10, 2012 | 15:37

NEWS.am-ի տեղեկություններով, Էրեբունի վարչական շրջանում փեսան փորձել է զոքանչին սպանել:

 

Զոքանչը հայտարարություն է տվել, որ դեպքը տեի է ունեցել օգոստոսի սկզբներին: Երբ քնած է եղել, փեսան խոհանոցային դանակով փորձել է իրեն սպանել, սակայն սպանությունը կանխվել է աղջկա կողմից:

 

ՀՀ ոստիկանության լրատվական ծառայությունից հաստատեցին NEWS.am-ի այս տեղեկությունը: Ինչպես նաեւ փոխանցեցին, որ հանգամանքները պարզվում են, կատարվում է հետաքննություն:

 

Լուրեր Հայաստանից - NEWS.am