In my opinion every government has its incentives. Moreover, narrow interests serve as basis for governments, regardless of party or country. On the top of that, individual ambitions and interest of government leaders shape the structure of these incentives. It is virtually impossible to have a government without an ego.
The present ego of our government is strong and heavy greed: power, money, careers etc. And it must be satisfied to some extent. And I hope that there is a limit for every human being, even in greed.
If the government cannot find the limits of its greed, there must be a structure, which could persuade the government that its greed is already satisfied. In vast majority of normal democracies this argumentation comes from different unions, and Armenia lacks this institution, which in my mind is one of the core problems of Armenia's social-political establishment.
The government of Armenian currently ( and always) receives enough money from diaspora to implement any kind of development projects it wants. A significant portion of this money is "wasted" (in their pockets), but there are some minor achievements. I totally agree with you that the criticism of the government should never stop and that it is the priority.
In contrast, I don't see the role of Armenian Church in our society. If they are a private institution they could very well establish a business and stop begging.
It is a matter of defining the ideals for different institutions. We all have a pretty good idea of the ugly reality. But that should not detract us from demanding the ideal. The ideal is a pretense. But it is a useful one, providing a reference point.
At this point in time, the church is just another private institution, vying for more power, more influence, more perks, more money, bigger, better, and all the nonsense that drives "private enterprise". And it's not necessarily a bad thing. You can't blame the individuals or institutions for asking, but you can blame the government for giving.
Let me give an example from a different kind of "priesthood". It is perfectly acceptable, and indeed almost universally viewed as desirable that science departments do "outreach" in order to recruit young minds into science. Of course, the science establishment often sucks their blood and chews out what's left after grad school, but that fact would not be a part of their "proselytizing". Microsoft would have a much harder time going into schools with the explicit intention of producing future Microsoft programmers, even though they may be offering a more prosperous or even more meaningful future. The history and the perception of one of the two "institutions" allows it to get away with something that others cannot. The church milks its perceived image and "national" position for all its worth. And why wouldn't they, when everyone else is? In an ideal situation, they come and ask, the government raises its middle finger, and the case is closed.
As for the misdirection of diasporan funds. Like all funds, they are being wasted and channeled in breathtakingly inefficient directions. Who has the organizational level and clout to do something about it? Certainly not the Twilight Barks or ArmenSargs of HyeForum, or a few dozen readers. Only the government has the ability to mold and guide. The church could be a formidable moral force, even for non-believers. But forget it; we know it's not going to happen. And we can go door to door preaching to diasporans that they should stop supporting the church. What will it accomplish? Needless to say we would be dismissed (or worse) by most of the "friends of the church". And from the few that agreed, we would have taken away the only national totem that was near and "tangible" to them. Most likely they will proceed to view being Armenian as a pointless exercise in masochism, and assimilate away. Most will not turn into vigorous reformers of anything, not even the neighborhood grocery store.
Just as the church should compete with other denominations by offering higher spirituality and self-consistency rather than bullying them out of Armenia, the non-church entities should offer sensible alternatives for the souls and funds of Armenians everywhere. The keyword is competition
. The regular disaporan is the "client", and any entity with national or nationalistic pretenses is competing for their "business". Have we learned the basic tenets of free-enterprise yet?