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[tektuk]

My grandmother passed away a few months ago. She was born May 1915 near the Ankara/Kirikkale area. We have been patching together her life from recorded testimony and this is the result. I'm posting it here because people who have read this have said it could be made into a film or documentary. She wouldn't have wanted me to do this because as she used to say, "every Armenian family has stories like this", but hers is perhaps unique in the way it connects the Armenian genocide to the Holocaust. After spending her childhood in orphanages in Lebanon and Egypt, she then came to Belgium. Six months after marrying my grandfather and living in Holland in 1939, the Nazis invaded Holland and imprisoned my grandparents together with all the other British subjects from the countries they occupied. They spent the next 5 years in internment camps in Holland, Germany, Poland, and France where they were together with Jews who were sent to the gas chambers. They were freed by the Americans in the internment camp at Vittel, France in 1944.

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Angéle Shami Maranian

b. 15 May 1915
Keskin, Ottoman Turkey

d. 27 March 2007
Hichingbrooke Hospital (nr. Cambridge), England


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Keskin 1914
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Hayguhi/Reine, Shami/Angéle in Belgium, 1920s
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Horyeghpayr l'Abbe Jean Nalbandian
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Angéle with mother Sultan, sisters, and l'Abbe
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The Schloss, Liebenhau, Germany WWII  photo8a.jpg   366.09KB   13 downloads

Maurice and Angéle with newborn twins at internment camp in Vittel, France, 1944
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Life in suburban London, 1950s
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Trip to Ankara 1970 to see sister Akabi
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Trip to Liege, Belgium 1995 to visit convent attended as a girl  photo44_1995.jpg   1.11MB   27 downloads

A few months before she passed away
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and here is a video of Keskin I found on youtube: Keskin

Early Years: Turkey, Lebanon, Egypt, Belgium

Angéle Maranian was born Shamiram Nalbandian in May 1915 to an Armenian Catholic family in the town of Keskin Denek Maden, located in the Ankara vilayet of Ottoman Turkey. Her father, an engineer in the local mines, did not survive the events of 1915, and the severe wartime conditions left her mother without the means to take care of Angéle and her three sisters. Wanting to give the girls a better life, around 1919/1920 the mother put Angéle and her next oldest sister Hayguhi/Reine (b. 1913) in the care of a group who were departing the area. They had promised to put the girls in school at a place called Zincidere (possibly in Kayseri). Thus the girls left their mother and two sisters for what was to be the beginning of a whirlwind set of events that would take them first to other parts of the Middle East and then to Europe.

It is unclear what happened next but after about a year in Zincidere, they were taken as part of a group to the southern Turkish port city of Mersin by horse and cart. Angéle recalls the horse and cart falling over on the way to Mersin. At Mersin they boarded a boat to Beirut. Arriving in Beirut after three days of travel by boat during which the boat sank and they had to be rescued from the water, the sisters were split up and sent to different camps. Angéle remembers the name of her camp as "Souk", while Reine’s was in Jounieh. The camps, run by American relief organizations, were full of orphans from many different backgrounds. They had no shoes, and they slept on the floor as there were no beds. After about six months Reine petitioned for the sisters to be put together, and they were reunited staying in Jounieh. By this time the girls had lost all contact with their mother, who was still in Turkey. One day however, a letter arrived at the camp from their mother, the first contact they received from their mother since they had left Turkey more than two years earlier. Reine gave the letter to her younger sister to hold onto while she searched for someone who could read it for them, but a strong wind blew in and snatched the letter from young Angele's hand. It was lost and they were devastated. The sisters remained in these shelters for another two years.

One day an announcement was made in the camp that there was room for Catholic children in an Armenian orphanage in Alexandria, Egypt. Angéle and Reine requested to go, and arrangements were made for their travel. Thus the two sisters arrived in Alexandria in 1923 at the ages of 10 and 8. The orphanage was run by wealthy Armenian tobacco growers named Matossian, who brought Armenian Catholic nuns from Rome to take care of the children. The years they spent here were by far the happiest of their lives so far. It was a clean and beautiful place, and they were there with other orphaned Armenian children. They slept in beds for the first time they could remember, and went to school in the orphanage, being taught to read and write in Armenian. In the afternoons the nuns took them to the seaside. They would end up staying in this orphanage for four years.

Unbeknownst to them at the time, their mother in Turkey was frantically trying to locate her lost daughters. The sisters' paternal uncle was a Catholic priest who had studied at the Mkhtarist seminary in Venice and had risen to a prominent position in the Armenian Catholic Church. Known as l'Abbe Jean Nalbandian, he had already become well known in Europe for bringing Armenian orphans from the Middle East to Belgium and France. Their mother contacted him to enlist his help in tracking them down. So it was that one day in 1927, an Armenian priest from Cairo came to the orphanage in Alexandria to ask the girls if they had an uncle named Nalbandian. "Yes", they said, "we have an uncle named Nalbandian, but we don't know where he is." Surmising that these may be the sought-after sisters, he told them that their mother had been looking for them for almost ten years, and that their uncle wished to make arrangements for them to relocate to Belgium. Soon thereafter, they packed the few belongings they had, said an emotional goodbye to the nuns and other children of the orphanage, and boarded a ship to Marseille. The journey took four days. In Marseille, they were met by a young priest and friend of their uncle's. The young priest asked them where their suitcases were. They explained that all they had were the bundles beside them. From Marseille they traveled to Paris, and were met by two of their cousins, Marcel and Pascal and their mother. These cousins' father had also been killed in Turkey during the events of 1915. After about three months in Paris staying with Marcel and Pascal and their mother, the uncle brought the girls to Belgium, putting them in an orphanage first in Tournais (1 year) and then in Brussels (1 year).

It was at the end of this second year (around 1930) that the uncle made arrangements for their mother Sultan and youngest sister Yeghisabet, still in Turkey, to settle in Belgium. Soon after, their mother and sister arrived in Belgium, leaving the oldest sister Akabi, already married, in Turkey. Angéle and Reine were now reunited with their mother after having spent most of their childhood as oprhans. There was much happiness upon their arrival, but to their dismay they quickly discovered that they could not communicate with each other. The sisters spoke only Armenian and French, and the mother and younger sister spoke only Turkish. Eleven years of separation had created a cultural distance between them. Nevertheless, the sisters recovered their lost Turkish language skills, and life acquired a degree or normalcy.

Angele was sent to further her schooling in a Catholic convent in Liege, Belgium, while Reine began work as a seamstress. Reine married Renee and their daughter was born in 1938. It was during this period that a member of the Armenian community of Brussels approached the sisters' mother, explaining that his son was looking to meet an Armenian girl. The son was Maurice Maranian, born in Manchester, England in 1908 to an English mother and an Armenian father. The Maranians were a family of Armenian shipping merchants who had settled in Manchester in the 1860s. One part of the extended family lived in Manchester, while the rest lived in Ottoman Turkey, where the family owned land in Samsun, Trabzon, Erzerum, and Batum (Georgia). Although Maurice was born in Manchester and was half English, he spent his childhood in Istanbul, attending the Armenian schools in Istanbul (such as Essayan). Armenian and Turkish were his first languages. His English mother died in childbirth in Istanbul when he was young, and was buried in the Armenian cemetery on the island of Kinali near Istanbul. After the massacres, the family fled to Belgium, and by the time he met Angéle, Maurice had a small business repairing carpets in The Hague, Holland.


World War II

The marriage took place in Brussels on August 29, 1939. They intended to spend their honeymoon in England planning to see Maurice’s brothers Edward and Steven and their wives. However, a week after the wedding, war was declared. Mobilization started, so they had to return to Maurice’s home in The Hague, Holland. They took what was to be the last train from Brussels to Holland before the borders were closed due to the occupation of Belgium by the Germans. Maurice had his carpet business in the Hague and he was doing reasonably well. At this time they received a letter from the British Consulate advising them to evacuate back to England. However, Maurice still had business to take care of with payments due and they decided to stay. The Germans attacked Holland with devastating bombing and the country was overcome in four days. During this time Maurice and Angéle went to the shelters. Angéle recalls going to see Rotterdam flattened following the heavy bombing by the Germans.

In June 1940, Maurice got a notice from the Germans to go to the “Komandature”. After taking care of some business errands he arrived there and soon realized that he was with other British nationals and that his freedom was over. Angéle received a call from a friend to say that Maurice had been arrested. She went to see him and he asked for a pair of pajamas and cigarettes. The Germans told the relatives of the men to come back at 6.00 am the next morning. When Angéle came the following morning, along with the other relatives, all the men had already gone. She found out two months later that Maurice and the other men had been sent to a place called Altmar where there were barracks. Relatives were allowed to see the men for one hour every month and she managed to travel there on one occasion.

Angéle was left on her own in The Hague with little knowledge of Dutch. For safety reasons she was told to leave The Hague since it was near the coast line. A Belgian friend told her to go to see a priest for help since she was Catholic. The priest gave her a letter to go to a convent in Amsterdam and so she packed up what she needed leaving the business and all their possessions back in The Hague with the landlord. The Nuns said that normally they could not keep married women but because of the war and her circumstances, she could stay. She stayed about two to three months in a building on her own. There was still some bombing going on and she spent many nights petrified. Angéle was also frightened of the German soldiers who did not have a good reputation. She was required to go to the “Kommandature” every week. During this time she supported herself with an allowance she received from the British once a month and from sewing that she did. She usually traveled by bike for her errands.

Angéle was trying to make arrangements with another French lady to find a flat to live together in when she was notified on December 19, 1940 to go for a special visit to the “Kommandature”. She had been working doing some sewing and so that morning, as usual, she went on her bike to do her errands and then arrived at the “Kommandature”. Soon, many others arrived such that eventually there were five hundred or so who also had British citizenship. She would now also be interned and her freedom would be over. She also had to leave behind her bike which she loved. For Angéle, being imprisoned due to her British nationality was ironic since she had not yet been to England and did not speak English. Although some British were discharged, the Germans maintained that she had to be arrested since she was legally a British subject married to a British citizen.

With the other women internees, she was sent by coach to the barracks at Altmar where Maurice and the other men had been. However the men had gone and they had no information as to where they had been sent to. Eventually they found out that the men had been sent to Tost, near Leipzig close to the Polish border, and they were soon able
to start corresponding with them. The women stayed in Altmar for about three months. At the barracks, life was hard with poor food and no proper toilets. They were required to work, mostly in the kitchen. Most of the other lady internees were Dutch speaking and so she began to learn Dutch earnestly. Angéle met Mrs. Gibson, who had lived in Indonesia and who became a life long friend until Mrs. Gibson’s death over forty years ago.

Eventually the internees left Altmar and were sent by train to Germany. They were in a cattle wagon and it was very uncomfortable with most of them getting swollen legs. People were crying, and some were hysterical, particularly the British Jewesses, who thought that they were being sent to the gas chambers. The train stopped at Aachen where they were given salted pea soup. They changed trains at Cologne having an hour to stretch their legs. This time the train was much more comfortable. Eventually the train came to Ravensburg where the SS were waiting. The SS shouted their orders and they were then taken by coach to Liebenhau, southern Germany.

The buildings at Libenhau consisted of a castle (called the “Schloss”) and four big buildings. It was run by nuns and was being used to attend to two to three thousand mental and disabled patients. Hitler gave the orders for six to seven hundred of the mental and disabled patients to be exterminated with needle injection to make way for Angéle’s group of internees. There was already about three hundred British people from Poland. Others came from Greece, Czechoslovakia, Belgium and Germany as well as the five hundred or so from Holland. The buildings at Libenhau were large and there was a barbed wire fence around the grounds. The food was very bad, mostly “ersatz” bread, but the internees only had to do cleaning and work once a month in the kitchen. The nuns did most of the work including working in the fields and also got some help from the German mental patients that remained there as well as the internees. The guards were mostly old German soldiers who were quite nice since they said that they were well treated by the British in World War I after being captured. After six to eight months, the internees received Red Cross Parcels from Switzerland comprising margarine, meat loaf, dry biscuit, tea and biscuits and money to buy things like toothpaste. Angéle was in a room with seven other ladies (Eileen Jarret, Rita Litenhoff, Anita Cohen, Mrs. Gibson, Mrs. Green, Barbara Cornfield and Sophie Newman). The room was comfortable with feathered quilts and feathered mattresses for their beds. By much coincidence, Angéle met her school friend from Liege, Helen Eliot, whose English family had lived in Belgium before the war. Life was hard but there was a lot of spirit and camaraderie. They were able to go out for walks once a day within the grounds and they constantly played cards, usually bridge. They also organized theatrical events once or twice a year including a production of Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs. Angéle was in charge of a sewing room to help to make clothes for the show and dressing gowns. She also said that the Germans in her area, who were mostly Catholic, did not want the war and wanted Germany to lose.

Internees in the men’s camp and the women’s camp petitioned for the husbands and wives to be together in the same location. They argued that the German husbands and wives, who were being interned by the British, were together on the Isle of Man. Eventually the Germans agreed and on January 22,1943, Angéle, along with many other married ladies, were sent to a camp in Vittel, France. However none of the women from Angéle rooms in Libenhau went to Vittel since they were either unmarried or widowed.

The Germans confiscated several hotels to house the internees. The internment camp at Vittel was also formally a hotel, with tennis courts and a spa. Its drinking water is still renowned today. The internment camp at Vittel housed about two thousand internees, mostly Americans, Russians, British and also Jews from Poland and Austria who had falsified British and American passports. Part of the hotel was used as a hospital. Angéle was in a comfortable room on the fourth floor with another lady called Jeanne Russell and a very kind French Lady of peasant stock who could not read or write. She befriended a French lady who persuaded her to work in the kitchen serving the soup. Workers helping in the kitchen got special privileges and were allowed to go as group with a guard to the local village to buy things they needed. They also used to barter with the French farmers for cigarettes and chocolate.

The men, including Maurice arrived on August 8, 1943 and there was enormous joy. Angéle found that that her husband had changed somewhat. His hair had receded and he seemed to be greatly affected by the rigours of being interned. Angéle on the other hand had put on weight. The married couples were placed in villa-type accommodation and Angéle and Maurice’s room was number 330. It was quite comfortable with a large sized kitchen. They continued to get Red Cross parcels every week which sustained them particularly for breakfast. They also received an allowance from the British once a month. Life was relatively comfortable and Angéle was able to play tennis and netball. Maurice and Angéle found another Brtitish Armenian family originally from Manchester, the Gumuchian family, consisting of a mother and two daughters. The eldest daughter, Stella, was conductor of the orchestra and the younger daughter, Sonia (still alive and now living in Paris) also played in the orchestra and performed in shows.

Angéle started to feel sick and went to see her kind Jewish doctor. He prescribed her medicine but it seemed to make her feel worse. They still could not find out what it was but eventually after four months they realized that she was pregnant and that she was to expect twins. Tragically, in the spring of 1944 the five hundred or so Polish and Austrian Jews were found out by the Germans to have false documents. These Jews were very distinguished and prominent people from their society. Many of them committed suicide to avoid being sent to a concentration camp. The rest of the internees strongly protested the terrible treatment of the Jews but were punished having to stay two nights in their rooms in the dark. This all happened about the same time that Angéle gave birth on April 16, 1944 to twins Michael Manouk and Margaret Araxie. Angéle and the twins had to stay in the hospital for three weeks since the babies were premature. Michael in particular was not responding well. Mother and the babies were looked after by German, French and British doctors. During her stay she recalls hearing ambulances coming frequently to the hospital carrying those who had successfully or unsuccessfully committed suicide either by jumping out of windows or cutting their wrists. In the bed next to Angéle was a Jewish lady from Austria who also gave birth to a child. The lady cried inconsolably since all her relatives, including her husband and mother, had been sent to concentration camps and she was left behind with her child. Sadly, she later committed suicide. Angéle has told this story many times.

The doctors said that Angéle could leave the hospital and leave the babies there. However she decided not to do so on the advice of others who feared that the doctors would somehow allow the babies to die. After leaving the hospital with the babies Angéle was helped by two sisters Rita and Sophie to look after them. Apparently there were about thirty babies born in the camp.

From the radio, the internees heard that the Americans and British had landed on June 6, 1944 and they subsequently followed the gradual retreat of the Germans. Around September of 1944, the area around Vittel was being liberated and much fighting took place around the camp. The German soldiers went to the mountains during the day for protection. There was a lot of bombing by the Americans and the French Resistance which went on all day. The German Komandant of the internment camp, known as Monsieur Stephan, made everyone go to the shelter. Angéle was almost killed when she went back to the room to get food for the babies and shrapnel burst into the room. The Americans and the French Resistance temporarily succeeded in liberating the area, including the camp, and the internees threw them flowers, chocolate and cigarettes. The Germans came back and attacked the area, but the French Resistance had changed all the road signs and the Germans were confused. This time the Germans were trapped and defeated. Monsieur Stephan was killed. Angéle saw many of the German soldiers being kept as prisoners in stables and Maurice went to the fields where many soldiers lay dead. She often said that they suffered too and has since throughout her life been appalled at the modern wars that have taken place knowing the terrible human suffering they bring.

After being liberated, Maurice, Angéle and the twins, along with the rest of the internees, stayed at Vittel for about three weeks or so. The British Consulate came and they were told they would be in England within a day. On October 16, 1944 they gathered their few possessions and were taken to Tours in France in a group of twenty one refugees. Tours was an airfield with temporary hospitals for the wounded. Instead of staying a short while in Tours, they ended up staying four nights sleeping on stretchers in a large tent waiting to be put on a plane to England. The Americans looked after them well and they were well fed. At one point they ran out of nappies for the babies so the Americans gave them four pillow covers to use. The Germans started to bomb again though and the American general said that it was too dangerous for them to stay. The group of twenty one refugees then traveled to Paris where many soldiers and refugees had gathered. They arrived at noon at the railway station and waited until 6.00pm when they were eventually taken to Monmatre Hotel by the British Consulate. The hotel had no lights so they had to stay in the dark. The following morning, the French Red Cross, who were very good to them, gave then some milk and money. To buy food you needed coupons which they did not have and so they had to go to the soup kitchens for the poor. They stayed at the hotel for four days.

After their stay the Monmatre Hotel, they were sent by the British Consulate by coach to Bourjais Airport which was still operating despite being flattened. They arrived at the airport at noon and had to wait till 6.00pm before being flown to Northholt airport near London on a Dacota plane with the rest of the group of twenty one refugees. After much
interrogation at Northholt airport, they were sent to a refugee center in the center of London. They were photographed by the press in the refugee center. The following day, The Daily Mirror wrote an article with the heading “Twins, born in Hun Camp are freed” and the Evening News showed photographs of Angéle and the twins with a title “Born in Captivity, Free in London”. Maurice went to see his sister in laws in Ruislip who lived on the same street but found neither of them at home since they were at work. He left a note to say that the family had arrived. When they arrived home that day to find the note they were overjoyed. Soon the family was reunited with Maurice’s brothers and sister in laws e, Edward and Rebecca and Steven and his first wife Gladys and their son Anthony. They had not seen each other for six years. Maurice’s brothers Edward and Steven, had spent much of the war with the British 5th Army in Egypt.

World War II Postscript: An interesting additional item to the World War experience is with regard to a post card sent by Maurice dated December 7, 1943 from the internment camp in Vittel to his landlord, Mr Ockemulder, in The Hague, Holland. Mr. Ockemulder only received the postcard some thirty six years later on November 30, 1979. An article in the Dutch Newspaper Haagsche Courant, regarding this astounding occurrence, was published in the newspaper’s December 4, 1979 edition. It is possible that the postcard was left in a corner of the local post office in Vittel only to be found decades later.


Life in England - note: can skip this section, mostly family information

The family first settled in a small bungalow adjacent to Norhholt Airport in South Ruislip in Middlesex, shared with another family, being helped a lot by the Bowman family, Janet and George together with their daughter Beryl, who were friends of Edward and his wife Rebecca. The family then moved to a temporary accommodation called the Nissin hut in Eastcote, Ruislip, Middlesex where Peter was born on July 8, 1948. In November, 1948, the family moved to a house on Field End Road in Eastcote where Angéle would live for the next fifty six years. For the most part these were very contented years after all the hardships and difficulties of her early life. In 1950, Angéle’s eldest sister Akabi and her daughter Helen, still in Turkey, came to visit the family in Eastcote. Angéle had not seen her sister since leaving Turkey in 1919/1920. Maurice worked at a carpet company in London specializing in repairing oriental carpets. There were often annual trips to Belgium to see Edward and Rebecca, Reine and her husband Renee and their children Liliane and Guy, Elize and her husband Lousienne and their son Jean Jacques, along with Maurice’s half sister Sona and her husband and daughter Chouchanic. There were also memorable trips to the seaside with a social group run by the Bowmans. It was a nice neighbourhood and the family made many friends including the next door neighbours the Cummings including their daughter Sylvia, the Aldcrofts including their daughter Gaynor,next door neughbours the Hopcrofts, the Mills family and others in Eastcote including Molly Lees and her family. Angéle’s mother passed away in 1959 and her uncle, the Catholic bishop, passed away in 1963. He had been well known in Belgium, having been an acquaintance of the Belgian Royal family and the Pope of that time, and lived a very full life, which included looking after Armenian orphans after World War I.

Unfortunately, Maurice developed a heart condition in 1960 and was in hospital for six weeks. He had to reduce his work hours along with other cautionary measures. Around that time, Angéle started working in a taylor’s shop in Harrow doing alterations and repairs. She worked there until the mid-1970s. Sadly, Angéle’s youngest sister Elizabeth died suddenly in 1966. Margaret was married to Gerry Adley in 1968 in Pinner, Middlesex. In 1970, following the marriage of Guy and Chouchanic, Angéle, her sister Reine, and Peter went to Turkey to visit Akabi and all the family, staying in Istanbul and Ankara. Peter met his future wife Srpuhi on this holiday. Michael was married to his first wife Madeleine in Pinner, Middlesex during the summer of 1971. Trajedy was to occur soon after when Maurice died on September 16,1971 of a heart attack on the return leg of a journey to Brussels to visit Edward and Rebecca and she became a widow. This occurred just four weeks before Angéle and Maurice’s first grandchild, Samantha (daughter of Margaret and Gerry) was born. Peter was married to Srpuhi in Istanbul in 1973. Soon after, Maurice’s cousin Marina, who never married, came to live with Angéle. Other grandchildren came along; Natalie (first daughter of Michael and Madeleine) in 1974, Tanya (second daughter of Margaret and Gerry) in 1975, Melanie (second daughter of Michael and Madeleine) in 1976, Paul (son of Peter and Srpuhi) in 1978 and Lena (daughter of Peter and Srpuhi) in 1980. In 1974, Rebecca passed away and about a year later Edward came to live with Angéle in the house in Eastcote. Peter and Srpuhi and their children immigrated to Los Angeles in 1981, and Angéle came several times to visit them as well as Akabi and her large family, who had also imigrated to Los Angeles some years earlier. Edward passed away during the summer of 1983 after a short illness. Angéle had looked after him well during his stay at the house on Field End Road and he was comfortable and contented.

Akabi passed away in 1988 of cancer in Los Angeles followed sadly by her son Artin, with heart failure, later that same year. Margaret was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in 1989 and with great sadness, passed away on August 1, 1990. Despite the great losses to the family that she endured, she remained a great source of inspiration and the center of comfort, caring and love. Around that time, Angéle started working in Beryl Bowman’s soft toy shop along with Beryl’s parents Janet and George. The shop in Ruislip Manor, seemed to operate as if it were in the 1930s. There was no till (just a plastic container) and no receipts, Even the takings were at 1930s level. Sometimes she’d come home and say we didn’t do very well today we didn’t sell anything. Other times it was “we did quite well today”; takings were just £5 or £10. Beryl devoted her life to helping the elderly and with the shop also having a hair salon it became a popular social focal point for some ladies in the Ruislip area. Working in the shop at a time when Margaret was seriously ill and also during the period following her death, provided Angéle with some alternative occupation at such a stressful time. Beryl, her parents and her husband were some of the dearest friends she had.

Marina, who lived with Angéle for many years during the 1980s and early 1990s eighties, passed away in 1994. Helen, Akabi’s daughter, lost a five-year battle with ovarian cancer on July 31, 1996. Angéle’s last trip to Los Angeles was in 1998 at the age of 83 when she came to attend her granddaughter Lena’s debutant ball. Over the years she found friends in Los Angeles, Gussy Hatzik and Mrs Sulujian that she got on with very well. She continued to work at Beryl’s shop until the year 2000, walking to the station and up and down the stairs at the stations until she was 85. Her courage and determination to make the most of life was inspirational. She was blessed with good health (brought on she said because of her clean living) and had an amazing amount of strength and energy, working until she was 85 years old. She was also never known to lose her temper (because she didn’t have one) and never been known to get angry.

In 2000, she attended Michael’s marriage to Jacqui and now had a bigger family with Jacqui’s children Sean and Lisa, Sean’s wife Lizzie, Lisa’s husband Billy and Lisa and Billy’s children Ethan, Tallulah and Honey which she got much pleasure from. In May, 2004, Angéle, along with Michael, Jacqui and Peter went to Brussels to see her sister Reine for the last time, who was in a retirement home. In August 2004, Angéle finally moved from her home in Eastcote to a retirement home in Cambourne, Cambridge, closer to Michael, Jacqui, Melanie, Natalie and Madeleine. Despite several months when she was quite homesick, she settled quite well in her retirement home and was a favorite amongst the residents and staff with her kind and caring ways. In September of 2004, her sister Reine, whom she was so immeasurably close to all her life, sadly passed away in September of that year and Angéle was able to attend the funeral, visiting Belgium for the last time.

In May, 2005 she celebrated her 90th birthday with a big gathering of family and friends. Included in the gathering were Ella and Spencer, Tanya’s children and Angéle’s great grandchildren. Liliane, her daughter Claudine, her husband Jean Paul and their children, Théa and Anaé, also came. Angela adored children and in recent times she had immense pleasure seeing her great grandchildren and step great grandchildren in her new retirement home. Having family around was what she enjoyed the most. Samantha once described her as a magnet; there was a natural attraction to her when the family got together. This was because of her unique personality, warmth and dedication to family and friends. You could call her in the middle of the night and she would still make you welcome.

Beryl sadly died around April 2006 not long after her parents passed away. This sad news was never to be passed on to Angéle as she would have been devastated.

In August 2006, Sonia Gumuchian, Angéle’s friend from the internment camp in Vittel, came to stay at Michael’s house and Angéle and Sonia had a reunion reminding them of their time together in Vittel during the war.

Unfortunately, Angéle fell and broke her leg on November 20, 2006. She never properly recovered from the injury and gradually declined. Despite the poor health she found herself, she still managed to smile and show her thanks to the nurses and doctors even if it was sometimes in French. She passed away peacefully at 5.15 pm on March 27, 2007. Her granddaughter Lena was by her side holding her hand. This was not long after Lena had reminded her of her incredible life story and also played a recording of Reine singing old Turkish and Armenian songs from their time together during those difficult early years.

Her long life was truly a life to celebrate. It was a life of survival from adversity which enabled her to become a source of love and affection to those who knew her. Those who knew her can only be grateful to have her been part of our lives and for the enormous inspiration she was and were enriched because of the special qualities she had. Always positive, always prepared to do whatever was necessary to make things a better place.

Her passing left a huge void in the family that will be impossible to replace. She was the centre point of the family, not because she wanted to be but because of who she was.

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[Sassun]

Wow.. thanks for sharing this, tektuk... I am sorry for your loss.

Coincidentally, do you or your family know of anyone by the name of Kaspar Nalbandian??!?

[tektuk]

thanks sassun. i do not know a kaspar nalbandian but it's always possible it could be a distant relation. why do you ask?

[ED]

Dear Tektuk, thank you for sharing the story, Rest in peace!

On behalf of the Hyeforum; We Welcome you.

Edited by Edward, 18 June 2007 - 04:58 PM.

[Takoush]

Tektuk; you have a funny nickname. Thank you very much for sharing your grandmother's unique story and her photos.

It's so nice of you for sharing and may your grandmother rest in peace.

[Armenak]

Tektuk; you have a funny nickname.

I wonder what Arpa will say.

[DominO]

Great story. Welcome unboard. Was this published elsewhere?

[tektuk]

it wasn't published anywhere, we just put it together recently. i want to send it to a british armenian publication, see if they would like to publish something. trouble is i don't know anything about the british armenian community, i live in LA. i sent it to agbu london and the london armenian embassy, no response. a british historian researching the experience of british internees during wwII actually contacted my grandmother a few years before she died. i guess he's writing a book. and the other armenian woman sona gumuchian who was together with my grandparents in the camp (she lives in paris) was interviewed on french tv recently about her internee experience.

[Arpa]

you have a wonderful story.
Please tell us more.Only, please don't use Turkish words or screen names.
And, lest I forget. WELCOME/ Bari ekar.

Edited by MosJan, 19 June 2007 - 06:47 PM.
Arpa !!!

[MosJan]

I wonder what Arpa will say.

Armenak jan du el ban & gorts chunes ?? k@raki vra Benzin es ltsnum ??

[MosJan]

TakTuk welcome to HyeForum

if you wish to change your nick name let me know

MOvses

[ExtraHye]

TakTuk welcome to HyeForum

if you wish to change your nick name let me know

MOvses

Sorry for asking a dumb question, but what does TakTuk mean?

Oh and welcome to the forum TakTuk.

[Error 404]

Actually good question, what does it mean?

[MosJan]

Sorry for asking a dumb question, but what does TakTuk mean?

Oh and welcome to the forum TakTuk.

mek mek / taktuq gnum galis en / mek mek gnum galis en

[Arpa]

mek mek / taktuq gnum galis en / mek mek gnum galis en

Yes MosJan, it means hatik hatik.
I had originally indicated that it means “sparse”, here and there, asdin yev andin, yerbem@n.
BTW. Thank you for cleaning my post. I must apologize for using such harsh language at such a wonderful story, but , forgive me. I see red when I see furkish words and screen names , just like when Artsakh came here originally using the furkish name of that country as his nickname.
MosJan, you remember when you asked me what my screen name meant and I answered with a long article, yet to this day some turks have accused me of using a turkish word (to mean barley/gari), just as many of us Armenians have also assumed that it is turkish as in Arpa Chay, not knowing that Arpa is an Armenian river that means “from the sun/arp/arpi”.
http://hyeforum.com/...ic=1539&hl=arpa
If only Armenians would first learn their mother tongue before they learn furksih!!!!
Remember this thread?
http://hyeforum.com/...showtopic=15650

Edited by Arpa, 19 June 2007 - 10:17 PM.

[Sassun]

thanks sassun. i do not know a kaspar nalbandian but it's always possible it could be a distant relation. why do you ask?

Because we might be related.

Though we are from a different place... so I do not think we are... but was just wondering.

[kumkap]

this is a response to some of the posts in this thread as well as posts made elsewhere in this forum by people who posted in this thread:

in my case i learned armenian before turkish so don't worry. you know what they say, inch kan lezu kides aytkan mart es. watching some armenians hysterical reactions to anything turkish is like witnessing Pavlov's dog experiment. i guess we should stop eating dolma, sarma, kofte, and all the other things our grandparents made for us (my grandma made a delicious karni yarik today btw. mmm). we should also stop saying things like "bas barab" (bom bosh), "lep letsun" (dop dolu), "sep sev" (sim siyah), "arudur yelav" (alishverishe cikti), "klukhnis chi prner" (kafalarimiz tutmuyor), "khelk@ klukhn 'e" (akli bashinda), "peshen vazel" (peshinden koshmak) and a thousand other identical phrases in turkish that are part of colloquial armenian, both western and eastern ("qez a kashel" or whatever it is - sana cekmish). even grammatical structures like "desadz pan@s" (görduğum sey) and "yertalik degh" (gidecek yer) which are identical in turkish should be totally excised from the language.

turkish is much closer in grammatical structure to colloquial western armenian (and probably even eastern armenian) than english. i learned this after teaching in one of the armenian schools here in LA. the kids there translate from english into armenian word for word when they write or speak in armenian, and it comes out totally wrong. if they only translated word for word from turkish they would get it (mostly) right.

anyway, so all those examples i gave above are wrong armenian. fine, no argument from me. and western armenian doesn't pronounce armenian phonemes correctly. (by the way they don't pronounce "է" correctly in armenia, they pronounce it like "ա" for some weird reason). but actually my goal is not to speak armenian 100% correctly. it's to preserve as much as possible the slice of armenian life that that existed in the places my family came from. that's because a genocide took place and a very rich and diverse culture was destroyed. therefore i will speak armenian the way i heard it from the older generations of my family (who came from places like yozgat, gesaria, trabzon), eat the dishes they ate, and listen to the kind of music they listened to. not what sergey sergeyan or vladimir vladimiryan in armenia tells me is armenian. armenians lived across a wide geographical area for many thousands of years. there has never been one armenian culture or language. so mashdots created the alphabet based on how it was spoken back then. did you ever consider that while the alphabet he created might have been the perfect match for the armenian spoken in taron in the 4th century, maybe it wasn't for the armenian spoken in other parts of armenia, say more western areas closer to the greek-speaking world. and maybe it never was, since there is a greek component to the ethnogenesis of the armenians and greek doesn't have some of the kartvelian phonetic features that appear in armenian. in the 4th century, was the armenian spoken in caesarea the same as the armenian spoken in artsakh? i doubt it.

armenians seem to be the only people who are so intolerant of one another. does a texan talk the same as a new yorker? does a londoner talk the same way as a geordie (someone from newcastle, nr. scotland)? no. does it matter? no! they're not trying to change the way eachother speaks and they're also not trying to speak english the way it was spoken in the 12th century. this is probably why armenians are in the position they are today and we have forums like this where they come and whine about everything, turk this, arab that, jew this, bolsahye that, ad nauseum. the armenian government raced to the front of the line to join the anglo-judeo occupation/genocide of iraq, even though there is (or should i say "was") a large armenian community living comfortably there who begged them not to since it would make them seem like a fifth-column and turn them into targets for the insurgency. bravo roa, a second western armenian speaking community has been destroyed because of this ankliagan-hreagan tashnagtsutiun (the first one was palestine), and this is deemed something worthy of being a part of. with armenian soldiers helping them out in iraq, now the neocons can devote more resources to war with iran and syria and lebanon, which will be great for roa and armenians in general. we don't need our relationship with iran, they're moslem and we have our christian brothers the georgians to help us. right.

inch vor e, tek ker @rek inkzinknit ha

Edited by kumkap, 20 June 2007 - 04:17 AM.

[Arpa]

Dear Kumkap,
Thank you for an excellent article. I wish you would move it to another subject topic so we can comment on your points, since your article has very little to do with the subject on hand. and we don't want to trivialize and corrupt the wonderful story told by Tektuk. If I wre you I would repost it under another topic and remove it from here.
Thank you.

[touchadream]

My grandmother was also at Vittel, and was a US citizen so was traded for, I think, 3 German soldiers in a POW exchange. She was sent to Lisbon from Vittel on a train, and from there took the Swedish ship Gripsholm to the US, arriving in new york in March 1944. She was Russian by ancestry, but born in US. I wonder if she knew your grandmother? When were the babies born? My grandmother said the nuns at Vittel were so kind to the internees. Do you know if it is possible to get a list of those who passed through Vittel? Thank you for sharing the beautiful picture. I found your post searching google for Vittel, fyi.

[Yervant1]

Not all diaspora Armenians see it that way, I feel your pain Lori!

 

Armenian Weekly

May 25 2017

 

 

Roots in Turkey: Misconceptions About Being ‘Bolsahye’ in the Armenian-American Community

By Lori Cinar on May 25, 2017

 

 

 

 

Special for the Armenian Weekly

I am Bolsahye—my Armenian parents were born in Istanbul, or Bolis. Sometimes when I tell other Armenians this, I am met with a terse “oh,” and the conversation quickly dissipates.

Sometimes people are genuinely confused and do not understand why my last name is Cinar and does not end in “–ian”. I still remember an instance in elementary school when my cousin and all the other Bolsahye students in his Armenian school class were withheld an invite to their Aleppo-Armenian classmate’s birthday party. Worst of all, I have been told straightforwardly and in all seriousness that people like me are not “real Armenians”.

Hagop Yassi (the author’s grandfather) and his mother, Zaruhi, in Samatya, Istanbul, circa 1968 (Photo courtesy of Lori Cinar)

 

Yes, people really do say those things.

They say them because of the misconception that anything that has to do with Turkey is inherently bad. You might be thinking “there’s no way that people are so closed minded that they would tell you you’re not a ‘real Armenian’. That sounds like a taunt from a first grader!” Well, the answer is yes. The people who say things like this are among us. They are well educated and well liked. They sit next to us in church and send their children to camp with ours. They are Armenians who choose to isolate their own kind on the basis of where they are from. It may sound ridiculous, but it is very real and I want to explain why I believe it needs to stop.

I would like to give the aforementioned individuals the benefit of the doubt. Most people who are not Bolsahye do not necessarily understand or think about what it was like to be an Armenian who stayed in Turkey after the Armenian Genocide. Most Armenians fled their homelands—by choice or by force—to other nations that welcomed them, for the most part, with open arms. These Armenians were free to worship, speak, teach, and generally continue living their lives free to be Armenian. They opened schools, carried on our culture, created literature and art, all in Armenian. They were able to bear their name—one of the most basic human experiences—with pride and without fear.

My family could not do any of these things. Mine and countless other families in Istanbul did not have the luxury of being able to speak and worship in their own language as often or as openly as they pleased, something other diasporan Armenians may take for granted. Bolsahyes were forced to veil their Armenian identities and incorporate the Turkish language and culture into their lives as a means of survival.

The misconception that we are more sympathetic to Turkish culture should be replaced with giving credit for building a large and active Armenian community in a country where we are clearly an unwanted minority.

Perhaps this circumstance might be better explained with an example. My grandfather was born in Istanbul and was given the name Hagop at birth. When his parents filed for a birth certificate, his name was conveniently misspelled as ‘Agop Yassi’ (this was an all too common practice by the Turkish government as an effort to thwart the retention of Armenian-ness. My father’s given name is Avedis but was reported as Avadiz on his birth certificate). And so, Agop Yassi went through his life as an Armenian in Istanbul. He carried around the title of “less-than” with him everywhere he went, imposed on him by the nation he was living in. He endured instances of personal and communal persecution and segregation. If he was spotted wearing a cross around his neck or speaking Armenian in public, he was called gyavur (a derogatory Turkish slur which means infidel, akin to calling a black individual the n-word).

Luckily, he had the opportunity to attend an Armenian church where he served in the choir and received an education at the Sahakyan School in Samatya. He kept his head down, married my grandmother, and moved to New Jersey in 1971 after having their daughters Arpine (my mother) and Ani. When he arrived in the U.S., he took full advantage of his newfound freedom and officially changed his name to Hagop Yassian, as it was always meant to be.

Can you imagine being a proud Armenian and living amongst the people who committed those malicious, violent acts against your family? What must he (and the thousands of other Armenians in Turkey) have felt about the continued attempts to dismantle our culture, including forcing him to go by a name that was not Armenian?

The author’s grandparents, Hagop and Tushguhi Yassi, on their wedding day in Istanbul, 1964 (Photo courtesy of Lori Cinar)

I sometimes wonder if the people who condemn Bolsahyes think that any of them felt good or safe or at home in Turkey. Do they think they liked knowing that they lived amongst others who were never taught of the injustices perpetrated against them and instead were taught to hate them? My grandfather says he finally left Turkey because he was tired of being treated like a second-class citizen. And still, even now in America, his own granddaughter and countless other descendants of Bolsahyes have to defend their “Armenian-hood” to our own community.

Armenians born in other parts of the world rarely struggled with issues like this, yet so many of them do not consider that this may be the reason many of us do not bear a “–ian” at the end of our last names.

Other Bolsahyes were not as lucky as my grandfather. Many Armenians in Turkey did not have access to local churches, could not afford to send their children to private Armenian schools, or felt generally unsafe making any public indication that they were Armenian. In fact, many of my more senior family members cannot communicate with me in Armenian at all because they never had the opportunity to learn or speak it. Yet that does not change the fact that these individuals staunchly remained close to their roots, living only within the Armenian community, marrying fellow Armenians, and sending their own children to Armenian school when they could. So what makes these Armenians any less than the rest? They still held onto their identity even when they were not allowed to express it which, to me, translates to doing the best they could under the circumstances.

Many Armenians I know can speak Arabic, Russian, or a variety of other languages because of the spread of our people. As the saying goes, “Kani lezoo kides, aytkan mart es” (“The more languages you know, the better person you are”), and I wholeheartedly agree. But why is it acceptable for other diasporans to celebrate the languages, cultures, and foods of the places they and their parents grew up while they would prefer that my family just forget everything about where we came from? Of course, most Bolsahyes do not have the intention of promoting the Turkish culture. We clearly recognize it as the culture of our oppressors and we have felt that oppression even more recently than others have. We simply want to be able to enjoy being Armenian the same way everyone else does.

The single issue about Bolsahyes that really causes me the most strife is this: if my parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents had the bravery to maintain their faith and their identity within a state that continues to deny the Armenian Genocide, while still producing hayaser families who continue to promote their Armenian heritage, what exactly have they done wrong? What makes us any less than Armenians who are from Egypt or France or Iran?

Yes, my grandfather might still watch the news on Turkish television, and yes my father still speaks Turkish amongst his friends and family, but these are not sins. Do those actions negate the fact that they learned the Armenian language in a country that basically forbade it? Does it render my grandfather’s six grandchildren – who all actively participate in their Armenian community, churches, and schools – unworthy of calling themselves Armenians? Does the occasional purchase from a local Turkish supermarket make my grandmother a traitor even though she uses those groceries to prepare Armenian meals for her family?

In saying all of this, I am by no means promoting Turkish goods, tangible or intangible. What I am trying to argue for, though, is that some Bolsahyes consume these Turkish products—like movies or language—for their familiarity. It’s part of how they grew up and what they’re used to. We can’t expect them to not have assimilated to Istanbul culture at all. Even decades before the Armenian Genocide a great many Armenians who were living throughout the Ottoman Empire spoke and read Ottoman Turkish simply because they lived there. Haven’t you ever heard a song from when you were younger and been suddenly filled with fond memories? Telling Bolsahyes that they are less Armenian for having these basic human feelings is almost like telling a black man in America that he should be ashamed for enjoying the songs of his childhood because they are the songs of the white man. Shouldn’t he be allowed to participate in the culture in which he lives and at the same time maintain his own personal roots? When my father says he remembers a certain song from his teenage years in Turkey, I see no reason to be upset by it.

The author’s grandparents, Hagop and Tushguhi Yassi, and mother Arpine in Istanbul, 1970, Istanbul (Photo courtesy of Lori Cinar)

The reason that I chose to express all of these thoughts is because of a Facebook post that sparked a decisive conversation within my friend group. A fellow Armenian posted a status condemning those who supported Turkish food products in grocery stores and went so far as to say that those individuals “made [him] sick”. He placed blame on Armenians who still live in Turkey for assimilating in a country whose government destroyed our people and culture. I wished there were a way that I could scream through my laptop screen. How could he possibly place blame on Armenians for assimilating to the culture of the place where they live? Are they not brave for remaining Armenian in a country where the odds continue to remain stacked against them?

The heroic efforts of Istanbul-Armenian individuals like Hrant Dink and Garo Paylan, who risk their lives working hard to maintain our rights and heritage in Turkey, garner a great deal of attention from the greater Armenian community. While a great many Diapsoran Armenians think of them as heroes, they forget to acknowledge that these men are the products of the same Istanbul-Armenian community that I am from. Hrant Dink wore Turkish clothing and Garo Paylan probably dances to Turkish music. It does not make either of them any less Armenian.

That is why I would like to pose a question to the Armenians, wherever they maybe—why are we being so unfair to one another? To think of any Bolsahye (or any hye, for that matter) behavior as shameful is only perpetuating the hateful view that the Ottomans had of us all 102 years ago.

Just because your family fled and mine had the misfortune of having to stay does not make us different. When Armenians segregate and ostracize one another, that is when the plan for our people’s destruction succeeds.

When our community becomes more understanding of all of our different backgrounds and the different struggles that all of our people have gone through, only then will we be able grow and prosper.

As a first generation American, my parents never raised me as anything but Armenian, and that is how I live my life. I am only ever an Armenian.

http://armenianweekl...oots-in-turkey/