Gays/lesbians And Being Armenian
#1
Posted 03 June 2007 - 06:35 PM
Anyway, let's talk; I'll start off with some questions, but say whatever:
(1) Are we, as Armenians, less accepting of gay people among us (i.e., we accept odarner/otarner that are gay, but not "our own")?
(2) Why do we care?
(3) Do gay Armenians have the same pressure to partner with another Armenian (despite the whole kid thing being a sort non-issue)?
(4) How do you personally feel about gays/lesbians/etc.?
#2
Posted 04 June 2007 - 12:33 AM
they are normal persons, some of them good, clever, interesting and others bad, like heteros, where's the problem. Their sexuality doesn't matter to us, some heteros like sado-maso, scato, sex-addict, nympho or "no-sex" is it better?
I start to met gays at school, I've always had good laugh and good relations with them, as with heteros, and today my boss is gay, his boyfriend works just near me, they assume, no problem, they are normal persons. living, working, eating like any human.
For gay's parents, may be they're sad cause the look of the society, they won't be granparents, and... what ? I have a son, he's 12, the idea passed in my head, but what can I do, my son is my son, I love him over all, no ? same for my daughters.
How old is your friend ? I think it's better for him to tell his parents, as soon as possible, it will may be hard, for them, to hear, to accept at the beginning, but your friend will FEEL FREE from his heavy secret, cause when ur parents know, after, the rest of the world you don't worry.
#3
Posted 04 June 2007 - 01:47 AM
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#4
Posted 04 June 2007 - 02:21 AM
#5
Posted 04 June 2007 - 05:22 AM
Hm , you have a point , but that was not what I meant . I mean , I personally do not agree with this , but do I agree that they have a right to be who they are ? Yes , I have no right to interfere when it comes to that ... anyway , from what i understood , the post since it touches on the idea of Armenian homosexuals , we must discuss Armenians' reaction to this issue .
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#7
Posted 04 June 2007 - 12:46 PM
I know that homosexuality is a sin in our religion and goes against everything we believe in, but tolerance and compassion should be employed when relating to this matter. We should respect nature and accept that some people are created differently. If you choose not to befriend gay people, that is your perogative, but for God's sake, they should not be hunted down and killed just because of their sexual orientation.
And to answer one of Vahan's questions, may I say that there are a lot of gay men in the Armenian community of Los Angeles. If you are a resident of West Hollywood or have the occasion to dine in this city you will come across many Armenian gay couples. Impeccably dressed, well groomed, very well mannered, succesful and courteous to their fellow human beings. I only ask why more heterosexaul men are not like them?
And question #3 reminds me of the joke in which one woman tells another that her son is marrying a man so the other woman asks if at least the other guy is Armenian. Lol.
#8
Posted 04 June 2007 - 03:48 PM
I've never met armenian homosexuels, but right in my family they cannot imagine one of us to be homosexual !
whatever, often homosexuals are very courteous, and they could be an example for some men, as says Em!
I remember when mother, who's 81, said to my daughter in law brother's (they're italians, not armenians !!!!), the boy is homosexual, and then she told him " you know God doesn't love homosexual, change your mind and find a nice woman !!!! each night I pray for u and ur boy-friend for both of u find a good woman !" she was so persuaded ! The boy knows my mum since always, he wasn't surprised ! it was funny !
#9
Posted 04 June 2007 - 04:10 PM
#10
Posted 04 June 2007 - 04:19 PM
#11
Posted 04 June 2007 - 05:02 PM
#12
Posted 04 June 2007 - 06:44 PM
#13
Posted 04 June 2007 - 07:06 PM
Considering what some of the neighboring countires do to gays (ahem Iran for e.g.), I'd say Armenia is not that bad. Of course you can't compare any country in the region to San Francisco or Hollywood.
(2) Why do we care?
Because sexuality is a big part of being human. The first thing I notice about a person is whether they are male or female... gays tend to screw around with this initial perception and categorization so it's definitely something I care about (of course it depeonds on whether it's a profesional context in which case I don't really care -- or a social context in which case I would care).
(3) Do gay Armenians have the same pressure to partner with another Armenian (despite the whole kid thing being a sort non-issue)?
Haha ... I have no clue.
(4) How do you personally feel about gays/lesbians/etc.?
See #2. I don't know if I have a "feeling" in that generic sense (i.e. if you are expecting me to say I love them, hate them, or don't care, you won't get an answer like that from me. However, I do refer to them as "them" obviously
#14
Posted 05 June 2007 - 05:57 AM
#15
Posted 06 June 2007 - 10:14 AM
Interesting. I will say that there are lots of Armenian children that need to be adopted in Hayastan, but they will not allow gay couples to adopt. Also, preference is given to Armenians, but have to be a married couple and I think Armenian Apostolic. I read this all somewhere a long time ago...may have changed.
#16
Posted 06 June 2007 - 11:50 AM
Thanks for the reply/clarification. I am not the one making such arguments , I was just presenting the argument that I have been hearing in my other thread about conversion , so I thought I would pose this question , as I am sure the ones who made these accusations of treason are too shy to make the same argument here.. i will try to answer your post based on what their reply/argument to this would be : well yes , there are Armenian children up for adoption , but really , these already exist and these conditions for adoption help maintain their Armenianness anyway, and we need more Armenian kids to be born ...
#17
Posted 06 June 2007 - 03:32 PM
Because sexuality is a big part of being human. The first thing I notice about a person is whether they are male or female... gays tend to screw around with this initial perception and categorization so it's definitely something I care about (of course it depeonds on whether it's a profesional context in which case I don't really care -- or a social context in which case I would care).
I thought the first thing you noticed about people was "the fact that they tend to move very slow in buffets."
The eternal threat for heterosexual men: homosocial behavior turning into homosexual encounter. Or do you feel more threatened by lesbians? (I assume that the more male homosexuals there are out there, the less competition there will be for you; which means that lesbians should be more threatening to you than male homosexuals).
#18
Posted 06 June 2007 - 03:35 PM
Being gay is something you are born as, not something you can convert to. Perhaps the difference lies there.
#20
Posted 06 June 2007 - 03:43 PM
What is the percentage of gay and lesbians in our society ? I don't think we have to care about, the majority is hetero.
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