QUOTE(kakachik77 @ Feb 4 2006, 05:05 PM)
Vava, then can we concur that this hospitality is in fact FAKE. Why don't these people (and I say this since my armenian family will never act like this) show their real face from the very beginning?
Allow me to clarify, lest I be misunderstood. My post was in reponse to Arpa's original post
where he asks, "How many mixed marriages do you know where the “otar” converts to Armenian?" and "When is the last time that anyone converted and BECAME Armenian???" And it was under that context (otar-Armenian marriage) that I made my comments on Armenian hospitality.
When I said the Armenian hospitality comes to an end, I was perhaps being a tad cynical. My point was that many Armenian families will often welcome, love and accept their otar daughters&sons-in-law, however there exists a line that's not very often crossed. That line is where the newcomer is actually considered
family - and hence Armenian.
Anahit still refers to her Uncle's wife as her "AMERICAN" aunt - her family loves her, and yet she's not blood - she's still an outsider... you see what I'm trying to say?
There's no malevolence there, or 'fakeness' for that matter - it's a subconcious thing likely, brought about by generations of victimisation. But that's another topic - I hope I clarified my comments a bit
QUOTE(Anahid Takouhi @ Feb 4 2006, 07:47 PM)
Neither my Armenian family would never act like this.
As a matter of fact one of my youngest uncle's wife is an all American beautiful woman and I love her greatly. She is extremely smart and I love her heart very much as well. And the feeling between my immediate family and my American aunt is completely mutual.
I have similar relationships with my cousins wives.
Edited by vava, 04 February 2006 - 09:21 PM.