Marriage: the leap into the unknown
#1
Posted 03 May 2001 - 07:06 PM
(lol, I know, I know, Gayane is actually talking about marriage, hell must be freezing over...lol)
Sound off, ladies and gentlemen, let's see what you think about women and marriage!! lol
#2
Posted 15 May 2001 - 10:59 AM
#3
Posted 15 May 2001 - 02:45 PM
I believe that marriage is a sacred institution, but then again who wants to live in an institution?
#4
Posted 15 May 2001 - 04:46 PM
#5
Posted 17 May 2001 - 09:52 PM
Originally posted by MosJan:
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Edqan dazhan a Movses?
(ed #7-@ verj@ piti qeznits goghanam)
#6
Posted 27 August 2003 - 09:52 PM
Well I'm not sure if this answers any of your question.
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Marina
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#7
Posted 28 August 2003 - 04:16 PM
#8
Posted 28 August 2003 - 05:14 PM
#9
Posted 28 August 2003 - 05:23 PM
I think two people should first live together for at least more than a year before deciding if they should marry eachother... so they can know what to expect from eachother.well, i think marriage is an illusion...just like 'love' is...it seems like everybody i meet tells me that i should not get married and so i won't have to deal with all the issues of marriage and all the baggage of the other person!!!... everything in this society is about sex sex and more sex!!! nothing is sacred, monogamy is a strange and foreign concept to many...so what is this bullshit marriage all about? a chance for someone to screw you and make you more miserable versus just making you a little less miserable if you were just dating?????...MOST people in our society are definitely NOT marriage material due to their immaturity, and utter selfishness...and what then after a few years? they'll just get tired of you and go on to pursue another relationship or just cheat!!! these ARE the facts! but most people like to dream and fantasize that it is not!! why? it's just setting yourself up for more dissapointment!!!....
#10
Posted 28 August 2003 - 08:44 PM
"well, i think marriage is an illusion...just like 'love' is..."
neither is I think - each is very real...
"everybody i meet tells me that i should not get married and so i won't have to deal with all the issues of marriage and all the baggage of the other person!!!... "
Yes - difficult sometimes to be able to think not just of yourself first and foremost...but this is important for growing...otherwise you are always (basically) just a child...and do you ever imagine yourself having children? Well lots of baggage there (in a sense) and lots of issues to deal with...really - if you can't imagine yourself giving and doing things for others you should certainly never become a parent - and probably never get marrried..but you just mind regret - when your old and no longer such a catch (considered to be beautiful/desireable)...you just might regret your lonlyness/isolation and wonder why there is no one to give to/for you...no one who cares...who loves...
"everything in this society is about sex sex and more sex!!! "
No it isn't...its titilation...it has very little to do with real sex. Sex isn't masturbation - its about pleasuring another adult in a most profound way and (properly) its about love and caring and about sensuousness and physical passion...nothing at all to do with Madison Avenue, Hollywood or any of the rest...
"monogamy is a strange and foreign concept to many...so what is this bullshit marriage all about? "
Its about giving and commitment...it its not necessarily just limited to monogamy (and our society is adapting/altering this concept..if it even was so sacrisant [for everyone]...but it ain't really so bad...at least its regular...
"a chance for someone to screw you and make you more miserable versus just making you a little less miserable if you were just dating?????..."
Wow - don't really know what to say to this one...but why neccesarily miserable? Why not wonderful instead?
"MOST people in our society are definitely NOT marriage material due to their immaturity, and utter selfishness..."
Perhaps true...but even if we cull out "most" - still leaves lots of possibilities...there are lots of wonderful people out there too...
"...and what then after a few years? they'll just get tired of you and go on to pursue another relationship or just cheat!!! these ARE the facts! but most people like to dream and fantasize that it is not!! why? it's just setting yourself up for more dissapointment!!!...."
Perhaps, perhaps not...may depend on what kind of a lover you are eh? LOL ...and (seriously) on other things of course...and it doesn't have to be/isn't always that way...and cheat implys sneaking and dishonesty...perhaps there are other ways...don't set your sites so narrowly...necessarily...etc
Hope thsi helps....but seriously...its not really so bad. You have just had some bad like. Like many pretty gals I've known in my life you sometimes/often get yourself in bad relationships. The guys seem like they have a lot going for them for whatever reason ( a fancy car, being on a winning sports team, and having a sweet tongue are not always the attributes for a long term succesful relationship for instance...and often lead to tyhe kind of guys who in the end won't treat you right). I really think you need to start dating ugly/normal, less well off, less ambitious or what not guys...just a suggestion...in any case you should likely broaden/increase your range of acceptable dates...who knows - you may find someone (nice & entirely OK...maybe even exciting and such) whom you never even knew existed...
#11
Posted 28 August 2003 - 09:47 PM
My my my...I can only imagine what prompted this...
I think I know:
Parents trying to force briun to get hitched......bruin dazed and confused....LOL
....all I know is Im gettin tanked tommorow night as the 'party gang' is gettin together (rarelly happens these days ) - will post pics
#12
Posted 28 August 2003 - 09:48 PM
With all due respect, make an effort when approached by any man to figure out what can you expect from him and what he expects from you. Otherwise disappointment will be an everlasting companion in every relationship that you might get involved.
To me sex is about having fun with a person that I appreciate for more than one reason (physics). Well, sometimes I have no time to think about her other qualities but the bottom line is that marriage is "delo tonkoe" because it comes in a package with so many other things.
PS: Don’t forget that it is possible to fall in love and then no one can help you!
#13
Posted 30 August 2003 - 11:24 AM
#14
Posted 30 August 2003 - 11:26 AM
Ring : Ball and chain
#15
Posted 30 August 2003 - 03:50 PM
#16
Posted 30 August 2003 - 07:52 PM
#17
Posted 30 August 2003 - 08:04 PM
Seems to me like it would be something I would be interested in ... but this 24/7, day in day out, every day for the rest of life type of a commitment just sounds too much like biblical "eternity" clauses of punishment.
I mean to put things in perspective, I enjoy surfing the web but even that I can't do 24/7 EVERYDAY ... I sometimes like to go out, play some basketball, hit up a buffet, or just wrench on the car.
#18
Posted 30 August 2003 - 08:11 PM
#19
Posted 30 August 2003 - 08:14 PM
#20
Posted 30 August 2003 - 08:25 PM
I always get a kick out of all these religious people talking about torments in HELL with the fire and the maggots and the pitch forks and all that other stuff ... I mean ANYTHING for eternity would be extremely painful. Even heaven!!!!
But I think I know what Thoth is going to say Ah yes, the never-ending dynamics of a good marriage ...
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