Divorce Rates - WHY SO HIGH?
#1
Posted 30 November 2008 - 04:31 AM
Anyways - for the past so long I am have been trying to figure out few things - the divorce rates, here is the world table of the divorce rates!
Funny thing - India hits rank 1 with as low as 1.1 percent divorce rate, Armenia hits 6-7 rank along with Furkey with as low as 6 percent divorce rate... OH MYYYY LOOK AT THE US - RANK 45 with 54.4 percent, that's almost the last one, next to Sweden we don't know much about - but let's take into consideration the US, why is there so many divorces? what is the problem with the society - this can lead to a huge problem... I knew the divorce rate in US is high, but not this high...
people tell me to get married, what are my chances here in the US? there you have it - 54.4 percent chance that I will divorce - and you guys wonder why guys fly over to Armenia to get married? sure sometimes they make mistakes but not most of the times...
this suck, with the rate that this thing is going I might not even get married at all - oh well... Mos jan yerpenq gnum Erevan?
#2
Posted 30 November 2008 - 11:39 AM
Edited by Arpa, 30 November 2008 - 11:41 AM.
#3
Posted 30 November 2008 - 11:55 AM
#4
Posted 30 November 2008 - 12:36 PM
Yet, when you look at the stats, you will see that the more sophisticated and educated the society, the higher rate of divorce. India 1.1(? I doubt it, as there may be a variation of definition, just as in the Muslim society all one has to say "I divorce thee/alayi talaq" three times and it becomes legal), or if we recite it in the qoranic and biblical language, recited by the male partner- "i-eth divorce-th thou-est" make it any more legal? US 54.8, 500 % higher.Is it because in places like India "divorce" is synonumous to "spousal murder" and acid disfiguration?
Is it because, as the "fairer gender (ladies) get more educated and sophisticated, attain an equal or higher status than the male population the sense of supremacy collides, i.e I can live, provide without your "male ego"?
Edited by Arpa, 30 November 2008 - 02:49 PM.
#5
Posted 30 November 2008 - 04:52 PM
#6
Posted 30 November 2008 - 04:54 PM
No my dear Armenians I don't mean most of you, I mean most of the US, however some of it might still apply to our Armenian ladies. Interesting enough to see that in Armenia a 6 percent divorce rate is kept for a long while, not much of an increase since very long ago. However the divorce rate between Armenians in the US is very high probably 1 out of every 4 couples that get married do divorce in the early stages of marriage, not to count the other 25% after few years.
As an Armenian and a minority in this God forgotten lands of the US, what do you guys think should be done to teach our children to put them on the right track. Well, it's too soon to come to the children, how about something fast to be done for this new generation of 14-22 years girls and boys that are on the path of getting married... something has to be done and has to be done fast...
#7
Posted 30 November 2008 - 05:05 PM
Best solution is: either don't get married or live in a society where polygamy and (temporary) separation are acceptable. Eternal monogamy is not natural for most people.
Edited by nairi, 30 November 2008 - 05:06 PM.
#8
Posted 30 November 2008 - 05:36 PM
Best solution is: either don't get married or live in a society where polygamy and (temporary) separation are acceptable. Eternal monogamy is not natural for most people.
So what you are suggesting is if "you don't find the answer to your question you just change the subject?" Every society plays a major role in the community, so why can't we have the societies to make sure that everything goes well, instead of thinking for their pockets only, let them think how they can make better surrounding community...
A very good example would be Roman Abramovich - bravor to the guy!!!
In 1999, Abramovich was elected to the State Duma as the representative for the Chukotka Autonomous Okrug, an impoverished region in the Russian Far East. He started the charity Pole of Hope to help the people of Chukotka, especially children, and in December 2000 was elected governor of Chukotka, replacing Alexander Nazarov.
Abramovich was the governor of Chukotka from 2000 to 2008. It has been estimated that he spent over $1.3 billion of his own money on the region, which now has one of the highest birth rates in Russia. Under Abramovich, living standards improved, schools and housing were restored and new investors were being drawn to the region.
Russian President Vladimir Putin changed the law to abolish elections for regional governors, and on 21 October 2005 Abramovich was reappointed governor for another term. Abramovich was awarded the Order of Honor for his "huge contribution to the economic development of the autonomous district of Chukotka", by a decree signed by the President of Russia.
#9
Posted 30 November 2008 - 06:10 PM
The problem is forcing a woman to be stuck with a man and vice versa for the rest of their lives, without forcing them to have to live together due to enforced gender roles.
Edited by Sip, 30 November 2008 - 06:14 PM.
#10
Posted 30 November 2008 - 07:12 PM
Ու կազմիր ընտանիք,
Բայց ես չեմ ուզում դառնալ
Մի կնոջ խաղալիք։"
R.H.
#11
Posted 30 November 2008 - 07:52 PM
and just how many couples have you seen in the US to be involved in a forced marriages?
Sip jan - US has almost 55 percent divorce rate - Armenia has 6 percent - so forced marriages work better!
the problem in US is not the forced marriages, it's beyond that - let's think again on what the problem is!
#12
Posted 30 November 2008 - 09:03 PM
What do you mean by "work"? Do mean people staying together? Isn't that just by definition when you say "forced marriage"? Yah I have no doubt forcing people to stay together will reduce divorce rates. Actually, if you make divorce illegal, marriage "success" rates will shoot up to 100% !!!!!!
It's just a different philosophy on marriage ... in the US, it's not a dead-end (literally) contract that two people sign. There is a way out and a LOT of people chose that instead of sticking with the alternative.
#13
Posted 30 November 2008 - 09:04 PM
Once again, you use the word "problem". What do you see as "problem"? I still don't understand what you consider as the problem.
#14
Posted 30 November 2008 - 09:11 PM
#15
Posted 30 November 2008 - 09:16 PM
Why not for example consider a "child-producing union" which will last at least till the child is of a certain age instead of a "till death" marriage?
Actually "monogamy" is quite unnatural. I am no expert but there are very very few species that are monogamous and far less that mate for life. We have somehow forced ourselves to be into this unnatural category which is what is clearly illustrated by high divorce rates in societies where people are free (more free) to pursue their personal happinesses.
Edited by Sip, 30 November 2008 - 09:19 PM.
#16
Posted 30 November 2008 - 10:23 PM
Sip jan - US has almost 55 percent divorce rate - Armenia has 6 percent - so forced marriages work better!
the problem in US is not the forced marriages, it's beyond that - let's think again on what the problem is!
Weeeeeeelllllllllll ... I don't know how accurate that 6% is really. For instance, (from what I've heard) in Armenia it's very common for people to separate and not file for divorce (it's just a waste of money). Also, there are couples who form a family (without getting legally married) ... thus their parting of ways would not be reflected in that divorce rate either.
Aaaaaaaaaaand ... most importantly, some women (in Armenia) who are financially dependent on their husbands are more likely to stay in an "unhappy" marriage than risk losing their fancy lifestyle.
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Regardless of how you view divorce - as a problem or solution, I think we will all agree that social views and economics play crucial roles in determining rates of divorce.
Low divorce rates DO NOT translate to high rates of successful marriage.
Edited by Nané, 30 November 2008 - 10:24 PM.
#17
Posted 30 November 2008 - 10:47 PM
I have on previous occasion alluded to the fact that the breakup of families was an orchestrated plan to create consumers...
The production lines were coming to a halt in the 60s as the market was saturated with consumer goods...with no prospective buyers in sight!
The suburban sprawls around cities were totally saturated with goods! One upmenships amongst the neighbours had aided for this saturation...
BUY NOW PAY LATER WAS ALSO A CONTRIBUTING FACTOR!
The corporate America needed new consumers... Hollywood was the instigating vehicle, via half hour TV programs, that displayed a new approach to the pillow games!
Brady bunch is a good example, the new formed family was the result of two breakups! As usual everything found perfect solutions within the half hour of this hollywoodian scenarios...
Hey we can also break up and form a new family... became a wished goal, specifically amongst all the couples where passion had dissappeared from the heart and home.
As if by coincidence... the feminist emencipaton was also prominently playing a part in pressuring women to question their roles as homemakers IN THE EARLY SEVENTIES.
Mind you the propaganda was at it's height, brain washing the women about the so called exploitation of the females/mothers...
by the males!!!!!
The attack on the families bore fruits... the divorce rates went through the roof in the late seventies in the west, and the production lines were back in business...
Today the burden on our fairfolks is greater then ever! They must now juggle a career as well as home life...an impossible task!
No wonder the pressures eventually drive a nail through the marriage/union... and soon enough the bubble bursts...
The poor offspring become either ping pongs or ward of state!
Indeed a very sad state of affairs!
Therefore, I say, Yes get your own family and if it's "kismet" you will be luckiest being on earth...IF NOT ,TRY AGAIN IF YOU HAVE THE GUTS!
Edited by garmag, 30 November 2008 - 10:53 PM.
#18
Posted 30 November 2008 - 11:24 PM
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#20
Posted 01 December 2008 - 11:40 AM
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