Sacrificing Marital Happiness For Kids
#1
Posted 14 September 2003 - 05:13 PM
But is it worth to waste your young life with hopes that one day it might get better? We had a young woman in our neighborhood who wanted to divorce her husband because he was violent towards her when drunk and had refused to get help. She was scrutinized by her own mother and most women. The popular argument was that she "deserved" it because she "backtalked" to her husband and was basically "asking" for it. IMO, this kind of violent behavior is inexcusable, not matter what the circumstances.
#2
Posted 14 September 2003 - 05:25 PM
#3
Posted 14 September 2003 - 07:46 PM
#4
Posted 14 September 2003 - 08:14 PM
#5
Posted 14 September 2003 - 09:06 PM
Oh COME ON. That really belongs in the girls and black guys thread and NOT here.but then again these women(NO!! ALLLLLLLLLLLLL WOMEN!!!) should reallllllllllllllllllllly think long and hard before marrying someone!
Nice post Alexx.
#6
Posted 14 September 2003 - 09:39 PM
#7
Posted 15 September 2003 - 12:50 AM
Oh COME ON. That really belongs in the girls and black guys thread and NOT here.
Nice post Alexx.
oh come on sip! ...better to be safe than sorry, right? we're talking about guys we DON'T KNOW!!! or those who like to take the girl to the cleaners or ...i don't know...some dysfunctional loser with many many MANY issues...you cuddley gentle giant ~~~we're not talking about your sweet kind here!
#8
Posted 18 September 2003 - 10:03 PM
Same goes for men!Physical violence is certainly inexcusable, but a woman can really get on ones nerves sometimes.
#9
Posted 18 September 2003 - 10:36 PM
IMO, it's much more important for kids to grow up in a pysically and psychologically safe, healthy environment even if that means residing with one parent. I know women think that they're doing the right thing by staying in the abusive relationship, but ultimately they end up hurting their kids more than anything. Imagine how psychologically damaging it would be to see your mother get abused day in and day out. Wouldn't it be better to live with one parent and still maintain relationship with the other? I think it may have been for my cousin--a grown man today who still suffers from damage he sustained as a child (his hands shake and in general he is very anxiety prone) witnessing his mom get beat on daily basis.I think it is a very valuable tradition in our culture. Maybe the kids who benefit from such sacrifice will appreciate and learn a lesson and not be like their fathers. I find it very selfish that in America (and most Western countries) a much smaller problems than wife abuse lead families to divorce and leave the kids like that.
I totally agree with your last statement though. What about "you're out the door as soon as you hit 18" philosophy in this country? In general, Armenian mothers mourn if their kids decide to move out while the American ones celebrate.
#10
Posted 19 September 2003 - 03:23 PM
We shouldn't be surprised then why American kids abandon their parents in old houses. You get what you give.What about "you're out the door as soon as you hit 18" philosophy in this country? In general, Armenian mothers mourn if their kids decide to move out while the American ones celebrate
#11
Posted 19 September 2003 - 08:40 PM
Agree very much with your post here Alexx 9and I have liked others of yours that I have read) - welcome to our forum!IMO, it's much more important for kids to grow up in a pysically and psychologically safe, healthy environment even if that means residing with one parent. I know women think that they're doing the right thing by staying in the abusive relationship, but ultimately they end up hurting their kids more than anything. Imagine how psychologically damaging it would be to see your mother get abused day in and day out. Wouldn't it be better to live with one parent and still maintain relationship with the other? I think it may have been for my cousin--a grown man today who still suffers from damage he sustained as a child (his hands shake and in general he is very anxiety prone) witnessing his mom get beat on daily basis.
I totally agree with your last statement though. What about "you're out the door as soon as you hit 18" philosophy in this country? In general, Armenian mothers mourn if their kids decide to move out while the American ones celebrate.
As for moving out of the house at 18...well I couldn't get out fast enough...I certainly love/loved my parents...but my mother was a typical Armenian mother (on steroids) and i just couldn't handle the control factor that she seemed to think went with the parent-child relationship (and she still thinks - LOL) and in fact even though I am married with a wife and children I'm sure she would still want me to move back in under her roof! LOL And I'm not at all exaggerating...you wouldn't believe how - after I moved out - then later away to another city - she kept trying to reel me back in (and no cahance at all for that - i love her - but no way could I ever handle [all] that [love] again....LOL)
#12
Posted 26 September 2003 - 07:12 PM
talk about beliefs and what each wants from marital life...kids, careers,...how many times a day
hyebruin
Also I have noticed that many Armenian guys come across very sweet and caring at the beginning of their relationship, then all of the sudden they turn into abusing animals after the marriage. PUNKS............ I truly disrespect and hate guys who do that and i also hate when KHUJAN guys end up with HAMEST/KHELATSI wife. WHY WHY WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN? I've noticed this kind of situations a lot among our Armenians.
#13
Posted 26 September 2003 - 07:31 PM
Anyways, got to run. talk to you all later.
#14
Posted 26 September 2003 - 07:39 PM
#15
Posted 26 September 2003 - 09:09 PM
should look after their kids who are married to try and regulate anything wrong going on.
#16
Posted 07 November 2003 - 11:40 AM
#17
Posted 07 November 2003 - 11:51 AM
#18
Posted 07 November 2003 - 11:55 AM
#19
Posted 08 November 2003 - 12:03 PM
once i heard a guy say if the wife doesn't obey her "man"(in this case) he should just bang on her head once and she'll be good again... i don't know if it was a joke or if he was serious but i was REALLY offended!!
psychos!!
at first they're like " " then after the wedding
#20
Posted 08 November 2003 - 12:13 PM
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