Why Do We Make Each Other Angry?
#1
Posted 21 December 2004 - 11:13 AM
I'm comparing this with my Dutch neighbors. We never hear them. Ever! I'm sure they have arguments, but we just don't hear them. So what is it about Armenian families that we feel the need to raise our voice to communicate?
In my case, it's pure irritation. They annoy me. So I raise my voice, then they raise theirs, then I raise mine further, next thing you know we're screaming at each other.
But I have never, ever, had this happen with non-Armenians. Sure we might argue sometimes, but we keep it down! Because we don't irritate each other to that extent, I guess.
#2
Posted 21 December 2004 - 11:59 AM
#3
Posted 21 December 2004 - 12:12 PM
#4
Posted 21 December 2004 - 12:54 PM
#5
Posted 21 December 2004 - 12:58 PM
#6
Posted 21 December 2004 - 01:09 PM
Nakharar, I think it's a middle-eastern cultural thing. Sadly we've adopted it, or maybe it's simply native to us.
Anileve, that's no excuse.
Kakachik, I think we make each other angry. Other people who don't raise their voices don't feel the need to raise their voice because they are discussing or arguing with someone who doesn't make them angry. The kind of Armenians that I have seen/heard have a talent in wanting to argue. It's almost like being nice to each other is something to be ashamed of.
#7
Posted 21 December 2004 - 01:15 PM
Actually it's funny - i've noticed that we get more irritated (and aggravated) over little insignificant things than we do very important things. We tend to be stronger/cooler when facing grave situations, but minor annoyances bring out the worst in us...
#8
Posted 21 December 2004 - 01:17 PM
Nairi, you are absolutely right, it's no excuse. However 'tis the reason, whether it's ethical or not is another story. Notice how people from Northern European nations are so composed, they are also cold.
#9
Posted 21 December 2004 - 01:20 PM
I think that's the way it should be. In grave situation composure is absolutely necessary, because the consequences are greater. If you are hot tempered in tragedies you are bound to make critical moves that may be very irrational and injurious.
#10
Posted 21 December 2004 - 01:33 PM
#11
Posted 21 December 2004 - 01:56 PM
I agree with you. We are very emotional people. Most of my non-Armenian friends describe me as being very "warm blooded" and emotional. I have to admit that I yell a lot, but I am calm in a matter of seconds.
#12
Posted 21 December 2004 - 03:31 PM
I've heard this same argument about Russians, that when they talk they are literally always arguing with each other, at least that's how it reaches to the foreigners' ears. So, this is not unique to any culture or region.
#13
Posted 21 December 2004 - 05:30 PM
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Posted 21 December 2004 - 05:38 PM
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Posted 21 December 2004 - 05:48 PM
#16
Posted 21 December 2004 - 06:04 PM
No but very really I will allow my emotions to take over me and this is in all situations. And I do have to say that that is a BAD thing. Sometimes one must let go. I am not saying that raising ones voice is the solution to resolving any issue, but why not be emotional when expressing yourself.
BTW: i personally do not think Northern Europeans a ANY better than any other culture/nationality out there. in every aspect of life. Believe me as you know Nairi jan, they have MANY issues as well.
#17
Posted 21 December 2004 - 06:17 PM
#19
Posted 21 December 2004 - 09:50 PM
Absolutely. But I have a hard time classifying Chinese. They are very composed, and less emotional however, when they communicate with each other it sounds as if they are completely enraged.
And nairi, I was thinking about what you wrote. I am the same way. It starts off with just a discussion, then one raises her voice and so do I and so does she and then we are both just yelling on top of our lungs. And it's not that I lose my temper and start yelling automatically, in fact you will never see that. But in order for the other person to hear me I have to elevate my voice, and so it goes. I really dislike that, because my throat starts hurting after some time, don't people know that I am a smoker?
#20
Posted 21 December 2004 - 10:24 PM
2. we like to speak, rather than listen (and this is due to the fact that we all think we know more about a given topic than the person in front of us)
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