QUOTE(Anonymouse @ Aug 14 2007, 01:59 PM)
It's interesting that the females thought this way. However, I never said anything about finding anyone with the exact same values or someone who is in tune with you on everything. Are you folks reading the same thread? It's about finding someone who will accept you for you are and not make you compromise and try to change you (both your core values of who you are, as well as little shit like what kind of movies you want to watch, because as anyone in relationships know, arguments revolve around the little things, habits, choices, etc.). It has nothing to do with finding someone who has the same and identical values as you.
Anon jan; when finding a woman that you wish to spend time with and especially eventually to marry; you must make sure that your core values are very close to being identical. This is truly important. Frankly speaking from my own perspective; when I went to a date I concentrated on the guy that I'm with and not just the movie I'll be going. Personally I am a flexible person to be with. But when it comes to the little things; I believe that you can compromise at least every now and then. I am not saying that you have to count how many times you gave in. But I think that if a couple truly love each other then you'll give in to some of the things that mean so much to her and but she should do the same to you. For instance, when you want to go to a theatre so much more than a movie she wants; than it's her call to give in to you. That in my books, is love.
Consider this; even with your friends. Do they always go the places that only you want? Or you both give in at different times. You both must give in; otherwise you won't stay friends, right? If you don't care for the other human being; then you'll end up without a friend. So you must and you do care.
However, it is everything about how women have this innate drive and nature to try to 'change a man'. It's sort of hardwired in their 'makeover' gene, like when they get a room, they want to decorate and do a makeover. They try the same thing with their men.
I don't know what type of women you're meeting Arman jan; but this musn't be. If any woman tries to change a man, she will not have that man for long. Now I have seen some women do it very subtly and they succeed sometimes; but after a while when they start getting cocky then they lose. They think they can get away with everything but usually they cannot. I don't think any woman or any man should get into a relationship with the mindset of trying to change their lover/spouse.
They should get into a relationship with the mindset of a newly found love and putting out their heart rather than money, controlling or owning.
And from what I read here by you; you have a macho type characther and you probably are one. So my dear cyber friend don't settle for anything less. Just settle for real love and sweetness!!!!