So to think of it, I am not surprised why so many black women are bitter and why they are so rude to their white sisters.
Do you consider her getting mad for touching her hair rude? Many ppl don't like their hair being touch, especially a sista.
There's a lot you said in your post and alot said in this topic. So i'm not sure how to advance on it. I'd just say if ppl are more aware of others, and willing to deal with each other person to person, a lot of this could be allieviated. We all have ideas, judgements against one another. You may think black women are at the bottom, and they may think the same of you as being a percieved 'foreigner' its all perspective. Sistas hate me for being with a 'white' girl(barskahye) and some armos look at me for being with one of their achchigs, so it's all about perception, tolerance and overall knowledge and sensitivity.
I think people of ethnic stock should respect each other more and try and be brothers/sisters, because it may be racist but in the end the jermadz idiots in power see us all the same.