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[ExtraHye]

Which from the two is more emotionally rewarding; loving or being loved by someone, and why...

Edited by ExtraHye, 14 January 2004 - 03:14 PM.

[Sasun]

Extra jan, I always expect you to put such questions, nobody else can do it like you do
My answer is "loving". Sorry can't answer "why", that's probably personal preference, its just the way people can be. There are selfish people out there who need to be loved and pleased all the time but don't feel they have to reciprocate, again could be a personal choice.

[ED]

Which from the two is more emotionally rewording; loving or being loved by someone, and why... 

Extra jan there is an old song by nat King Cole called NATURE BOY

and in it some of the lyrics are like this


The greatest thing you'll ever learn
Is just to love and be loved in return"



check out the song I'm prety sure you'll like it

cheers

Edited by Edward, 13 January 2004 - 01:11 PM.

[Davo0074_NL]

Ofcourse being loved is emotionally more rewarding because in case you LOVE someone and this person doesn`t love you back this can hurt very bad.

[ExtraHye]

Extra jan, I always expect you to put such questions, nobody else can do it like you do

Thanks Sasun jan...

My answer is "loving". Sorry can't answer "why", that's probably personal preference, its just the way people can be. There are selfish people out there who need to be loved and pleased all the time but don't feel they have to reciprocate, again could be a personal choice.

I agree with you, but some people don't like to be loved. I was talking to my friend about relationships last night. She stated how much it turned her off when a guy fell in love with her. That she always broke off the relationshiop as soon as the guy showed her some attantion. Now my question is, how rewarding could loving someone be if they're going to end up leaving you.

Edited by ExtraHye, 14 January 2004 - 03:15 PM.

[ExtraHye]

Ofcourse being loved is emotionally more rewarding because in case you LOVE someone and this person doesn`t love you back this can hurt very bad.

But how would you feel if the feeling wasn't mutual?

[ExtraHye]

Extra jan there is an old song by nat King Cole called NATURE BOY

Thanks Edward jan, I'll check it out.

[Maral]

They both sound life affirming to me...and both have their benefits....but being loved seems to be more enjoyable but if you don't love that person back,well that doesn't sound so enjoyable anymore...
And loving is a fabulous gift given to us...but if that person doesnt' love us back,that no fun either....
Tough question....
Can't you ask easier questions to make life easier on us???
Ok I decided we should love and be loved ,how's that???

[Stormig]

She stated how much it turned her off when a guy fell in love with her. That she always broke off the relationshiop as soon as the guy showed her some attantion.

[Maral]

Vay Edward jan,our age is showing

Nature Boy
(eden ahbez)

There was a boy...
A very strange enchanted boy.
They say he wandered very far, very far
Over land and sea
A little shy and sad of eye
But very wise was he.

And then one day,
One magic day he passed my way.
And while we spoke of many things ,
Fools and kings,
This he said to me,

"The greatest thing you'll ever learn
Is just to love and be loved in return."

~interlude~

"The greatest thing you'll ever learn
Is just to love and be loved in return."

[THOTH]

Ofcourse being loved is emotionally more rewarding because in case you LOVE someone and this person doesn`t love you back this can hurt very bad.

the first and only thing that you have ever said that i would agree with...

[sev-mard]

Loving someone else is hands down more rewarding. It's a complete feeling of emtional nakedness and vulnerablilty. People can "love" you for all kinds of different reasons, or actual not even truly love you, but be deluded. When you love someone else, regardless of how they feel(hopefully they love you back ) it is deep and moving emotion.

[THOTH]

Loving someone else is hands down more rewarding. It's a complete feeling of emtional nakedness and vulnerablilty. People can "love" you for all kinds of different reasons, or actual not even truly love you, but be deluded. When you love someone else, regardless of how they feel(hopefully they love you back ) it is deep and moving emotion.

Yeah Sev Marde...I can fully agree here as well...but unfourtunatly it can only go for so long...and once one realises they love isn't returned..well...then in some was nothing can be worse...

[angel4hope]

heyyy maral you stole my favorite quote rom my favorite movie... lol im just messing with ou guys...really bored here at class...decided to post something.. hehe

[sev-mard]

Yeah Sev Marde...I can fully agree here as well...but unfourtunatly it can only go for so long...and once one realises they love isn't returned..well...then in some was nothing can be worse...

Well that's why i have the "Don't really love them till they love you" clause in my "Relationship Contract". Everybody should have one. j/k

[Sip]

Since I personally can't define love, I ran to the dictionary as usual ...

love: A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.

Sounds to me like the keywords come at the end ... a sense of underlying oneness. If there is no real underlying oneness, in other words, if the love is one directional (either loving or being loved) then there can't be much emotional rewards. For "loving" to be emotionally rewarding, I think it has to be bi-directional. The loving and the being loved have to both be there ... otherwise things won't be right and there won't be that many rewards.

... so I'll have to agree with the others who have pretty much said the same thing here.

[ExtraHye]

Thanks for posting the definition of love for us Sip. Your right, it's a lot more rewarding if the feeling is mutual. But life doesn't work that way, it's not that simple. This may sound negative, but one shouldn't be vulnerable to such feelings. That's why I never give my all to any guy, becuase I know it's going to end up with pain in the future.

Edited by ExtraHye, 14 January 2004 - 05:34 PM.

[nairi]

I agree with you, but some people don't like to be loved. I was talking to my friend about relationships last night. She stated how much it turned her off when a guy fell in love with her. That she always broke off the relationshiop as soon as the guy showed her some attantion.

I totally understand this position, but potentially for different reasons. I'm a very possessive person and fear abandonment the most. When I find out a guy (that I like) likes me, I'll do anything, often unconsciously or subconsciouly, to turn him off. It's my self-defense against getting hurt and hurting. That's why I'll probably never be able to start a serious relationship again...

[sev-mard]

That's why I never give my all to any guy, becuase I know it's going to end up with pain in the future.

Whoa...you sound tougher and more cynical than I do!?

I got done dirty, what's your excuse?

[ExtraHye]

Whoa...you sound tougher and more cynical than I do!?

I'm not so though or cynical Sev-Mard jan... It's just how I feel about love. This goes for both males and females. Love is something that takes time.

I got done dirty, what's your excuse? 

I've never experiance love... But seen how hard it was for my friends who had broken hearts from difficult brake ups.

Edited by ExtraHye, 13 January 2004 - 05:07 PM.